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Being blown off here or overreacting?

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rollsolo

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Hey so in short, I had a date scheduled for tonight. I'd be the six time we've hung out since we met last month. We were supposed to do dinner, drinks, movie or whatever. She text me over the weekend asking how my weekend was I responded a few hours later saying great, looking forward to seeing you Tuesday (That was on Sunday). I rarely text her or call, only when I need to make dates to see her and hangout (not trying to screw things up). Anyway this morning around 7:30a.m I get a text from her apologizing because she has to reschedule due to a badly planning furniture move from a friends apartment to hers. She said she didn't know how long it was going to take and didn't want to have me waiting on her.


She asked what my plans were this weekend and if we can hang then. I hit her back several hours later (this morning), saying no worries, Saturday will work, let me know your schedule, evening or night? We scheduled for this Saturday in the evening but wondering if she's trying to blow me off or not. I guess you could never tell what's really going down but just wondering if this was handled properly. Should I have not gotten back to her at all? I thought it was a good idea to get back since we had something planned this evening that unfortunately fell through. Anyway let me know your thoughts on this and past your experiences.
 
I don't think she's blowing you off. The furniture moving deal sounded legit if you ask me. I'd just enjoy your date Saturday evening & try not to think too much into it.

If she likes you, I doubt she would blow you off.. It's good to keep in touch somewhat, but never over expose yourself or seem too needy. Keep the small talk & flirting going on.

Then again, you need to give her some attention. Just find that right balance :)

Push & Pull my friend. Give her a little bit, and then pull back. She'll be wanting you more.

Same goes with sex. It's like a tease. Keep her on her toes by bud :D

I believe in rollsolo!
 
If she were trying to blow you off, she wouldn't have followed up with asking what your plans were and then accepting another date for next weekend.

I remember your other thread about calling her on your commute to work -- dude, relax. You are wayyy over thinking this whole situation.
 
lol, yeah dude I know ^. Thanks much, I do think it's important to keep a mutual contact however, I have been busy with work. I don't text her as much as she text me but I actually did initiate one a little bit ago as I'm on my lunch. I just really suck at texting but great at in person meet ups and can hold a good time. Don't wanna screw things up with this girl and I hope I don't give her the wrong impression. I really do like her, she's sexy, hot, fit, good height, mean cook and is also busy which actually melds into my schedule and workflow lol.
 
Sometimes the whole not texting often thing works, girls I think like to be texted often but if you text often you are giving your attention away too easily so I think you are doing good not hitting her back for hours after she respond to you. I like to use this with the more attractive girls especially that are used to guys responding to them within a minute and kissing their ass every chance they get, I just act relatively uninterested and soon they crack.
 
^ this behavior would completely make me lose interest in you.

People are, for the most part, attached to their phones. I don't mean every second of every day, but if I know you've looked at your phone in the last few hours and just intentionally not responded to me, in order "not to kiss my ass", I would be annoyed and get over you pretty quick.
 
I agree with Queenbee. I hate when it seems like I'm purposely being ignored via text. I don't want to feel like I'm wasting my time. If I contact you it's probably for a good reason and would like to receive a response within a reasonable amount of time! I understand people get busy, and have other things going on in their lives, but shoot me a quick text to let me know that!
 
I, personally feel like people who like check to see how many minutes people have seen your message and not responded are kind of insecure. Like, calm down. They probably just checked the message, put it down because they were driving, busy talking to someone important, working, etc. I mean there are so many other variables. Maybe they want some extra time to think of a nicely thoughtout message for you.
 
Even if she did blow u off

Who cares ?

She still wants to see you again

Maybe she was feeling insecure and not pretty as most girls can get like that and even guys too and make a reason to do the date until they feel ready upstairs
 
Thanks all for chiming in. It's great to hear from different perspectives here... So we hungout Saturday, I called her Sunday afternoon to see if she'd want to meet in the evening... I was going to skip town with her. She called me back left a message as I was working but I barely could hear what she said. So Monday I text her and asked her schedule for the week and mentioned that we were due for a movie. She hasn't gotten back to me since and it's now Tuesday evening. While she might be feeling insecure and not pretty or busy working, etc. Come on! I know she got the text and isn't responding. It's weird because everything went well on our date Saturday and we made out and kissed before parting. Like Pretty_Diamonds said there are to many other variables involved and you never know what could be going down, hurt, sick, dead (forbid), blown off etc. Do you all think I should reach out again or just play it cool and wait to see what the deal is. And if I should reach out should I call next time around? I'll probably hit her up tomorrow if anything but otherwise I'd like to hear all your thoughts.
 
I actually wanted to do this by skipping town, leaving the city and heading to the beach, hike and somewhere away from the city but she was only available in the evening. At that time I'm going to pursue doing that. Also, haven't seen for a week or so before our last date as I was working on things and she was out of town so us reconvening for a dinner in the evening was convenient I'd say. Still haven't gotten a text response since I last reached out Monday, I haven't reached back to her as well.


severely etarded said:
You should pursue other women as you are too focused on her. You probably should have taken her somewhere private on your last date.
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you are thinking about this way too much. you need to take a step back and stop over-anlaysing and obsessing.

take a breath and get on with something else for a bit. you want to contact her? call her. don't text.

alasdair
 
I'm actually a huge advocate of calling women & making things short & sweet :D Calling displays more confidence & assertiveness! Over texting can show lack of confidence & masculinity, and neediness.

I'd always listen to the Director. He's spot on!
 
Thanks everyone for chiming in on this... Teabag Johnny, I like you. You seen to always shed light and give solid advice. It's Thursday with no contact since my last text Monday. Would you go ahead and give her a call today? I don't have anything planned but Halloween is tomorrow and I can call her with an pretty funny message (if she doesn't answer) regarding our costumes. I won't bring up the no text back if she reaches back, I'm just going to forget it happened. Any thoughts or just continue to go cold.

Teabag Johnny said:
I'm actually a huge advocate of calling women & making things short & sweet :D Calling displays more confidence & assertiveness! Over texting can show lack of confidence & masculinity, and neediness.

I'd always listen to the Director. He's spot on!
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UPDATE:

Called her this morning on my commute and it looks like she didn't get back to me yet. I assume I got blown off. It's weird because everything was going great I thought haha. Oh well I'll count this one as a blessing. What sucks is I left my DVD at her place and I want that shit back so idk how to go about that. But anyways thanks for all your help, I'll keep moving on like the river without pause and stop - Confucius
 
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