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In Nice, feeling the drift of summer romance in the air

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Ninae

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Might as well admit it. Been here for over a week now but it's been working it's magic on me (quite a strong effect on someone from the wintry parts of the world).

I just came here to do some work for two weeks but am finding myself...distracted...for want of a better word. The spectacular city unlike no other, the beautiful summery atmosphere...and you've got to hand it to the French...they are one of the most charming in the romancing department, certainly many much worse I can think of and one of the few who still take pride in romancing a lady.

So...as for my feelings...I wouldn't really use the word "horny" as my sexual attraction towards the opposite sex tends to be more emotional, or only that. I know, women are from Venus - but at least we are fair to make up for it :)
So what to do? Being of the sex that has it easier in the pick-up department doesn't really means you have it easy as a whole, maybe the contrary. A bit bit of an unusual predicament for me to find myself in, as I'm more of the Madonna- type, and have always liked it that way (I find it attracts higher-quality males and just can relate to them more).

Let's get into the practicalities of things. I'm leaving next weekend so it will have to be brief to say the least, which is already a minus in my book. Or the way I always prefer is slowly getting to know each other over some time, until the attraction or feelings gets too strong to resist, and preferably not just use and disposal (even if on the brief side). What comes most naturally to me is also establishing an emotional connection with a guy, or that happens more naturally, so guessing I attract more of my own kind, which makes sense.

It wouldn't exactly be a problem to set something up, all these summer nights are one big party, but I'm not wanting to pounce on any guy I come accross just for the sake of it, not to mention me being so seeeeecial, I wouldn't want to end up with someone who's unaware he's dealing with such precious cargo, although I find it hard to see how that could come about (just an example of my poor humour, just relax).

The crux of the matter, though, is finding someone I really want. I don't care for being wanted as much as I want to WANT someone, burning with passion, and adoration for the charms of the opposite sex. What I find really gratifying is someone who inspires those feelings in me. I have to say I get much more joy out of loving than being loved. Being loved and not loved in return isn't really worth that much. Of course, given the length of time at my disposal, it won't be the case of any great love story, just experiencing some of those feelings, and in someone who was just recently a stranger would be a thrill.

Then there's also the sexual compatibility factor. What if I end up with someone, whoever lovely, expects some kind of pornstar in bed? Because that's not really my thing. If it's the thing for you, thn that's great for you, but I'm really looking for some spiritual energy exchange/kundalini-raising bliss, and even, if possible, a heart-opening experience (I know it's rare, but i does occur. I've had the fortune to get to know some quite enlightened quys over these past years and know there is a lot of beauty to be found out there).

Or are my standards to high and I should just drop it? Then again, on the upside there's the potential of you getting to read a write-up of one of my most intimate experiences, which I'm quessing some of might find a bit of a thrill.

So is it setting my hair up in fair waves, shimmering blue eye shadow, natural pink lipstick, an angelic lacy white dress, with some white pearls to go with it? Before I get up to go out and do some mingling?

(Hope this doesn't sound too slutty, it will take me a few days to build up courage, anyway, and unless I find someone that really clicks that's out)

There's just a part of me that wants to rebel against the notion that a woman going out for casual sex, even if, shock horror, it might be premeditated, means you're a whore and it can't just be a way to connect with someone who's truly special to you in a really loving way.

(By the way, I know there's a certain kind of man that will resent this outlook, and not for the reasons I brought up, but we are all free to be as we are, and I feel no desire to argue with them).


So let me have it, guess
(trembling in my ballet slippers)
 
Might as well admit it. Been here for over a week now but it's been working it's magic on me (quite a strong effect on someone from the wintry parts of the world).

I just came here to do some work for two weeks but am finding myself...distracted...for want of a better word. The spectacular city unlike no other, the beautiful summery atmosphere...and you've got to hand it to the French...they are one of the most charming in the romancing department, certainly many much worse I can think of and one of the few who still take pride in romancing a lady.

So...as for my feelings...I wouldn't really use the word "horny" as my sexual attraction towards the opposite sex tends to be more emotional, or only that. I know, women are from Venus - but at least we are fair to make up for it :)

So what to do? Being of the sex that has it easier in the pick-up department doesn't really means you have it easy as a whole, maybe the contrary. A bit bit of an unusual predicament for me to find myself in, as I'm more of the Madonna- type, and have always liked it that way (I find it attracts higher-quality males and just can relate to them more).

Let's get into the practicalities of things. I'm leaving next weekend so it will have to be brief to say the least, which is already a minus in my book. Or the way I always prefer is slowly getting to know each other over some time, until the attraction or feelings gets too strong to resist, and preferably not just use and dispose (even if on the brief side). What comes most naturally to me is also establishing an emotional connection with a guy, or that happens more naturally, so guessing I attract more of my own kind, which makes sense.

It wouldn't exactly be a problem to set something up, all these summer nights are one big party, but I'm not wanting to pounce on any guy I come accross just for the sake of it, not to mention me being so speeeeecial, I wouldn't want to end up with someone unaware he's dealing with such precious cargo (just an example of my poor humour).

The crux of the matter, though, is finding someone I really want. I don't care for being wanted as much as I want to WANT someone, burning with passion, filled to the brim with adoration for the charms of the opposite sex. What I find really gratifying is someone who inspires those feelings in me. I have to say I get much more joy out of loving than being loved. Being loved and not loved in return isn't really worth that much. Of course, given the length of time at my disposal, it won't be a case of the love story os the millenium, but just experiencing some of those feelings, and in someone who was just recently just a stranger, would be a thrill.

