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Captain.Heroin said:
I just can't stand being myself half the time.

Frustrated with lots of shit. Stressed out.
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I'm sorry to hear that. You're an extraordinary person, I wish you could see that. If it's possible, take a break and clear your mind of the stuff that's frustrating you for an hour or so. Focus on something you enjoy, that's totally unrelated. Frustration is usually accompanied by anxiety, so take break and do something mindless and relaxing. Force yourself to think about anything other than what's stressing and frustrating you. Take a shower, go for a walk and listen to music, masterbate, anything that takes you away from the stress.

Then when you get back to the stress, try to look at it objectively. If it's within your control, create a plan - physically write the steps down, and focus one each step singularly as you do them, and then check them off as they're completed. If you have multiple stressors, deal with them one at a time. Prioritize them, and devise a plan for each one.

If it's stress that's out of your control stop yourself from thinking about it as it enters your head. This takes practice to do, but you can teach yourself to shut that stuff out.

As for learning to live with yourself - think explicitly what you don't like and how you would rather be. Again, create an action plan and work on it. If it's several things, just take it one at a time.

With everything, be patient and know that it may take a while, but with consistent effort change can happen, it may just take time. Accept that it will take time, and be mindful of the process and progression. Reflect on where you've been and how you've gotten to where you are now.

Go easy on yourself - you've come a long way. Don't take that for granted. I hope you feel better!
 
Yeah CH message me. I would love to talk to you. Im by myself all the time. I live with people but i isolate up in mybloft. Im fucking lonley so much. I have friends and family but my soul is empty. So lets talk if you want to. Maybe we can help eachother bro
 
Sorry about my earlei post that made no sense. Im so embarrased. I was half asleep and dont even know what im trying to say. CH i hate being frustrated and its a state im constantly in. I just pray for a little break. I never get it. My whole living situation is frustration central. We havent had any running water in over 2 months. Its a nice house in a nice neiborhood but its old. One thing after another. I hate the way i feel like that too. I become bizzaro Mike. I get aggresive and worked up and my natural state is calm and relaxed. I know its tough bro and youre goinh thru a hard time. All we can do is the best with what we got. If you got shit right now just try to make best of it. Easier said than done, i know? What sabout your shatter? Not helping anymore. Youre in my thoughts my friend and sorry for no paragraphs. I forget a lot. I havent had and adderall in 3 days cause my shrink was sick Monday so im hrre now. Its amaazing the focus has dropped so much. People are beeping at me at lights cause im not paying attention, lol. So all will be well soon. Im now on 15 different medications so it always feels like im getting something filled. Most are cheap accept Adderall and pain meds. Well im rambling. Keep fighting the good fight Captain
 
Closeau, 15 different meds? And at some point I thought that my drug cabinet is becoming a branch of our local pharmacy but 15 is more than my grandma had. Must be a one tough task to keep them filled at right time.

CH, you should come here and have some duels with bokkens with me. I can use a padded one so you don't get too much hurt if a strike doesn't stop as it should :) Have you ever tried any martial arts? I find them very good for dealing with the frustration. Not just the matches itself but the rigorious training too does wonders for a frustrated mind.

On our dōjō we have had a lot of frustrated kids who had become much calmer after going to training for a while and we even have an agreement with cops that they'll introduce kids who are in trouble to us as they have seen it themselves that if one commits to any martial art he will be more likely to stay out of trouble during their teens. It is a bit harder for adults to get calm but I've seen many guys dealing with frustration and even anger issues calming down when they know they have a place where they can show some force. After they get used to that they'll start looking inside them and when that happens they start looking for inner peace instead of coming to show how strong they are.

Also sometimes it is quite humbling to get beaten by a guy who uses a cane to walk.
 
closeau said:
Yeah Mr Root, 15. Im picking up 3 right now
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This post is screwing up on me. Well see if this works. I just paid 63$ for 3 meds. 2 of them were controlled substances but dam. I have insurance too. My pain meds were 130$ a piece till i was able to get medicare D insurance now their 42$. Much better. I forgot my lithium this morning. Its hard keeping track of it for sure.
 
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