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Why won’t my boyfriend go down on me?

i was trying to edit my reply to your post cos i'd missed the "h" out of laughing, but i ended up posting the same reply with the word laughing corrected. please excuse my uselessness.
 
garym said:
i was trying to edit my reply to your post cos i'd missed the "h" out of laughing, but i ended up posting the same reply with the word laughing corrected. please excuse my uselessness.
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That's ok, being useless is a prerequisite here. Next time, just put 'laffin" - it's easier..
 
Madameunicorn, other posts have nailed it, your "guy" obviously doesn't like to lick a pussy. my personal opinion is that he's a bit selfish if you don't mind sucking his dick, then he shouldn't mind licking your pussy. it seems like it's a big part of sex for you, that he feast's on your clit, so i would concur with the others who said talk about it with him, tell him that it feels like he aint being fair to you, that if you're prepaired to suck his dick, then why doesn't he wanna lick ya clit. i love to have a pussy in my face, it shows a fair amount of intamacy that a woman lets a man do that, plus as long as it don't stink, and i mean it would have to be diseased to put me off, then i like the smell and taste of a pussy. it also turns me on to feel a woman writhing about cos i'm licking her clit. makes me want to make her squirt in my face. damn, it's making me horny just thinking about it. anyway, if you do talk to him and he doesn't take your feelings into account on this, then it's fuck him off !
 
I'm going against the grain here but it seems like a cleanliness issue. Some guys (gay or straight) don't mind going down if it's day old body smell down there but 9/10 I won't be into it. I especially won't go down on an uncut guy who hasn't cleaned recently.

This whole idea being pushed that he's gay or you're incompatible is so harsh. Most guys who love going down no matter what have done it for a long time and have a strong association to it being pleasurable. Same with guys who eat ass. I find ass eating disgusting and I don't give or receive it, since I know the scientific/medical realities of what's on that ass. Maybe he hasn't built the association, maybe he's just not into it, or maybe you do smell. It doesn't matter that vag is self-cleaning... maybe your vag is gross to him. Every woman and man has a unique smell based on their health and sometimes that smell isn't good.

Maybe we should stop theorizing about what HIS problem is and you should just take responsibility for your sexual needs and end the relationship. You don't need to analyze him to know what YOU want, and you can get what you want from someone else.
 
Yeh, so a stale pissy vag is a little offputting i must admit. But after the first couple of licks it's nice and clean again. Then it's time for serious noshin'...
 
the only time i couldn't like a pussy is if a gal's on her period. now THAT would put me off.
 
that was meant to say lick not like. mind you, i wouldn't like to lick a pussy when a gal's on the flow.
 
i didn't mind shagging me ex when she was "on", but i couldn't of licked her clit. that's got to be the line in the sand i think. otherwise, eat that hole !
 
So...no red wings for you!

I don't understand how anyone would want to go down on a girl during her period, unless he's a vampire.
 
Sounds like excuses to me (on his part). Yes, I would PREFER, most times, that my wife be clean, shaven, smooth, fresh, all that....but there's also a certain element to going down on her while she's unkempt, sweaty, and raw.. It proves a trust between us, she knows she's not being judged and that she can completely relax and be free. I'm enjoying her body exactly as it is in that moment, no expectations, and just reveling in the fact this person right here is my soul mate and anything that comes from her is pure, concentrated, unadulterated HER. There's also the spontaneous aspect of it, just letting her know that she doesn't NEED to prepare for us to have a special moment.

Sounds like he's insecure. Maybe he's afraid of not knowing what he's doing down there and is having performance anxiety. Here's my suggestion: Have a deep conversation with him (when he's comfortable and feeling open), and express to him how much you desire to have the bonding connection with him of having him know and understand your body, sharing something very intimate with him, and the careful details of what really does it for you, and that it's not just about "getting off". One thing my wife and I used to do, and actually did again recently after having NOT done this after 10+ years...masturbate in front of each other. Show your partner how YOU would do it, and take note of what each other does and how. Not only is it just good fun, but there's a lot to be learned.

Best of luck! You deserve to be satisfied. And let me tell you... The next day, I almost never remember how *I* came, but I most certainly obsessively think about how *she* came. It's more satisfying to go down on her and make her scream and writhe around and soak the sheets than it is for me to bust a nut, and I would say any real man will agree with me on that front. Her having an orgasm = The steak, the garlic mashed potatoes, the crab legs, and the slice of cake after. Me having an orgasm = The cherry on top the cake that we all knew would be there anyway.
 
MadameUnicorn123 said:
We’ve been dating for almost 2 years, and he’s gone down on me maybe 5 or 6 times. I enjoy giving oral so I go down on him quite often, and sometimes after sex he’ll rub my clit and finger me a little because I’m always wound up and ready to go even after we just had sex but like I can’t get off to the rubbing and fingering because I could just do that myself. He’s always said he’ll go down on me if I shower first, but even if I’ve had a shower like a couple hours before he won’t do it he says that theres sweat and it gets dirty but like if I just had a shower a couple hours ago and the only thing I’ve done is drive over to his house then I still don’t see how it would get sweaty and dirty in that small amount of time? I dont know how to bring this up to him but I feel like the oral is very one sided and I don’t want to ask him to do it just to be shot down and the times he has gone down on me he didn’t do it for long before just fingering me and like I said before that just doesn’t do it for me. So like what should I do?
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I wish i had advice for ya. However the last 5 weeks have been very lonely.... Yet we live together. No passionate kisses, no love making... I mean NO sex does not make a relationship, but as a woman i like to know that he still finds me attractive and i guess i just want to feel like i matter to him, i want him to love me as i love him. I know i cannot make him feel or do anything, so i need to walk away. Its so hard to do when my love for him is so strong.
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^ I'm sorry you're going through that. It sounds painful. You deserve to have someone who loves you in return just as much. I respect you walking away even though it's heartbreaking. Be good to yourself.
 
^ Omg, too funny!

I was just thinking how most women don't orgasm from penetration so it's actually necessary to have a guy who wants to go down on you. The only way I cum is usually from oral sex or if I play with myself during sex, but not penetration on its own.
 
CoastTwoCoast said:
So...no red wings for you!

I don't understand how anyone would want to go down on a girl during her period, unless he's a vampire.
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Are you aware of semen - it aint custard tbf - body fluids in general, need a bit of exposure therapy to get used to! ;)
 
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