Girlfriend competes with my mom.

[Pumpkin1961]

Llama112 sounds correct to me. Mom's insecure.

 

[donetherebeenthat]

I appreciate are your reply. She doesn't make me do anything. I invest an hour a week watching a show she enjoys and I tolerate. It's not a bridal show its a reality show about these housewives in N.J., she knows one of them. She volunteers for a no euthanasia animal care clinic and spends 12 hours on her feet on the days she volunteers so I rub her feet sometimes. There are issues with her mom, she doesn't talk much about it. I suspect that may be to some degree part of the problem. We are going for professional help on the 27th because I don't want to give up on her without doing what I can to help her. In every other way she's the perfect girl this shit came from nowhere and it hit hard and fast. I'm going to hold off on anymore responses to this thread until we go through the relationship therapy process. Thank you everyone that took the time share your thoughts !!!

DTBT

 

[llama112]

Llama112 sounds correct to me. Mom's insecure.

That's not what I said.

 

[GenericMind]

I'd tell the girlfriend in no uncertain terms to either shape up or get the fuck out. If it was me anyway. For an elderly lady who's sacrificed as much as you say she has for your brother, there's zero excuse for her to have to be put through that. If you don't take an active role in straightening out that situation you're actively contributing to a situation that's detrimental to your mother's well-being. That's a fact.

If that fact makes you feel uneasy or bad, then that's a good indication you shouldn't be letting it happen. If, however, you're more concerned with your relationship with your girlfriend and can live with that then there's nothing you need to do. Nobody can tell you how to prioritize the people in your life.