You recently went through some stuff, right? You gotta give it some time probably. If you stay positive and get out there into the world (for example, going on that date), you'll improve. Stabilizing is easier as you get older too, probably in large part because you get more mature because as life goes on you learn stuff and figure stuff out, about yourself. But you can do that faster by being positive and honest and open with yourself, and self-reflection. And just, like, living life helps you to grow and learn too, because you're putting yourself in new situations and experiencing exciting things like meeting people and dating, it's stimulating, it's stuff that lights up your natural reward system. It can feel hard to get out when you're in a weird place, or depressed, or anxious, but the hardest part is the making yourself do it part. It helped me so much to start going out and doing a variety of things that I get a lot from and have fun doing, that's what life is, or should be... experiencing things, finding out what makes you happy, and living the best life you can. But you have to make it happen.
I'm sure you'll be good man.

Sometimes parts of life are hard. I wanted to die last year, I literally wished I could just die so I didn't have to feel so much pain and despair all the time. It was so hard to live through that, and I didn't think I was going to get past it, I really didn't. But now here I am, I just finally made it happen for myself, I took one step at a time. I also took ibogaine (that was actually the first thing I made happen for myself, well except for ending it with my ex and her moving out), which I won't rule out as a major factor.

But what I learned intuitively through the ibogaine experience was the stuff I'm saying now.
For me the first thing I did was start working out and eating well. Maybe you do work out, I don't know, but I didn't at all. I feel so much better now that I'm strong and in shape, emotionally I'm a lot more stable, I feel good, and I feel confident also. With that helping me, I started thinking about what changes I needed to make and what I wanted to fill my time with, and I eventually got to where I am now, hanging out with friends a lot, selling art, exploring the mountains and rivers and waterfalls, seeing a lot of live music, and meeting new people.