No harm in just growing a fucking beard and having the option to shave / have baby face, or don't and look a bit rougher.
Didn't mean to piss you off. Thanks and good luck to you too.
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Almost 23 and have never gotten laid
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Didn't mean to piss you off. Thanks and good luck to you too.
No reason to grow a fake as shit beard either. Get over it. You don't need it.
Don't mean to piss you off or anything.
Dude humans adapt to faces and appearances , just like people living in pleasant smelling places get used to it, outer beauty is the same, you can consider it a drug that you adapt to, inner beauty is what shines, my two cents. That being said , you are not 'ugly' . Neither are you a pseudo fitness model ,
Love yourself first before expecting anyone else to love you.
Do good and give , volunteer and do something you love
try to do things that make you proud and you will shine bright to like souled people .
It comes when you never expect when it's real
peace
Love yourself first before expecting anyone else to love you.
Do good and give , volunteer and do something you love
try to do things that make you proud and you will shine bright to like souled people .
It comes when you never expect when it's real
peace
Jr6654, how are you doing?
I hope you'll find the courage and self esteem to approach girls and get lucky.
Or then you can just keep writing to BL and wait that a hot girl ask you to marry her.
And before you end up saying that doesn't happen it does actually happen
http://www.bluelight.org/vb/threads/800540-Road-to-Recovery?p=13993365#post13993365
I hope you'll find the courage and self esteem to approach girls and get lucky.
Or then you can just keep writing to BL and wait that a hot girl ask you to marry her.
And before you end up saying that doesn't happen it does actually happen
http://www.bluelight.org/vb/threads/800540-Road-to-Recovery?p=13993365#post13993365
lol^
Sounds like you need to get into discovering who you are more....then that will naturally attract a woman...
Get into a group that meets up to go hiking, disc golfing, live music....idk...whatever you're into....Doesn't cost a thing...This is how you'll meet someone with a similar interest, anyway, irl.
Might've already been posted, didn't read this entire thing...you will probably get a lot out of it for yourself too, and you never can tell what's going to happen when you put yourself out there. You're not a bad looking guy. You seem to think so though, and that can translate into uncalled for vibes when communicating. Focus on building your self-confidence, imo.
Sounds like you need to get into discovering who you are more....then that will naturally attract a woman...
Get into a group that meets up to go hiking, disc golfing, live music....idk...whatever you're into....Doesn't cost a thing...This is how you'll meet someone with a similar interest, anyway, irl.
Might've already been posted, didn't read this entire thing...you will probably get a lot out of it for yourself too, and you never can tell what's going to happen when you put yourself out there. You're not a bad looking guy. You seem to think so though, and that can translate into uncalled for vibes when communicating. Focus on building your self-confidence, imo.
I actually just got laid. Here's how it happened.
I put up a post on Whisper app about being a virgin guy who was almost 23 years old and looking for someone to help me out. A 24 year old girl responded, we shot some pics back and forth, and she came over and we did stuff for almost 4 hours.
Her story is that she has a boyfriend but is in an open relationship. She'd been with 11 guys not including me. Very nice, laid back, and pretty down to earth. Not the best looking but neither am I. We did a massive amount of cuddling and kissing, I learned pretty quickly how to use my fingers and lips and from what she told me I am a natural. She said I was by far from her worst lol.
The only wrench in the works was that I didn't get hard enough to cum or even get inside her. She felt my chest and said my heart was beating really fast and she said it was nerves and that that is common in first time guys. I got her off 4 times and she showed me a few tips and tricks.
What was best was that she was nice and willing to talk. It was both not what I expected and infinitely better than I expected, it became clear to me how much of a sense of closeness there is with a person, how it is gratifying but how there is also that little vacant spot that is best formed when true love is also there.
She said I was sexy, cute, among other adjectives. Actually didn't believe I was a virgin. In any event, yay, it happened, now there's no reason to lack confidence and I should go out there, do what I have to do, and find someone I am also in love with. It might be a couple more encounters away but I have no intention of becoming promiscuous. And I don't think what I just did makes me a bad person despite Catholicism saying I am damned to hell.
I put up a post on Whisper app about being a virgin guy who was almost 23 years old and looking for someone to help me out. A 24 year old girl responded, we shot some pics back and forth, and she came over and we did stuff for almost 4 hours.
