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I don't know how to tell my boyfriend

WhiteFemale

WhiteFemale

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I was super upset and I did something I promised I wouldn't.
It wasn't cheating.
And I am afraid of how he'll react.
A part of me thinks that if I just keep it a secret and never do it again that it'll be okay...
I value honesty a lot and I'd want him to feel comfy telling me anything.
I'm scared he'll leave. Or force me sober.
I injected.
I regret it.

We just made up from a huge fight so now is not the time to muddy the waters. I don't wanna backtrack. If I can hide the evidence long enough maybe nobody needs to know...uhhh...advice?
 
If you promise yourself that you will have control and you will don't do it again then there is no need to tell him. First you have to be honest with yourself.
 
Look... If you were my GF and came to me apologetic about something you did wrong; and you were sincere about it, I'd forgive you most definitely. Even if it was cheating. I'd actually trust you more since you had the guilty conscience from doing it, and the courage to tell me.
 
when people give up cigarettes then smoke on one night out 6 months later its just a mini relapse.

you can get over this
 
pofacedhoe said:
when people give up cigarettes then smoke on one night out 6 months later its just a mini relapse.

you can get over this
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Exactly.
Sometimes people relapse. But it is REALLY important to tell your partner that it happened. So that they can help you.
 
there was once a female i felt protective of was blowing lines of yay. she told me its not the drug you choose to use, its the time you have on it. To be frank she could have benefited from gaining weight.
 
It might not suck it might suck but if you care you'd tell him bc you'd expect the same form him..,
 
Don't make such a big deal over it. It is in the past. If you think there will be some sort of reprocussions by telling him than don't. Sounds like you used to shoot but don't anymore. Like anything else, do your best and if you fuck up don't make it worse by adding any more fuel to the fire. We fuck up, no big deal. Love should be unconditional and we should be able to tell the person we are with everything but that is a fantasy and in the real world when we are honest and open about the things we do we get judged and it is turned against us. My drug use was never a problem until I was honest and told people about it then I got kicked out of the house, lost my job, and all around treated much differently by those close to me because they knew the truth and used it against me. What's done has been done, let it go and move on.
 
Love is a collectivist entity. There is one entity that is you, one entity that is him, and then an entirely different entity that is in the middle, which is both of you. Within that entity are ethics that are endemic to love. Acceptance, compassion, selflessness, honesty, and forgiveness are necessities of strong and stable love.

If you love him, be honest, and if he loves you, he will accept your mistake and forgive you. And in the meantime, don't beat yourself up too much. It's not how hard you fall that matters- it's how you pick yourself up from it.
 
Honesty is the only way to make a relationship last imho. You don't want to get into the mindset of keeping secrets. You'll get busted eventually.
 
RichardMooner said:
Love is a collectivist entity. There is one entity that is you, one entity that is him, and then an entirely different entity that is in the middle, which is both of you. Within that entity are ethics that are endemic to love. Acceptance, compassion, selflessness, honesty, and forgiveness are necessities of strong and stable love.

If you love him, be honest, and if he loves you, he will accept your mistake and forgive you. And in the meantime, don't beat yourself up too much. It's not how hard you fall that matters- it's
it's how you pick yourself up from it.
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This was SO well said. I totally agree. However, I fully understand how hard it is to be honest about something like this. I was an addict for years and hid it very well from everyone I love. Everyone was extremely supportive when I decided to get clean. I recently relapsed and haven't found the courage to tell anyone. I got help from my doctor and am in treatment, but I can't bring myself to admit this to anyone yet. I want to, and I plan to, but damn it's hard to get up the courage to start that conversation. To the OP- I wish you the best of luck with this. I hope everything turns out ok.
 
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