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Through the Eyes of a Hairy Woman

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We were joking with each other. He walks out of the room. His father then takes the opportunity to turn to me and say, “What are you? The daughter of a gorilla?”

If everyone in the world were blind, I would be beautiful.

Fuck society.

It means that I am profoundly ugly, primitive, stupid. I am the farthest from attractive a female can possibly be. I am like a gorilla.

Imagine a gorilla with lipstick, and this is how I see myself. This is how the world sees me. This is how I am.

I just want somebody to talk to about this. Somebody who won’t judge me. Somebody who won’t insist that I start waxing off my facial hair, or pay for laser treatment. Somebody who won’t insist that I have fucking PCOS. I know what PCOS is, and however much I wish, I don’t have it. Instead, all of this hair is genetic. I can’t do anything about it. I might as well go die, seeing as I have no chance whatsoever at reproducing.

When I hear the most hilarious, intelligent guy I know talk about the beautiful girls in his health class, I feel like shooting myself.

You know, I dream of being in an accident where all of my skin is perfectly, uniformly destroyed, so it can be replaced with new, clean, hairless skin. I dream of inventing the first working permanent one-use hair-removal cream. I dream that I die and am reincarnated as a beautiful intelligent girl. I dream that someone will fall in love with me, just the way I am. Ridiculous.

The reality is that I have to trudge on, content without love and sex. Content without a husband. Content without a truly complete family. Content to pointedly ignore all aspects of my own appearance in conversation. Content to be second-class to the beautiful people of the world. Content to a lifetime of self-hate. Content to be unworthy of anyone’s attention.

The truth is, I’m so very tired.

Life is short, and for that, I am glad.
 
I am sorry for the cruelty that you suffer. I have a couple of friends that are female and have facial hair and one just lets it be and is a rebel in many other ways anyway so being on the outside of what society considers normal is her familiar world at this point and she is quite happy. Lots of people stare and little kids just come right out and ask if she is male or female and she answers them without making a big deal out if it. The other friend waxes religiously and only a few of her friends know that she would probably have a beard if she didn't. Since it is so painful and uncomfortable for you is there a reason that you can't use wax on a regular basis?
 
No, I used to wax, but I've found that the constant maintenance led to even lower self-esteem. Thank you for your comment! You are kind, and I desperately needed to get this out of my head.
 
Is there no way you could re-examine your aversion to waxing or another way of dealing with the hair?

I have nose hair which I have to pluck and trim pretty regularly (as in, if I let it grow it would be very noticeable). I'm a reasonably handsome guy (27), and I could just let it fly.. but I deal with the pain of plucking it all the time. I mean it sucks and I wish I didn't have to worry about it/have it/why can't the hair just grow in another place on my body haha.. but the way I see it is this. I could be a lot worse off, like missing an eye, or have facial deformity or something. Unfortunately our culture demands visual appearance to be "good", that's just where we are. Hair you can take care of.. physical stuff is just luck.

You shouldn't feel ashamed or down because you have to trim or wax it. Why choose to feel that way? Would you rather suffer from the judgements of other people when you "let it fly".. or would you rather spend a bit of time tidying yourself up and have no judgements from people? Your body is your body.. it's not you. Don't base your esteem from it, unless for example you've gotten physically fit or something (actions that you did by effort).
 
How often would you have to wax your facial hair? Just curious...

I wouldn't care about any body hair. That is 100% completely normal. A lot women have hair on their nipples, stomach, and the anus, and even the butt cheeks & quite often hairy arms. So, there's nothing different there.

And I'm sure there is a percentage of the female population that has some facial hair they have to deal with like you. Does waxing work? OR would laser treatment work?

I know you may not be a big advocate of laser treatment or waxing, but it gets the job done right?
 