Her story is that she has a boyfriend but is in an open relationship. She'd been with 11 guys not including me. Very nice, laid back, and pretty down to earth. Not the best looking but neither am I. We did a massive amount of cuddling and kissing, I learned pretty quickly how to use my fingers and lips and from what she told me I am a natural. She said I was by far from her worst lol.
The only wrench in the works was that I didn't get hard enough to cum or even get inside her. She felt my chest and said my heart was beating really fast and she said it was nerves and that that is common in first time guys. I got her off 4 times and she showed me a few tips and tricks.
What was best was that she was nice and willing to talk. It was both not what I expected and infinitely better than I expected, it became clear to me how much of a sense of closeness there is with a person, how it is gratifying but how there is also that little vacant spot that is best formed when true love is also there.
She said I was sexy, cute, among other adjectives. Actually didn't believe I was a virgin. In any event, yay, it happened, now there's no reason to lack confidence and I should go out there, do what I have to do, and find someone I am also in love with. It might be a couple more encounters away but I have no intention of becoming promiscuous. And I don't think what I just did makes me a bad person despite Catholicism saying I am damned to hell.
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Glad that it worked out and you got rid something you thought being such a burden.
Remember that only you define what is right and in my opinion you did it exactly in a good way so it won't become even more bigger burden.
And there is nothing wrong with open relationships as there not such a thing as a standard relationship or atleast there shouldn't as it is in my opinion that every relationship should be formed according to the views of the participants.
I guess it was worth waiting for you as you definately had a lot better first time than what I did
Remember that only you define what is right and in my opinion you did it exactly in a good way so it won't become even more bigger burden.
And there is nothing wrong with open relationships as there not such a thing as a standard relationship or atleast there shouldn't as it is in my opinion that every relationship should be formed according to the views of the participants.
I guess it was worth waiting for you as you definately had a lot better first time than what I did
lol what was yours likeGlad that it worked out and you got rid something you thought being such a burden.
Remember that only you define what is right and in my opinion you did it exactly in a good way so it won't become even more bigger burden.
And there is nothing wrong with open relationships as there not such a thing as a standard relationship or atleast there shouldn't as it is in my opinion that every relationship should be formed according to the views of the participants.
I guess it was worth waiting for you as you definately had a lot better first time than what I did
She actually has severe depression and says sex helps her feel less alone. So in a way, I believe this is positive energy
Durzo1258
Bluelighter
Should have toked up a little before to take the edge off the stress. Well done nonetheless, now go be a Casanova.
Thanks, we are going to once more before she moves out of town so i may have an opportunity to toke beforehand haha.
yeah she said i was far from her worst and again, a natural. I regret nothing. It was time and i am a lot more clearheaded now
Basically it happened while we both were wasted on booze for our first times.
We even had just met during that night and after some events ended up in the bed of hers and she just straight out of nowhere asked if I would want to fuck her and I managed to reply positively and even offered to do some foreplay which she countered by saying that she is already wet enough.
Well after trying to get it in the other hole first she guided me in and it was all over with a few thrusts and decided to try it again after I could get it up again but instead we ended up passing out in the bed
Atleast the next day we spend most of the day doing it and I managed to actually learn something out of that experience.
We even had just met during that night and after some events ended up in the bed of hers and she just straight out of nowhere asked if I would want to fuck her and I managed to reply positively and even offered to do some foreplay which she countered by saying that she is already wet enough.
Well after trying to get it in the other hole first she guided me in and it was all over with a few thrusts and decided to try it again after I could get it up again but instead we ended up passing out in the bed
Atleast the next day we spend most of the day doing it and I managed to actually learn something out of that experience.
how old were you?Basically it happened while we both were wasted on booze for our first times.
We even had just met during that night and after some events ended up in the bed of hers and she just straight out of nowhere asked if I would want to fuck her and I managed to reply positively and even offered to do some foreplay which she countered by saying that she is already wet enough.
Well after trying to get it in the other hole first she guided me in and it was all over with a few thrusts and decided to try it again after I could get it up again but instead we ended up passing out in the bed
Atleast the next day we spend most of the day doing it and I managed to actually learn something out of that experience.
