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Mental Health I Get Anxiety When Posting On Forums

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n00bsaibot

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Hi, does anyone get anxiety when posting on this forum or in forums in general?
I feel paranoid and feel like someone knows who I am? I always feel like I need to be cautious about
the words and structure of my sentences. I'm stress and worry a lot about my post.
I do have many untreated behavioral disorders. Normally I browse forums
anonymously looking for answers.
 
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I just don't say anything that I think the moderators would mind. you'll be fine. welcome to bluelight, I'm new as an active member myself but everyone's been really cool.
 
I feel paranoid and feel like someone knows who I am?
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Yes --but who are you? Why if someone connected the two would this be bad? Are you some sort of high paid grammar professor :D
 
Honestly n00bsaibot unless you're posting your name and personal identification no ones probably going to realize it's you.

Welcome to BL mate. :)
 
No I mean like people I know in life. I know it's ridiculous, I mean, I hardly know anyone to be honest. But I seem to always have irrational thoughts.
 
^ha I have wondered that too. Like what if a bartender at work is a Bluelighter. And notices my drink order is also listed in the Nightly Fix thread quite frequently... You just got to work through it and talk it through with a good friend or someone you know or in this case us. Welcome to BL!
 
Yeah man people on Bluelight are fucking mean...
maybe i just run into shitty bluelighters tho.
 
Yeah, the forum seems alright so far, but I know there's a bandwagon of trolls waiting around the corner for me.
 
^^ We are all pretty nice in recovery support :) Many other nice bL'ers all over the boards too.

I worry about people in my life finding out about BL because I posted a lot about my addiction which was pretty much a secret, and I don't know what I would do if it got out. I think your feelings are natural.
 
If my parents found out about this site, they would go crazy. They kinda know about my drug use but it's still a secret. However, there's no way they're gonna find out.
Don't post pics or personal info and you'll be fine.
 
A secret.
That's exactly what I'm talking about.
The stuff that I'm want to discuss; nobody knows.
 
Yes, that's exactly why this is my first post on this forum. I think way too much before I post, making multiple edits, until I just decide "eff it, it's not going to add anything to the discussion anyway" and then delete everything.

So I'm going to post this now before I change my mind. =D
 
I get a lot of anxiety when posting on forums, too. It's either that I'm paranoid about people I know finding out what I do online, or I just get scared that things that I say aren't going to be well received/allowed. I even get anxious when posting on Facebook or my blog.

I think that for the most part, it's just all in our heads, especially if we have anxiety problems to begin with. So my advice would just be to not post unique personal information or your face or anything like that until you're comfortable posting or are comfortable with other forum members.
 
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I have so much anxiety I won't even use face book!
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I get this too. I have social anxiety, ive had it for almost 10 years now and I notice it happens in any new or unpredictable situation. It takes me pretty long until i feel comfortable in a new social situation even if it is online.
 
Dude do you have a learning disability or are you just generally weird? Your post is full of typos and grammatical errors, I can barely understand what you are trying to say! Get your shit together!

Now let's get serious:
Yes brother, I hear you on that one, but it's not a permanent thing for me. It's pretty bad on facebook usually though, with good reason. When I'm manic I sometimes go over things I write for hours because it never seems "right". I'd get afraid people would take me for an idiot. It's extremely rare that I would not read over my post and delete or edit at least one sentence, even when I feel stable and euthymic.

Is this a real issue for you?

(4 edits? still looks like shit)
 
The way I see it is that if someone was on BL and saw one of my post about my personal life then they could only assume it was me, because many people have very similar situations at the same time.

My main issue about posting on forums was that I would sound stupid or that people would read what I have said and think 'You don't know what you're on about'. I worry about structure and spelling. I have come to the conclusion that somebody somewhere is going to judge me no matter what I say, but why should I care? I am never going to see these people and if I do they won't know it's me because I don't have a picture of myself or anything that could identify me.

I hope this helps :)
 
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