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looks like i'm going to be homeless for a bit. Any advice?

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my parents have had enough of my drinking, drugs and failing uni, and are kicking me out in a few days. Fair enough I guess. But I could use some advice for being homeless. I think a few people on here have experienced homelessness at some point? I'm not addicted to anything (except possibly booze.) I'm also fairly young (22) and look even younger,if that helps (could it be an advantage? or would it mean i'd get picked on more?)

I have a sleeping bag but not a tent or anything. I have a bit of money but not much. Not sure what else to add.
 
Immediately contact all of the local hostels/homeless charities and services in your area, like today, because as young male (I believe?) you will be back of the queue when it comes to housing.

Get on that phone and start hammering the numbers now.
 
If they're kicking you out in "a few days" my guess is they aren't going to do it, else they'd do it now. Hang on in there. And start behaving better.
 
Probably true, I'd still start contacting all the services though because there's every chance it's not an empty threat.
 
Crash at a friend's place for a few days, circulate among friends if need be. Try finding a job quick.

I'm sure they won't kick you out, but just incase...
 
I suspect its probably a scare tactic to maybe to pull you back in line a bit. As SHM said, theyd of kicked you out there and then. I know when I got booted out the family home at 19 it was with immediate effect, I just crashed on a mates sofa for 6 months or so then they asked me to come home as my health was deteriorating quite rapidly.

Just do your best to tow the line no matter how hard it may be, I dont get on very well with my folks so living with them can be tough, but not half as tough as living rough.

Wish you all the best Hex <3
 
As you sed they want to kick you out in a couple of days, that means you've got a couple of days to make them change their mind.
Why not try doing things around the house to make that happen like helping them make dinner, helping them with shopping, cleaning your room and the whole house, show them your looking for a job, studing do what ever it takes because I doubt you want to be living at a homeless shelter or on a park bench do you.
 
yeah they are giving you a chance to atleast make some token gestures or efforts towards what they expect of you whilst you are living under their roof. I know its easier said than done, but they have taken a pretty hard line tough love stance, the shock of the sitiuation may help motivate you to avoid becoming homeless and to try to toe the line a bit more.
 
I honest can't remember how many times I've got in a argument with my parents an they told me to leave.
But guess what, I'm still here!
They probably just want you to stop drinking as much or living a wild life style, if you are that is??
 
"kicking you out in a few days" means they'll prolong it a bit if you quit booze and sound really determined to find a place. I suspect...
 
i've been drinking for days now.

I don't want to be over dramatic, but I think I've had it. I'm dying slowly anyway. My body feels like it's packing in. As well as loosing my mind. Might just finally act on the urges I've had for years. I mean I can't even sleep for fucks sake. I need help. And escape from this.
 
I hope my family don't find out about bluelight, not out of any shame for you guys, just because I know it will upset them
 
my own girlfriend won't even talk to me for fucks sake, I swear if she would just talk to me I'd feel better.
 
i've been drinking for days now.
I don't want to be over dramatic, but I think I've had it. I'm dying slowly anyway. My body feels like it's packing in. As well as loosing my mind. Might just finally act on the urges I've had for years. I mean I can't even sleep for fucks sake. I need help. And escape from this.
A visit to your GP probably wouldn't go amiss. How about getting professional help? Becoming homeless might precipitate your situation by the sound of it :(
 
^^ do that as soon as possible!
Becoming homeless is just giving in and giving yourself more problems witch will then make you more depressed, because it sounds like you are abit.
To live an easy life you must be good at solving problems not creating them.
 
Got that threat last tuesday on the conditon that I would look after myself, go to my therapist appointment and clean the house.

Guess what they came in last night and found the house fucked up, they knew I'd missed my therapist appointment as he phoned them.

If you read my posts from the last few days you'd know I binged on 3C-P(350mgs gone), then switched to bk-2c-b and poppy tea boiled down and plugged, plus a few benzo. They couldn't even get to speak to them last night so they let me nod it and this morining my dad told me to look for a place and I?m ut of here. They also mentioned rehab.
 
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