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Is hiring a prostitute immoral?

Is procreating a human being, a virus to the earth immoral? I don't know, I ain't Jesus or nothin' man.

I think in some cases it isn't (despite the appearance) consensual, and therefore is distasteful and unappealing.
 
If you're asking a human, the answer is most likely going to be yes because it is generally considered among society to be a "wrong" behavior. However, Penguins have been known to trade sex for stones(for their nests), chimpanzees known to trade sex for food, humans have been known to trade sex for all of the above and more, all of these instances occurring naturally, and within nature. Therefore, if prostitution is immoral, nature is implied immoral.

If this is the case, then according to the definition of immoral: not conforming to accepted standards of morality, nature is not a socially acceptable behavior. No wonder people are so confused.
 
I've paid for more dates than I care to remember and never face any moral outrage. At the end of the night I see no difference if I paid for dinner and drinks and got laid or paid an escort directly for sex. Besides its legal so not a big deal
 
If you aren't enjoying the immorality of it on some level, I doubt you are getting the full experience.
 
I've never slept with a prostitute and it's never excited me to be honest. I somehow feel repelled by the thought that I'd be sharing something personal with someone who sees money in it above all and if that's so, then the secondary reasons don't matter to me. If a prostitute enjoys sex as well, then why do you have pay "the double price"? It's illogical to me.

When a prostitute only does her job for money, the immoral part of it is that you diminish her by letting her do the stuff for money while it is usually associated with intimacy, it's equal to letting the evil spread. Perhaps it's all harder to notice for people who see mostly their personal satisfaction in sex and don't care much about the feelings of their sex partner. When I see a good person who suffers, then I'm more than happy to help for nothing direct in exchange, it would be humiliating for me to want sex from someone who has a serious problem and needs help.

There's something wrong in both scenarios for me.

If you can't see anything wrong with prostitution, then I'm sorry but you're probably missing people in the big picture. The fact that I've never paid for sex doesn't mean I know no prostitutes, and while there are women who simply enjoy a lot of sex and join pleasure with work (again - why the money then? after all the prostitute enjoying sex gets twice as much as the client), there's a lot of women who decide to work as prostitutes because they don't have any other options, or at least they can't see them (it's like stealing because there's no legal job, well, the fact that it's hard to find it or it's hard to get accustomed to it doesn't mean that there isn't any). Their environment allows prostitution so even though they don't feel 100% OK with it, they do it.

I'm definitely not a sinless one and I'm sure that I couldn't wait with sex until marriage no matter who the person would be (well, I guess it would be hard for me to get attracted to a girl who can live without sex in the first place, it's all personality, character, and temperament related), but I must feel something to a girl before we have sex. It doesn't have to be love, you know, we may even not be close friends, but it can't be just purely physical attraction, we must have something in common. Every time I sensed even a hint that a girl had some hidden reasons for wanting to have sex with me, it repelled me right away. I don't trade myself and I don't want anyone trading themselves to me. Sure you can just talk to a prostitute and get to know her, but it loses meaning if she later just goes and services someone else, it can't be personal then.
 
I personally don't think it's a big deal. It's up to the individual.
 
As long as there's no sex trafficking involved and she's doing it of her own free will, then it's just two adults having consensual sex isn't it?
 
Crankinit said:
As long as there's no sex trafficking involved and she's doing it of her own free will, then it's just two adults having consensual sex isn't it?
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This. It's one of the oldest jobs in the world. Modern social restraints and thoughts about human trafficking and abuse are a symbol of a rotten system and the things you have to take care when choosing. Jeah, there is a choice involved, either to hire a "hooker" for some bugs or a "prostitute"/"escort". If somebody wants to get some company with benefits and he's even thinking (like you are) about things like "moral", then there won't be a problem (i suppose). My rule in many situations in life is "you'll get what you pay for".

cheers
 
There is actually no right or wrong answer to this question... For everyone person that believes that prostitution is not immoral, there is one person that does believe it is immoral.

So, what does this mean? It means that one particular person's belief does not answer the question. The question can only be answered through your perception of this reality. Do you believe it's immoral? If the prostitution is of free will from both parties, and you believe's in not immoral, then it may not be.

If you have a religious belief system, you may believe prostitution not only destroys marriages, families, and lives, but it destroys the spirit and soul in a way that leads to physical and spiritual death. Have you ever seen a documentary on prostitutes or escorts? They all live an extremely rough life, and hate their profession. It does seem to crush these women's soul. Drug addiction can be seen as a soul crusher to. A Christian may believe that abusing drugs and/or prostitution is not righteous, and he or she would not be pursuing a purpose in life, and will find themselves lost & unhappy. There is actually some truth to this. You see it all the time.

Have you ever seen a prostitute or meth addict that was truly happy and respected themselves? I've never have.

So, this question cannot be answered. Only your own perception can answer it. Which one will you choose.

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One Thousand Words said:
I've paid for more dates than I care to remember and never face any moral outrage. At the end of the night I see no difference if I paid for dinner and drinks and got laid or paid an escort directly for sex. Besides its legal so not a big deal
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Exactly i think the same way i dont think its healthy or nothing but then again where do we see any healthy relationships these days.
I actually lost my virginity to an escort lol yes people will give me grief for that but i dont care in the least bit.
 
adder said:
If a prostitute enjoys sex as well, then why do you have pay "the double price"? It's illogical to me.

