This( as in
your sentence -not the video podcast - ugh)...don't forget finding 'it' can be both positive and negative - but focusing on the negative; engulfing every other aspect of the Self with it, is what made the addiction function - it's dealing with your shiitier aspects is the hardest - those factors you dont want to tolerate about yourself and hate - its a trial lol its a process; a LONG one but if you learn to basically accept - you'll be ok,other people; good (only - as in how you define your needs and ethics) people are the best medicine to deal with this - it's a necessity

*You know what pisses me off about J. Peterson is the fact that there are a million males out there as good; if not better than him but cant function because they dont have his background, pedestal, or ego - thats not to say he doesnt speak some truths but. Make your own - its fine to be inspired but walk your own walk; talk your own talk, as yourself; as you wish - if you recognise it on some guru;
it's in you anyway, you just dont pay enough attention to your good self - start, nourish it.