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NacyDrew

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My husband was addicted to heroin - he claims to be clean I fear he isn't. I found what I beleive to be empty stamp bags. I'm not sure what to do. He recently wanted to start using kratom. He was also hospitalized for liver failure he's in his early 30's. Any help would be appreciated.
 
NacyDrew said:
My husband was addicted to heroin - he claims to be clean I fear he isn't. I found what I beleive to be empty stamp bags. I'm not sure what to do. He recently wanted to start using kratom. He was also hospitalized for liver failure he's in his early 30's. Any help would be appreciated.
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Hello, if you found some empty baggies then I feel you should approach him about it. If he is struggling then you will be the key to helping him. You are the most important person in his life and he will need your unconditional love, support and understanding. Just talk to him, ask him straight up in a calm, relaxed demeanor. If you can avoid being combative, degrading and accusatory. I know it's all easier said then done but you have to be in the drivers seat and get the first steps going towards his recovery. I cannot stress enough how important your role will be, I am an addict myself and only the love from my family has kept me going and gotten me on the right path with the desire to change, of course I have relapsed and screwed up, but my family never turned their back on me and no matter how bad I got they always showed me love and support even when I felt like I surely didn't deserve it. I wish you the best in this situation and only your love will be strong enough to overcome the addiction. Good luck and take care!
 
Also Kratom has worked wonders for Heroin/Opiate withdrawal. If he is using then definitely agree immediately to ordering some kratom. But be careful as kratom can be a blessing and a curse because it is addictive on its own. Just figure out a taper plan that is comfortable and go from there. You can find all the info you need here and on the internet.
 
the empty bags you found and the desire to use kratom suggest to me that he has a habit he's trying to cut himself away from (the kratom being to help combat any withdrawals). my suggestion would be to support him through clinical treatment of some type - the kratom/home remedy methods to quit require quite a bit of willpower to stick with.
 
I showed him the bags I found and of course he denied everything. I didn't loose it or get angry I begged him to trust me he didn't and wouldn't. I'm not sure what hurts more knowing he is using or the fact that I offered to help and not turn on him. He has cheated on me lied to me I'm heart broken. If we didn't have our daughter I would be out the door.
 
I've never used drugs so I can't understand why it could be more important than your children family or your own life. He has no idea the hurt he has put in my heart. I grew up with a mother who hated me and he has the greatest parents in the world. He's so lucky - to have so many people that love him and he's throwing it all away to be high.
 
Well it a ruff spot Nancy. The kratom would be a lot better than heroin and is legal in most states. As far as him being dishonest that's a tuff one if you already no I don't no why he would lie. I'm not defending him in anyway but addiction is horrible it takes control of every aspect of your life and becomes more important than anything. The worst thing is your aware that its number one over your loved ones and it makes you hate yourself well for me anyway n most I would imagine. So he might be lieing from shame and guilt just try give him another chance tell him you no and want to support his recovery if that's what you want. Sorry to hear about your trouble keep us updated and good luck. If he really wants quit tell him about blue light if he wants to try their is a lot of information on here and people to help him.
 
Thank you for the encouragement he still refuses to be honest - he and I both haven't had the most understanding partners in the past so I'm sure he may feel like I would try and use it against him. It's a hard place to be he's my husband and I love him. However I deserve the truth - At this point I'm not really sure what to do I'm so angry and heartbroken. Thank you for the advice hone you are well.
 
Hey I hope things will get better for you soon. Have you thought about talking to his family and asking for their assistance? Not saying an intervention but just maybe approach him that way? It seems like you are doing all you can and I wish we could do more for you here. Take care and good luck!
 
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