Gibberings CLXXXI - Is it Christmas yet?

[mydrugbuddy]

Of course I stick to my leather jacket. It's pretty wam, especially with a scarf. I also own a leather trenchcoat, but I haven't had the chutzpah to wear that in a good ol' while.

I'm well ware that fleece is more practical.

I always wanted to get one of those long 'winter trenchcoats' type things (not a leather one though), especially in my teens and early 20s. The things always buried me though, i guess you need to have a certain heft of frame to be able to wear those things.

 

[koneko]

yeah its embarrasing to see middle aged men and women trying to dress like teenagers. But ofcourse that doesnt mean you have to suddenly start buying Marks and Spencers cardigans and creased trousers either. I guess/like to think that im kind of middle of the road, ive never been one for following fashions, i guess i dress like a hippyish (not hip) teacher or something on dress down day, but without the deliberately mismatched suit jacket and trousers routine that only teachers and university lecturers seem to adopt. I dont own a suit jacket for starters, let alone mismatching the trousers and jackets from differnt suits.

Apparently the Harrington jacket is a sure-fire sign of an ageing hipster. Or so one of my friends told me when i was about 18, he said "That guys an ex-punk", "How do you know that?", "Harrington Jacket". He was usually right about things, that guy. Bah, i quite fancy getting a Harrington jacket too for those days that are neither too cold nor too warm.

I think it's possible to over think and obsess about all this, and just wearing what you feel comfortable in is usually OK.

It's also embarrasing to see adults copying the style of famous rock stars or w/e, teenagers can get away with it, but a few years ago there were quite a few adults walking around town wearing Pete Doherty's hat and jacket style which really grated on me, no matter how "cool" they might have felt that they looked, thats probably what grated the most, especially one guy who had a gorgeous girl with him, and she was clealy completely besotted by the guy.

One of the nicest things about "maturing" is you can develop your own style and not care about fashion or tribes or all that expected visual display malarkey. You get to chose things you like and suit you, not what society deems right or wrong for you. How you are as a person, your personality, how you hold yourself, move, behave and communicate come over much more than the look / clothes. It's a confidence thing.

Being at a transition age stage is always a bit weird though, I will agree with that.

That and I wear my duck egg blue Markies cardi with a silk nightly and thermal leggings now a days lol but only at home on drugs...ha

Awwww, that's so sweet of you! Thanks.

I did similar research a few weeks back, but I didn't get things to work out quitr as cheap. Which shows the common sense discrepancy between us for the gulf it is. I've got a passport so I can definitely fly - they stopped the high speed ferry service from Swansea in 2006 (always handy and cheap), which is a real shame, because Cork harbour is a beautiful natural harbour.

It does mean dealing with airports, which I detest, but hey ho.

Problem is, I'm just likely to get steaming and act the tit.

Being pished in Cork will appear normal You'll be a tourist so can get away with a LOT. Pretend your Spanish or someit

Aye, I'm pretty canny at building a buget trip, I have lots of experience in that all over the world. If I can help let me know that's not difficult for me, but I'd like you to think about it seriously as I know its important Hostels are worth considering as you'll meet other travellers who'll help you out, be friendly and in the same situation as you and they are abet temporary mates on the trip. FFS they at least speak English in Eire, try Tokyo for bemusement.

Nag coming up...

NSFW:

Why make this hard, its not, its easy. It's a blockage pertinent to moving on, bit like not moving house, moving relationships...moving along from some drugs....but the travel one is a good one to cut your teeth on. It'll help with the rest. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but you've always known I think a lot about you and want better for you x. If you decide not to bother, ask yourself why?

Aye I was only kidding about the fleece - though I will admit to owning fleecy jammies for camping in Scotland, as you would!

 

[mydrugbuddy]

One of the nicest things about "maturing" is you can develop your own style and not care about fashion or tribes or all that expected visual display malarkey. You get to chose things you like and suit you, not what society deems right or wrong for you. How you are as a person, your personality, how you hold yourself, move, behave and communicate come over much more than the look / clothes. It's a confidence thing.

Nicely put. I completely agree. And if you feel comfortable in what you are wearing then that is just going to add to the confidence thing.

Sam, no i cant see you in a fleece, although black coloured ones dont make you look like too much of a farmer or hiker and can be worn arround town, without looking ridiculous (imo).

 

[Sammy G]

Kate: I guess I'm prone to building things up into irrational fears. Also, bear in mind that anything noteworthy (other than getting fucked up) that I've done since I was a teenager has been done with the advice / support / threats / coercion and company of a sensible woman who would try to tell me if I was being a dick. It's been weird enough getting my life together enough to keep all my appointments without one. Which of course means I need an adventure all the more, but brings out more irrational fears. Stupid stuff really.

I haven't really let myself relax properly since about 2003, so it's long overdue.

 

[koneko]

Kate: I guess I'm prone to building things up into irrational fears. Also, bear in mind that anything noteworthy (other than getting fucked up) that I've done since I was a teenager has been done with the advice / support / threats / coercion and company of a sensible woman who would try to tell me if I was being a dick. It's been weird enough getting my life together enough to keep all my appointments without one. Which of course means I need an adventure all the more, but brings out more irrational fears. Stupid stuff really.

I haven't really let myself relax properly since about 2003, so it's long overdue.

I know (hugs) but you've come a long way by the sounds of it sorting a lot our for yourself - that's brilliant and you should feel confident to build on it. You've done great! You're more stable and together than a lot of people here and v. smart with it to boot (no I'm not mentioning the cheekbones here...). It's the next step and sometimes you can only do that by yourself. That's the lesson. Alas it means one foot in front of the other.

