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Shit, Herby, I'm so sorry to hear about your cat. :( They are such dear animals. I hope you're okay...

My cat extends her love <3

CoastTwoCoast said:
I don't even remember seeing the pizza delivery guy last night...or finishing that pizza or whatever else I did. I must've been completely wasted on wine alone. Embarrassing. Can I die of shame already?
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I guess you've never read this particular thread then?
 
herbavore said:
sad.

My oldest cat died while I was on vacation with my family. It was a hard choice to leave. My husband stayed behind so that I could spend time with my elderly mom and I knew my cat might not make it until I got back, and she didn't. It was so hard to come home to her absence last night. My remaining cat is a former feral and has never been incredibly bonded with us humans. She is sitting by me right now but she will never be a cat you can cuddle with or that will allow you to hold her at all. I appreciate who she is but now that she is my only cat I feel a real loss of affection because both of my older cats have passed on.
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I'm very sorry for your loss.
I love my cat more than most ppl, he is a feral that after 10 years has become a baby, he didn't like to be touched let alone held and just became a sweetheart in his old age.
In time take a look at the shelters and see what they have to offer.
 
CoastTwoCoast said:
I don't even remember seeing the pizza delivery guy last night...or finishing that pizza or whatever else I did. I must've been completely wasted on wine alone. Embarrassing. Can I die of shame already?
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What is wrong CTC?
 
DixiChik said:
I will say this...Say whatever you need to say to your parents before they're gone. If you can't say it, write it. Find a way to make some kind of peace, even if it is to accept that "peace will not come".
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That is very wise indeed. Forgiving your parents for their very human flaws is one of the best paths to your own self acceptance.

@DavidWooderson: thank you. I kind of expect that as she becomes the only cat and also ages she too will get more affectionate. I think that once she is gone (and that could be years from now) I'll start adopting the very old cats that come through the shelter. It makes sense when you get old to do that because the worst is dying before your pet, leaving them vulnerable to who knows what end. My sister is a cat specialist veterinarian and she has taken in so many older cats whose aged owners have died. The families never want them and ask her to euthanize the cats as if they are old clothes that need to go to the Goodwill store. She will never do that so she takes them and tries to find them homes but that usually proves impossible due to their age alone--everyone wants a kitten!

@D's: Stay warm! You sound really happy in your life right now and I could not be happier for you.

@Erikmen: Sometimes there is a grace that descends on people whose lives are drawing to a close and they risk showing emotion in a way they never has. I hope that your Dad can experience that. It is such a curious war that some people fight with themselves throughout their lives to guard the castle of the heart as if it were always under siege. For the most part they are fighting the imaginary enemies of the mind. So many men were raised to think they have to do this or they will not be men but I have seen the nearness of death break through those thick walls as if they are a cardboard stage set. It happened with my Dad and so much healing took place.
 
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I love you guys. I really do. You've been there when no one else has. This is an amazing community. Seriously. You all make me want to get my shit together, for the compassion you show. Please continue to stay strong!
 
It's a great community, no doubts. Have changed my life because of people like herbavore. ;)

Yes, herbavore, there's grace. I hope we'll 'get there' on time. Start to realize how much that my Dad any I may have more in common than I'd ever expected. Thank you for sharing.

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^Why's that?

ShroomySatori said:
suicidal
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Stay with us mate. I feel suicidal quite often but it passes. I think your feelings will too. Just wait it out or distract yourself. <3

Today I'm hot and slightly overwhelmed. I am helping my girlfriend prepare her property for incoming tenants and its hard fucking work. I thought I liked gardening. :\
 
nervous as fuck.

woke up at 2:00 a.m. feeling like puking. thoughts racing. didn't get back to sleep.

not sure why. I'm in early recovery (6 weeks in) from a dope habit, so sometimes my brain seems to short-circuit. it's not a huge deal. but still unpleasant.
 
Hope everyone is doing well! Simco - I'm sorry you're having a rough day today - that's tough. Try to stay strong - fortunately it does get better and those sleepless nights will get fewer and farther between.
 
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