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Drugs vs. Sex vs. Love

AtomicChronic

AtomicChronic

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how does your drug use compare to your love life? do you feel that your DOC is more satisfying than sex? or feelings of emotional attachment? which do you find to be the most addicting? which causes you the most problems? feel free to elaborate and take the discussion further!

i just know that responses will be all over the map. sex addiction is clearly a thing, while others happily don't care for it. many drug addicts and even occasional ravers i know claim that their stimulant of choice is far better than sex, while some disagree. i also observe many of my friends' long-term relationships and notice a dependance and even withdrawal symptoms which seem comparable to moderate drug addicts. at the same time, i know of a few relationships that only revolve around drug use and addiction.

i have had issues with both benzos and cocaine before. discontinuing either drug felt AWFUL for a decent amount of time. but in retrospect, some break-ups have felt far worse, for far longer! Sex is the most addicting thing i think i have experienced. it definitely has the longest withdrawal period. (for most people, basically forever, haha :\ ).

as far as emotional affection goes, its something i've had a taste of, but i'm still young, in my first year of college and a little more experienced with casual sex. the emotional feelings I've had were powerful and definitely something i desired more than sex or any drug, however this could be out of curiosity. I myself am not sure what 'love' may refer to but interpret it as you will. many of my friends have never acknowledged feelings of affection and openly only care about sex.

To me, MDMA or LSD can EASILY feel better than sex, and they often do, yet i still find sex and relationships to be more powerful, addicting, and honestly more destructive. However, no anti-depressant seems to be nearly as effective as regular sex with a significant other. there is nothing that i crave more than an emotional relationship, yet out of the three, drugs are my favourite thing to do. i find this pretty interesting and counterintuitive.

Thoughts?
 
I value my emotional relationship with my girlfriend more then anything in life. I also believe that placing such a high value on it is not necessarily a good thing either because it means that we are so connected a lot of my day/life is based on her how shes feeling ect. Its made more complicated by her emotional issues and our heroin addiction. We have both sacrificed a lot for each other and our bond is very strong I know that I never need to worry about her cheating or doing anything to make me upset.

It is nice because when things are going well it is a high like any drug. Finally getting to see her after a day at work is great and I know that a love this strong is special. I would give up a lot before I would give up on her I would say most things. Also it should be noted that I am 27 we have been together for almost 5 years and this is in no way my first relationship or anything silly like that lol.
 
It's hard to say whether one is better than the other, but I know that when I use, I don't care about sex or love or socializing.
 
Drugs have definitely affected my love life. I have not had sober sex in months, I think. Most of the sex I have is when I'm high. I really don't care as much for my boyfriend when I'm sober and usually try to avoid sex.
 
Drugs vs. sex vs. love... This was quite interesting to think about!

I've experimented with my fair share of all 3, although the one that drove me to my darkest depression was love. I was a wreck for a whole year when my first relationship fell apart - she was a childhood friend I grew up with. Lately it's been a long drawn out case of unrequited love... Love is the most difficult out of the 3 to find. Sex is definitely easier - I'm happy with my sex life right now, and I'm not exactly the smoothest with women, but not too content with my love life.

Drugs are the easiest to get a hold of, and can temporarily feel better than sex or love. But you know that feeling can't last and is taking away from your health, whereas a loving relationship might be adding to your mental health for the long term. So I think it makes sense to mourn the loss of a lover the most.

Maybe someone with a true sex or drug addiction would feel differently; I've never been addicted to either.
 
First off, personally I think 'sex addiction' is complete crap...I dont think this is a 'real' thing at all, unfortunately, in our modern world, some people get convinced just because they like to have sex all the time, its some kind of addiction or disease LOL, I even think there was some dumb reality show recently about this, had a bunch of so called sex addicts, and they would sit there, tell their stories, some cried, It made me laugh, and seemed like a bunch of guys who wanted as many other people as possible to know they were having alot of sex and were acting like this was something bothering them LOL..get a fucking life!

When I was younger, I had a pretty good sex life, and really enjoyed dating, meeting new people, and up until I got into daily heroin use, I had a healthy love/ sex life, The most recent relationship I had which I consider one my best overall, was about 4 yrs ago, at the time I was 36, and met, started dating this 23 yr old girl, we got along great, and had alot of fun together, back then, we were mostly pill heads, using roxi 15s/ 30s, oxys, (opanas, when we could get them), didnt really use H much then, the sex was great too, I REALLY enjoyed having a younger girl in this regard too, but eventually, due to the heavy opiate use, our sex life diminished, but we were both cool with that, we got to the point where we both were just not interested in fucking that much, would rather enjoy the pills.

Currently, Im not really dating anyone, doing H every day, and to be honest, I have ZERO desire to get a girlfriend or to have sex, When Im out though, I still do flirt and get to meet alot of new people, (thru my job), but I never get to the point of asking them out, dont really want to, one reason being my general lack of interest, and other reason is, I know where most of my money is going, having a relationship with someone would likely cause some problems with that, as heroin would ALWAYS come first, I dont think many women would put up with this lifestyle for too long.

If I ever do manage to kick dope, I think this desire would come back though, but Im still at the point of preferring dope to women.
 
^yeah dope definitely does that. My girlfriend and I are going through the same thing it does bother us at times because it has been forever. Its sad because we are both young and it really bothers her at times more so then it bothers me. I think every couple goes through this and to be able to "blame it on opiates" does make it different. She worries more then I do about it never coming back and sex is not required for a loving relationship I do wish we could both desire it as we did before we started doing opiates but once we get clean off methadone and everything maybe. Otherwise there is always MDMA and talking :)
 
love > drugs > sex

Don't get me wrong, I love sex. I have amazing sexual chemistry with my boyfriend and whenever we have sex it's definitely really satisfying and wonderful. If either one of us initiates anything, I pretty much immediately will get in the mood. But I put drugs before sex because sex isn't really something that I crave in the same way. Sex is just a primal urge and even though it does give a release, it's not that interesting to me. It's just people fucking slamming and rubbing against each other until they stimulate enough nerves to create a VERY short moment of release. I definitely enjoy it (our brains are hard-wired to), but I don't get the same mental satisfaction that I do from drugs. If there was a moment that I had to pick between doing drugs vs. have sex (a.k.a. I can't do both at the same time) I would probably pick drugs (unless it was a permanent choice, though--sex is a very important part of intimacy, to me at least).

Love on the other hand, is different. It's a constant whirlwind of pleasure and excitement and lots of emotions. There have definitely been times when I have been completely sober and laying with my boyfriend just touching him or looking at him and holding his hand, and I got such a rush that it made me feel like I was high. I would definitely give up all drugs for my boyfriend. If I could never smoke or drink or trip again, it wouldn't matter to me. I personally feel that human connection on a deeper level is the most important thing in life (and I think a lot of people that don't really have that suffer and are less happy for it--some people might disagree but having someone that understands you and that loves you at your deepest core really can make a difference in self-esteem and happiness for most people), so I could never imagine prioritizing something so impermanent over something that matters so much more.
 
I think drugs distract me from both love and sex. When I'm getting high I hate people and I have no sex drive.

When I'm sober, however, people are great, and sex, sex is something else ;)

Actually sex is pretty stupid. Cumming is great tho %)
 
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