Everyone hates airports btw

I'll never forget sitting alone, myself, bit stoned waiting for a bus at a tinky provisional west coast of Scotland town bus station early in the morning heading to Kathmandu - on my own. I was shitting myself. But I let myself get carried along by the planned journey and returned a month later via Delhi a changed, more confident person. Travelling is an amazing thing, especially so if it has reason behind it, which this trip for you does.

Ok, nag over :D But ask if you want a hand with itineraries and planing ok. whenever, the time may not be right now, I appreciate that.

I'm surprise you don't have fleece knickers yet Up norf is cold..

 

[Sammy G]

Thanks for not telling me I'm being pathetic, even though I kinda am. It wouldn't be an issue were I manic / taking lots of uppers, but then I'd be more likely to make silly decisions and get arrested. Genuinely likely; that's not me being irrational. Bless you.

I'm surprise you don't have fleece knickers yet Up norf is cold..

Come summer, come winter, no underwear for eighteen years now. I do sometimes review that decision around January. :D

 

[koneko]

Thanks for not telling me I'm being pathetic, even though I kinda am. It wouldn't be an issue were I manic / taking lots of uppers, but then I'd be more likely to make silly decisions and get arrested. Genuinely likely; that's not me being irrational. Bless you.


Come summer, come winter, no underwear for eighteen years now. I do sometimes review that decision around January. :D

And I'm not irrational n' impulsive? 8) I think you probably know better about me. From what I read here, you're certainly psychiatrically doing a lot better than me right now!

Your jeans must hum Get some knickers you!

 

[Sammy G]

I change / wash frequently, I'll have you know!

Yeah, I'd gathered you were going through a more difficult and destabilising time than me, which is why the advice and goodwill is all the more appreciated.

I struggle to think of what to say in return by way of reassurance. If it helps, I find you to be an inspiring character with a pretty awesome degree of inner strength, but at the same time I know you're prone to crippling self-doubt and the kind of worry that you're hypocritically trying to get me to banish. :D

So yeah. Thanks again, and I really hope the best comes of your own predicament - a real-life predicament, rather than me just being a wuss.

Bless you (again).

 

[ponch]

I own a fleece I do wear it for when I go skiing so that's ok right? Right?

I did wear it outside the house once but my girlfriend made me go back and change because I looked like a dad.

 

[Sammy G]

Good on her.

Chicks are sometimes useful for stuff like that. Not that I've been in many relationships where I'd be the recipient of the style advice, natch.

 

[Sammy G]

Awful nice to see you, Bob. You well?

 

[Raasyvibe]

So we are allowed to post pics of other people now? I Got a warning last time I did but I do have a photo of swamp dragon in a onsie or something from an outdoor rave I could post plus plenty of scotch mist etc

If your referring to the pic of Raas you posted a while back it was removed at his request and you didn't get a warning at all. I'm not opening up that whole debate all over again, if you want similar pics of yourself removed you can always ask....nicely

It wasn't just the repetitive posting of my pictures against my will that I was opposed to, but the fact he was threatening me by spamming facebook and 4chan with abusive pictures against my will.

For a second then I was consoled that mods at least gave him a warning for such abuse. Did he really get off completely scot-free then? After trouncing over most of the BLUA guidelines, even the racism one? While users like me or Evey get infracted over any venial mistake made??

Congrats then otw. You win. As we appear to have the worst set of eadd mods in the history of the site, imo, who infract on the basis of who they like or not. Nothing I can do, admins won't listen (yes I've complained). there's no supreme court, I've just accepted the site is unfortunately ran terribly. But you guys don't get paid, so I guess the service is to be expected

 

[kingme]

eveing folks!
hows everyone this fine ass night?

 

[kingme]

ive seen better days/
drove 400km to a damn conferecnce shit that my boss will certainly give me more shit come monday.
tired as hell due to some family issues.

wish i had a bit more energy to do some drugs but looks unlikely.

hm. perhaps its that time of the year to snort some coke and go get me some hooker

 

[kingme]

true but these sort of problems always reccur as well... at least they do to me...

nah coke and hooker was a catchall term really. meant to say drugs and good time.
not much for hookers but i do enjoy watching at least easy women

hows life in your corner of the earth bob?

 

[Chatative]

Congrats then otw. You win. As we appear to have the worst set of eadd mods in the history of the site, imo, who infract on the basis of who they like or not. Nothing I can do, admins won't listen (yes I've complained). there's no supreme court, I've just accepted the site is unfortunately ran terribly. But you guys don't get paid, so I guess the service is to be expected

You're free to think whatever you want, whether or not it has any bearing on reality.

 

[Sammy G]

How's u Sammy?

Pretty grand, ta. Full of heroin, weed, a third of a bottle of Jemmie's amd npw a couple of Guinness. I'm flitting between Nodsville and reality.

 

[kingme]

sobriety can get overrated fast.
december. the most expensive month. that and march, with all the women celebrations going on...

 

[mydrugbuddy]

Got at least one worthwhile thing done today. Re-done my covering letter and CV for an employment agency and got it sent off. Phew i feel much better now that the day hasnt been a total write off. And now i can just fire the whole thing off to every agenecy in town just by remembering to alter the name of the agency in the letter.

 

[Ceres]

I hope that panda pissed on tony abbot. He is a total prick.