Then there's also the sexual compatibility factor. What if I end up with someone, whoever lovely, expects some kind of pornstar in bed? Because that's not really my thing. If it's the thing for you, then great for you, but I'm really looking more for some spiritual energy exchange/kundalini-raising bliss, and even, if possible, a heart-awakening experience (I know it's rare, but it does occur. I've had the fortune to get to know some quite enlightened quys over these past few years, and know there is a lot of beauty to be found out there).

Or are my standards too high and I should just drop it? Then again, on the upside, I guess, there's the potential of you getting to read a write-up of one of my most intimate experiences, which I'm quessing some might find a bit of a thrill. So is it setting my hair up in fair waves, shimmering light-blue eye shadow, natural pink lipstick, and an angelic lacy white dress, with some white pearls to compliment it?

Before I get up to go out to do some mingling? Hope this doesn't sound too slutty, it will take me a few days to build up courage, anyway, and unless I find someone that really clicks that's out.

There's just a part of me that wants to rebel against the notion that a woman going out for casual sex, even if, shock horror, it might be premeditated, means you're a whore and it can't just be a way of connecting in a really loving way with someone who's truly special to you and give you a memory for life?

(By the way, I know there's a certain kind of man that will resent this outlook, and not for the reasons I brought up, but we are all free to be as we are, and I feel no desire to argue with them).


So let me have it, guess
 
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Thanks, but that's not really how I like connecting with a guy. I guess romance is dead.
 
Are you into yoga guys, though?

I'm sure you could meet your match in a yoga class there, if you were to attend and started a conversation with a straight guy there.
 
Depending on how airy-fairy you are, you could see how well your "ommmm" mantra resonates with another male in the class?
 
Too out there even for me. Doesn't do much compared to the vital points of attraction. And resonance is immediately obvious, anyway, but that's actually an interesting idea.

What I like is when a guy kind of takes you on a journey in an unintentional kind of way. You know, the kind of thing that happens from word to word, action to action. Especially when it goes kind of against his will or wasn't anything what he had planned in the first place.

(Or feminine power)
 
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Mmmm.

Sounds like you are into strong, resilient, adventurous types who are down to Earth, but not afraid to go out of their comfort zone, seeking out peace through nature and the world around you ... A guy who can solve problems, rather than make them or dwell on them.

The adventurous, listening, inventive type who is happy to discuss anything and everything and would let you know what he is thinking of you - especially if he adores you from the get-go, right?

It's interesting that you seem to have an understanding or perceived ability to sense out resonance - perhaps a useful skill when looking for your soulmate or short-term love interest in France?
 
Ninae said:
Too out there even for me. Doesn't do much compared to the vital points of attraction. And resonance is immediately obvious, anyway, but that's actually an interesting idea.

What I like is when a guy kind of takes you on a journey in an unintentional kind of way. You know, the kind of thing that happens from word to word, action to action. Especially when it goes kind of against his will or wasn't anything what he had planned in the first place.

(Or feminine power)
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Are you into the kind of man who will take you into the mountains to live in a yurt, off the grid, living mostly off the land except for the monthly trip into the city for supplies? And spend your days writing poetry and talking spiritual topics? And who prefers a platonic relationship?
 
I think between you, you've got my bases half-covered :)

One thing that really turns me on is someone who can express themselves in both an intense emotional and a powerful intellectual way, or the literary type.

Like, for instance something like: "Reality lives, loves, laughs, cries, shouts, gets angry, bleeds, and dies, sometimes all in the same instant" is something that would get me quite stirred up. But I'm very verbal and respond to words strongly, used to win poetry competitions at school, so I guess it's just something inherent.
 
On a date, the girl and I spent part of the evening sketching and writing a poem. We had to write and draw with our left hands in blue ink because it was a dream and we are right-handed in waking life. It wasn't really a dream, but the poem and drawing were something we had seen in dreams and we were trying to reproduce them. The drawing was of people walking into the blue deep of a pass in the mountains in twilight. We connected over that.
 
Ninae said:
"Reality lives, loves, laughs, cries, shouts, gets angry, bleeds, and dies, sometimes all in the same instant"
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Reality does all of those things, through the vessels of our lives. Our inherent ability to temporally experience these states are what makes us human and thus fit for the purpose.

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On a date, the girl and I spent part of the evening sketching and writing a poem. We had to write and draw with our left hands in blue ink because it was a dream and we are right-handed in waking life. It wasn't really a dream, but the poem and drawing were something we had seen in dreams and we were trying to reproduce them. The drawing was of people walking into the blue deep of a pass in the mountains in twilight. We connected over that.
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A psychedelic experience would be one heck of a first date :)
 
I guess I'm all talk. I walk out of the hotel, and the first taxi driver I approach to ask for directions I feel an instant attraction to. Then after I made the effort to show him genuine gratitude after I thanked him his eyes lit up in that way a guy's can when he looks at you. But I was quick to get out of there.

Too tired for anything like that and not really the kind of context that works for me, however strong the attraction. I notice I tend to find taxi drivers attractive, too, they're often typical womaniser types. By the way, attractive taxi drivers appear to see more action than the average bordello.

Just some of the stories I've heard. Drunk girls with no shame at the end of the night, desperate old women throwing themselves. They must get pretty jaded, a boyfriend I had used to scold them out for it, but sure it's fun for some.
 
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Ur a half evolved monkey like the rest of us Ninae. sorry to tell u but ur not special and u dont resonate or reverberate or communicate or precipitate uniquely. if u want a dick just run and jump on one. if u want a man go and find a dick who is attached to a likeable person, become friends, and maybe that will turn into love. maybe. good luck.

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Sorry, that was rather rude and crude. But honestly, my point stands. Don't take things so seriously love. That's how you'll find what you want. But then again, you can't always get what you want. But if you try sometimes...YOU'LL GET WHAT YOU NEED! :)<3
 
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