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Does age matter in a relationship?

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lunamia

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My dilemma... I met a great guy who happens to be 10 years younger. We get a long great. Sex is awesome. However he lives about an hour away which is not a problem for me(I'm the one always visitin him) he seems to think it's to long of a distance. I have met his friends and according to him, his friends have stated that since meeting me he seems happier. We have known each other for about a year now. We started getting closer and he became scared. Now he's questioning our age difference, our LDR amongst other things. Do I continue with this or say goodbye. Btw when I first met him age according to him was not a concern for him.
 
It doesn't matter whether age matters to anyone on BL, what matters is his opinion.

The only way you can figure out where to take things is to communicate with him and know where you stand right now.

Best of luck (some people, like me, prefer women who are 10 years our senior)
 
Age doesn't matter as long as you are both grown up enuf to have and maintain an adult relationship.
If you feel like your the one putting all the effort in and now he's questioning age maby you need to have a talk with him, see if he stil feels the same as when you first meet. Relationships are about two people, they shouldn't be one sided.
Good luck though.
 
The age difference wasn't an issue when you first met, but now it is according to your boyfriend. Also the long distance thing, which an hour's drive isn't that far but to him it is. So something's changed in your relationship to cause him to decide this isn't going to work. I have a feeling he's trying to break it off but doesn't want to hurt you because if he really wanted to be with you these things wouldn't be an issue. Sorry I know this is not what you wanted to hear. :(
 
I think it makes a difference to him.

I was falling for a special person almost half my age. It is no more. Looking back on it I wish I had not pushed her away because my heart was breaking.

Have you considered how he deals with being challenged by many for his choice to be with you?

In my case she met someone she considered a better fit.
 
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I don't think age matters as long as it isn't something ridiculous like a 13 year old "dating" a 40 year old. Lol
I've always been into older guys, I was dating a 37 year old when I was 17 and now I'm 18 and with a 26 year old.
I don't have experience with dating anyone younger than me though so I probably can't really help too much on this.. I wish you both the best. :)
 
T. Calderone said:
The age difference wasn't an issue when you first met, but now it is according to your boyfriend. Also the long distance thing, which an hour's drive isn't that far but to him it is. So something's changed in your relationship to cause him to decide this isn't going to work. I have a feeling he's trying to break it off but doesn't want to hurt you because if he really wanted to be with you these things wouldn't be an issue. Sorry I know this is not what you wanted to hear. :(
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I think your right and I have been in denial. Thank you for your honesty.
 
It depends on the age. 10 year difference? Definitely doable if you're 20 ad 30. If you're 15 and 25? Not so much, and likely illegal in many areas. But once you're of age, it's really fine. Unless one person seems to have a problem with, which unfortunately it seems like he does!
 
its less about age and more about wanting the same things from life.

also you are always travelling to him- thats not equal
 
For something casual, age doesn't matter. But for me personally, I'd be scared to commit a lifetime to someone that will likely die 20 years before I do. Of course there are no guarantees in life, so all we can do is whatever makes us happy.
 
It could matter in terms of being able to connect or being at different places "mentally", but if it works it works, who cares. I wouldn't discriminate against having something with a woman because of her age alone... I mean if she's physically attractive to you and there is rapport and connection... so what? I was 26 when I dated a 43 year old. She had a 16 year old daughter who I was closer to in age. It didn't really work out but... who cares it was an experience. Live life ;)
 
Well yeah, don't break any laws. Some countries it's 18, some it's 16. Some it's 16 or 17 but only with consent... whatever. I wouldn't risk breaking the laws of your country or region, but other than that, if there's feelings and attraction, then who cares.
 
I'm 53 my girl is 35 she lives 45 minutes away. I have more in common with her then with women of my own age, sounds like he's getting pressure from his family or friends to end the relationship, we went through the same thing with her family but she put her foot down, that was 6 years ago and we are still going strong. If he has strong feelings for her then he will do whatever it takes to be with her.
 
I finally ended it. Reading your posts helped me realize it was all one sided. Thank you all for your input.
 
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