When a prostitute only does her job for money, the immoral part of it is that you diminish her by letting her do the stuff for money while it is usually associated with intimacy, it's equal to letting the evil spread. Perhaps it's all harder to notice for people who see mostly their personal satisfaction in sex and don't care much about the feelings of their sex partner. When I see a good person who suffers, then I'm more than happy to help for nothing direct in exchange, it would be humiliating for me to want sex from someone who has a serious problem and needs help.

While there are women who simply enjoy a lot of sex and join pleasure with work (again - why the money then? after all the prostitute enjoying sex gets twice as much as the client),
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Well if they are working why not have the guy pay? prostitutes have to have sex with ugly old guys that repulse them not just young good looking guys and if they combine work with pleasure why not be paid? Its a job whether they like it or not they got to take the good with the bad. IMO they do it most of the time(95-99.9℅ of the time) because they need the money and there are certain types of guys out there who are willing to pay for sex for whatever reason. The guys paying dont care about intimacy or whther she talks to them or screws another guy later on thats the whole reason why someone would pay for a hooker in the first place is to avoid that aspect of sex altogether. No attachments just good ol fun sex without the worry of whether or not im "good" in bed she is just there to please you for money that's it, this can be apealing to many guys. Your just not the type of person to get a hooker you value intimacy more than the guys who go out and get hookers and that's not a bad thing at all.

I agree with everything else you said jist dont get why you feel that way about them being paid and it being in a sense immoral.
 
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Well, that's one hell of a hard job. Don't you think it's wrong that people are made to choose to do what they don't like 95-99.9% of the time? This is essentially my point. A prostitute can have great coping mechanisms, but I doubt that deep inside she feels 100% all right about what she does and it's impossible that it doesn't negatively affect her in any way even if she doesn't consciously acknowledge it all. We may rant at the world around us but what do we really do to change it? I don't really care about all those intercourses that both clients and prostitutes are happy about because I respect both privacy and free will of everyone, that's no harm done. In a situation like this, a man paying a woman with money is illogical to me, both of them enjoy having sex so why the additional payment? I perfectly understand that it's her job and you're paid for your work, and I love repaying people that have done something for me too, but this small payment is not going to change how she feels about the 95-99.9% of her clients. Perhaps I should leave logic out of this.

The whole world going crazy is definitely a much bigger problem that will never be solved by one man, but I hope you know what I'm getting at, it's not like I want to diminish prostitutes twice as much by taking away their earnings. I've done shit in my life too and my rhetorical skills are not at my best right now. All the disgusting rest starting with a prostitute having sex with an ugly old guy and ending with human trafficking is like a virus that must be destroyed or it destroys humankind one day unless some impact event does it earlier. It may not be in the next 2,000 years but it's certain to happen if we don't start changing our world. You may ask me what I've done to change the world, well, nothing yet and that's what bothers me the most. I know I may sound like a preacher now but I really believe in no religion, it's just a form of mass manipulation for me that may have nothing to do with faith or morals.

The reason why people worry whether they're good or bad in bed stems from our culture. So many people feel bad and anxious for many reasons because of it and yet most of us obediently live in it. How come? I enjoy having sex too, my sex drive is high, and I could easily become a sexaholic if one part of my personality took over the other as it had been trying to for years, but instead they co-exist and I just can't separate my feelings from sex any more. I've got nothing against two people meeting for sex without feelings, people can do it no matter how old, black or white, smart or stupid, and ugly or pretty they are. I even once got an idea to have legal places where people wanting to have sex could meet, talk, and then rent a room, no money for sex involved. But that won't work as long as we don't relieve ourselves of anxiety and the money paid to a prostitute has one more function other than being just a payment and that is getting rid of the fear of failing in bed. What I simply hate is it's become a common thing that a lot of people live day by day gaining strength by diminishing other people for no reason other than self-centred hunger for domination. There's really no need for forced or out-of-lack-of-choice prostitution. I truly believe there's a solution to everything that's wrong making people uneven, it's just that some solutions demand higher sacrifices. I may be an idealist but I prefer to die as one rather than accepting any act that leads to one person feeling better and the other one feeling worse as a result, we can all feel better at the same time if we only realise that we don't really need all that stuff like wealth we are manipulated to desire.

By the way, thanks for understanding, it's always nice when somebody tries to understand someone else's point of view even if it may seem completely different than theirs.
 
prostitution is great. i would legalize prostitution before drugs, i think feminism is a bigger problem than the drug war and prostitution would make a dent in that movement by allowing men to say "fuck it" to society and just pay for pussy.
 
Depends on the prostitute. Are they independent/part of a good agency or are they under the control of a pimp/being trafficked?

Unfortunately in the black market you can't always know, one of the reasons we need a well regulated legal industry.
 
Each party has preset intentions about what it is that's about to happen. Some people aren't mature enough to have good intentions about that kind of thing. It's all dominoes and reciprocity in the world of the imagination afterwards.
 
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