Haha, well as I said, to each their own.

No reason we've all got to react the same way. Though, I do think there's some precedent for this.... After all, this is from the TiHKAL page on 4-HO-DET:
(with 15 mg phosphate ester, orally) "It is meaningful to say that I ceased to exist, becoming immersed in the ground of Being, in Brahman, in God, in 'nothingness,' in Ultimate Reality, or in some similar religious symbol for oneness. The feelings I experienced could best be described as cosmic tenderness, infinite love, penetrating peace, eternal blessing and unconditional acceptance on one hand and, on the other, as unspeakable awe, overflowing joy, primeval humility, inexpressible gratitude and boundless devotion. Yet, all of these words are hopelessly inadequate and can do little more than meekly point toward the genuine, inexpressible feelings actually experienced. It is misleading even to use the words, 'I experienced,' as during the peak of the experience (which must have lasted at least an hour) there was no duality between myself and what I experienced. Rather, I was these feelings, or ceased to be in them and felt no loss at the cessation. Four days after the experience itself, I continue to feel a deep sense of awe and reverence, and am simultaneously intoxicated with an ecstatic joy. This euphoric feeling is in no sense analogous to hebephrenic giddiness; it includes elements of profound peace and steadfastness, surging like a spring from a depth of my being which has rarely, if ever, been tapped prior to the drug experience."
Also, since it's such a relevant coincidence, I will say that I also recently recommended 4-AcO-DET to TheAppleCore specifically on the basis of its significant similarity of the readily available 4-substituted tryptamines to 4-AcO-DMT, and
I happen to know that he had a meaningful and deep experience just yesterday, while remaining lucid enough to carry on an intellectual conversation. Seems like a good one to me.
Well, I won't promise anything since there does seem to be a conflict of opinions, but it's definitely one that would work for me in that way, so I hope it will for you too.
For me, 4-AcO-DMT appears to be the least potent of the 4-substituted tryptamines with smaller alkyl tails. I've had experiences on 4-AcO-DET that were nearly twice as strong at barely over half the dosage. It does seem like a lot of people get further on less 4-AcO-DMT.... Since it's more relevant to your personal experience and seems to be a bit more common of a response for me, I'll say that 4-HO-MET is only a little more potent than 4-AcO-DET for me; despite them being qualitatively different experiences, quantitatively speaking I would expect relatively similar overall intensity from the same amount of either, with 4-HO-MET being more in your face but
4-AcO-DET being deeper.