Cdkman
Bluelighter
U just gotta get the virgin thing off your mind..I'm sure u thinking god I gotta get laid for the first time when u are talking to a woman is turning her off..most women can feel vibes ..the women that I have slept with as a less than attractive guy was all because I'm comfortable with myself and when a woman is with me I'm interested to get to know her,not bang her the first night..make them feel safe and sexy and u will be fine.
ordinary mind
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Nice one man, hopefully that'll perk your confidence up a bit now. And there you go, FUBAR was right.... being open and honest about the virgin thing actually worked in your favour.
Cdkman
Bluelighter
it really has amazed me..most of my friends are great looking and they chase all these woman with no luck but il have woman calling me to do something..people say the friend zone is bad but I'm batting about 500 in fuckin my female friends and dated a few after..u just gotta meet woman that like u for u either dating or friend
but then u will have haters.."there's no way that hot ass chick is with that dude" il hear in the background then il slap her ass turn around and smile..i can't say looks has nothing to do with it I'm not a huntch back or anything but that old song is true..girls just wanna have fun
if u do find a girl to sleep with the first time and u think u have true feelings..TELL HER u are a virgin..I'm telling u it will turn u being bad and awkward the first time into being innocent and she can teach u.and don't be afraid to laugh at yourself if u do something foolish..laughing about it besides getting nervous will help the mood..
of of course everyone has some bad experiences so don't get down if it doesn't go the way U planned,it doesn't mean she didn't enjoy herself.the woman I've met are in it for the emotional experience and the physical pleasure not to sleep with the guy that has slept with the most woman
and most of all your only almost 23, relax
but then u will have haters.."there's no way that hot ass chick is with that dude" il hear in the background then il slap her ass turn around and smile..i can't say looks has nothing to do with it I'm not a huntch back or anything but that old song is true..girls just wanna have fun
if u do find a girl to sleep with the first time and u think u have true feelings..TELL HER u are a virgin..I'm telling u it will turn u being bad and awkward the first time into being innocent and she can teach u.and don't be afraid to laugh at yourself if u do something foolish..laughing about it besides getting nervous will help the mood..
of of course everyone has some bad experiences so don't get down if it doesn't go the way U planned,it doesn't mean she didn't enjoy herself.the woman I've met are in it for the emotional experience and the physical pleasure not to sleep with the guy that has slept with the most woman
and most of all your only almost 23, relax
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starting_over
Bluelighter
Good job OP you actually followed through
When I saw this thread hit 11 pages I rolled my eyes and thought this is just gonna be an endless stream of excuses
Seriously, well done. I've read so many of these threads on different forums and seen the guy eventually get ridiculed for not taking advice, not getting out there, etc.
Now take this success and apply the same general principle towards other things in your life
Also you could ask your doctor for Viagra if performance anxiety continues to be a thing -- it helps develop confidence. After a period of time, one no longer needs to use it.
When I saw this thread hit 11 pages I rolled my eyes and thought this is just gonna be an endless stream of excuses
Seriously, well done. I've read so many of these threads on different forums and seen the guy eventually get ridiculed for not taking advice, not getting out there, etc.
Now take this success and apply the same general principle towards other things in your life
Also you could ask your doctor for Viagra if performance anxiety continues to be a thing -- it helps develop confidence. After a period of time, one no longer needs to use it.
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Nah fuck that, he's 23 for gods sake.. he doesn't need a crutch for his crotch.
OP don't make a big deal out of being a bit nervous. At your age all you need to do is not bust a nut for 1 week and you'll be able to cut diamond when a girl spreads her legs in front of you.
Durzo1258
Bluelighter
For about 2 minutes before he blows his wad.
Well he might not be like that, it's not a universal given about young men. I certainly had no issue with premature ejaculation or getting hard. Hell, I'd get hard just from the thought of kissing the woman but it still took work to bop the bishop into submission. Anyway, my point is I don't think he should even feel the need to rely on a substance to help his performance, and if absolutely necessary there's so many natural alternatives anyway. I tried horny goat weed in the past and that was more than enough!
Glad to see your success...Still stand by what I said for being in a place to maintain a real relationship and meeting someone that's more than just a hook-up