I talked to the girl I'm into today (we had a really great first night hanging out and basically first week and then she flipped really suddenly and was quite distant, from talking daily to basically not at all within 1 day), and asked if she wanted to do something this weekend. I basically found out that she has no idea what she wants right now, that she both does and doesn't want to see me because she's confused about how she feels. Her husband/ex (we're both getting divorced for good reasons and fairly far along with that process) came back from active duty for a little bit and she saw him when she dropped their daughter off with him... it got her all twisted up. The reason they are getting divorced is because he is a military guy for life and she couldn't stand being a military wife and she disagrees fundamentally with the actions of the military right now. So it's a less clear-cut break than mine. She told me she's sorry for being so weird, she just has no idea what she wants right now. So I told her I'm here if she wants to talk to get a drink or whatever, and I understand.
So, it's a positive thing because we communicated about it, and it's perfectly reasonable for her to feel that way. Probably bad timing for us to meet honestly. I just didn't know how to proceed internally or externally - do I keep trying to call her to see if she wants to hang out? Do I try to put her out of mind? Did I do something? Well, now I know the answer. I certainly hope she does decide to call me but I'm at peace with it now and I can let it happen whatever way it will. The questions have more or less been answered, and the questions, the unknown, were what was bothering me.