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No, I used to wax, but I've found that the constant maintenance led to even lower self-esteem. Thank you for your comment! You are kind, and I desperately needed to get this out of my head.
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I've sometimes wondered why women with pronounced facial hair don't shave, but that makes sense. You want to accept yourself as you are - but can't. A damned if you do damned if you don't type of situation. Although I suppose the real issue is that you want others to accept you as you are. Or at least someone. Well not just someone. The most hilarious and intelligent guy, probably confident and well-groomed too.
 
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The reality is that I have to trudge on, content without love and sex. Content without a husband. Content without a truly complete family. Content to pointedly ignore all aspects of my own appearance in conversation. Content to be second-class to the beautiful people of the world. Content to a lifetime of self-hate. Content to be unworthy of anyone’s attention.d.
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I'm sorry you had to go through some idiot insulting you who probably has many insecurities in which case they feel better about being a complete dick wad to you (no excuse for it). There's too many people on this earth like that. But here's the thing - if it wasn't facial hair it'd be something else. We are taught, told, and socialized to be hypercritical self hating assholes at a very young age (yes, I know this well). If its not facial hair its intelligence , if not intelligence it's personality, if not that then skin, and on and on we go. The truth is you can be beautiful and still "have to be content without sex and love. Content without a husband. Content without a truly complete family". You can be cheated on, ridiculed and left with no hope, happiness and committed to a "life time of self hate" even without facial hair and with beauty (people are cruel, you're right...but you're not alone). These qualities and life experiences are not reserved for the "ugly" which by the way I'm sure you're not.


MAKE PEACE WITH THE HAIR - love it or leave it, that's up to you! Make peace with who are and your choices and try not to waste too much time on what other people think and being mad that society is the way it is because only you will suffer.


Carl Sagan says we're all just made of STARDUST and so it must be true. That means I AM a BADASS speckle of stardust and so are YOU! Beauty is skin deep love! :)
 
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Ok so here's something I've been thinking about today... If you convince yourself no one will ever love you then you don't even have to try. That will avoid disappointments and failures which are painful, but inevitable. But you also have to live with knowing in your heart that you didn't even try.
 
Loads of people don't give a fuck about hair [I know I personally don't, seems like a waste of time and effort, as well as discomfort to get rid of it]. Just cos some people make you feel ugly doesn't mean you are, and certainly you're not doomed to a life without love/sex/partnership because of it.

It sounds like the bigger issue you need to tackle is self esteem and the way you perceive yourself, show yourself some love m8!
 
Laser hair removal
Waxing
Shaving

All potential options. Have you talked to a doctor about how to go about this? Have to talked to a psychiatrist about your low self esteem?
I would advise both.

As well, I know there are quite a few guys who like hairy women. I'm not kidding. There is a fetish for everything.
 
Hey I really hope you read this because I am one of the guys that happens to love hairy women. It is much of a curse to me as being hairy is to you. People in society and other hairy girls themselves have called me a freak and gay, and anything else you can think of just because I am attracted to hairy women. I now keep my preferences to myself and will only express my opinions to hairy girls themselves because they are the only ones that may be interested, and even some of them think I am crazy. Ever since I was young it has been the only type of woman I am attracted to. My ideal woman has thick dark hair on her head, thick eyebrows, hairy arms, hairy everywhere basically. Now shaving legs and armpits is ok with me, but every girl has leg and armpit hair. I don't find leg and armpit hair to be very special in any way. The kind of hair that turns me on is the arm hair, stomach, lower back, butt.. all the places most girls hate having hair. I dream of making a girl like you feel better about herself because to me hairy girls are the most special in the world. Anyway I hope you read this and respond, and feel free to PM me anytime. Would love to hear from you, and want you to know that you have just not been around the world and met enough people yet. There are plenty of guys that do not care about hair, or ones like me who worship hairy women... you will not be alone forever you will find a husband. Would love to talk to you more about this please respond or PM me...
 
YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL HAIRY WOMAN. OWN IT! BE PROUD. Life can be merry being hairy.
 
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