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Did the Right Thing?

mjl22881

mjl22881

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Oh God, this must have been one of the hardest experiences of my life, no pun intended. I come home from work today and there is a knock at my door. Long story short, it's my best friends's girl. Granted he treats her like shit, but that aside, still his girl. We talk, a few minutes in she plays a song she know I like and then asks for a hug. The hug was way more than friendly - she was nuzzling up on me. I have to admit she smelled so good and every thought that a man has started going through my mind. Next thing I know, she grabs me in the nether regions and asks if I can speak dirty to her in German. I give in a little, she starts heavy petting and telling me she's been feeling me for months and wants me to throw her down and **** her. Oh God, I must be getting old because I told her I couldn't it wasn't right and it'd be best if she left. She's beautiful, I definitely feel her too but still, she's my friend's girl. Please tell me I did the right thing??? Fuck!!!
 
Of course you did, even if he treats her like shit you don't wanna be the one she cheats with... don't worry, if you feel like he doesn't deserve her because he treats her like shit she's obviously considering other options so if he's being a douche he will get what's coming to him (not saying what she did was right, quite disgusting that she would put YOU in that situation). Again though, don't be "that guy", you do say he's your friend so...
 
Yeah, definitely feeling pretty good about it with some hindsight under my belt. I know it would have felt so good at that moment but I would have been kicking myself for days afterward feeling like a total shithead. Kind of surprising since I'm always out for that quick fix ya know? Hehe.
 
I think the bigger question is why are you friends with someone who treats their woman like shit? How a guy treats a woman is usually a pretty good indicator of what kind of people they are imo.

Also imo, and not to sound sexist, it wouldn't have really made much of a difference if you had done anything with her because if his woman is willing to throw herself at her man's best friend there's no doubt that she'd have no problem doing the same thing to another man.
 
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Way to play devil's advocate Nutty! I get what you're saying one hundred percent and have to agree with it for the most part.

This dude didn't always act like he does and treat women like he does. We went to high school together and I expect more out of him due to our past relationship. I see now that he has no plans on changing so I'm going to have to cut him from my life I guess.

As for her, yeah if she behaves like that towards me and chooses to be with a man like him then I definitely don't want anything to do with her. I need to be involved with a succubus like her like I need a hole in the head!
 
because if his woman is willing to throw herself at her man's best friend there's no doubt that she'd have no problem doing the same thing to another man.
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Sure the woman is skeezy for doing that and obviously is willing, and likely, to hook up with another man but in the end had he chosen to sleep with her that would still make him a jerk for going behind his best friends back and sleeping with his girl... regardless of the circumstances, that type of betrayal is just as dirty, if not more than what his friends GF did, especially if they were friends since HS. I think you made the right call mjl, now the question is do you tell your friend?
 
CaptainKratom said:
Sure the woman is skeezy for doing that and obviously is willing, and likely, to hook up with another man but in the end had he chosen to sleep with her that would still make him a jerk for going behind his best friends back and sleeping with his girl... regardless of the circumstances, that type of betrayal is just as dirty, if not more than what his friends GF did, especially if they were friends since HS. I think you made the right call mjl, now the question is do you tell your friend?
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Yes, my friend therein lies the question of the day! I'm leaning heavily towards no way. I'd rather just brush my hands of the whole matter and walk away and keep both of them at arms length as much as possible. Sometimes it's best to let sleeping dogs keep on sleeping!

Anyone wanna play devil's advocate???
 
Well the obvious arguement would be that your friend should know what his girl is doing behind his back but idk about this one. I would usually go with the above arguement but that may cause some unnecessary tension and in the end may even make things worse, especially if your friends with the female in question as well. Hmm, you know the situation more than anyone on this forum so I'll let you make this decison ;)
 
Yea, my "friend" should have the right to know what his girl is about but there's another issue. He's physically abusive to her, in a real bad way. I'm afraid I tell my homeboy "look what Shay did" and have him go home and lay his hands on her. For her safety I think it's best he not know. If she doesn't leave him after all the times he's gotten physical with her I can't say she's muuuuuch better. Ugh.
 
In that case it may be best to not tell him what she did, that relationship is bound to crumble in any moment anyways so no need to make things worse. You should really talk to your friend about how he treats his woman though, if you see him disrespecting and/or hitting her around you SPEAK UP! That shit is just not acceptable in my book. As for your last sentence, some woman always wanna change people or keep the thought in their mind that someday their men will change, this is the truth... The amount of shit some females take from their SO's is sometimes borderline insane.

Also, some woman are just generally afraid to leave relationships some time as their SO has stricken them with so much fear, this is really a sad sight to see. I know this may be a bit shady but I would have a talk with your friends girl and try and see why she is still with him and possibly even sway her to leave. I know, I know he's your friend and all but by not discussing this type of stuff you may be doing a big disservice. Normally it's good to leave other peoples personal relationships alone but I think that goes out the window when one is abusing his SO and the other is trying to hook up with his best friend... this relationship obviously just isn't meant to be. That's just my 2¢
 
is this a good friend or a "friend" (as in you two don't give a fuck about each other at the end of the day.) if it's the first you did the right thing, if it's the second then you should have banged her out.
 
treezy z said:
is this a good friend or a "friend" (as in you two don't give a fuck about each other at the end of the day.) if it's the first you did the right thing, if it's the second then you should have banged her out.
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Yup. I was in the second situation (very very similar to the OP's. Except he was my weed guy). She rocked my world. I think about her at least twice a week. And this happened 15 years ago.
 
^ya there's very little i would do (or not do) for fake ass friends. i don't even call them friends though, i call them either aquaintances or "people i chill with."

the word "friend" is not one i use lightly.
 
If he's physically abusive to her I'd just ditch them both and never look back. Just my 2 cents.
 
First, yes you did the right thing.

Second, the girlfriend doesn't seem like that great of a girl if she's willing to cheat on her boyfriend.

Third, probably most important, why is your friend such a jerk? I don't know, I probably wouldn't want to be friends with someone who treated their partner (or anyone) poorly.
 
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