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my dad,70,dying o cancer

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thedawn

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hi,
my dad has been sick for long and now it's almost over.

he had a bad life cuz of the pain of drugs.

he watched helpless through me using heroin for two decades.

he never knew what to do or what was right.i do not blame him.

i was able to make amends.

well,today is a good day to die.
today is a good day 2 live.
 
I'm sorry to read out your father thedawn, I lost my mother in law a few years ago after a long and heartbreaking fight with cancer.

My wife was devastated and in truth she still is but she takes some comfort in doing some of the things her mother would have wanted, looking out for her father, being a fantastic mother and little things that don't translate as well.

You need to struggle on for your father, I'm prepared to stick my neck out and suggest he would want you to. I'm sure he wanted the best for you and you may not think you have lived up to much of that, but he will have love for you just for being you.

Life is the struggle, you're clearly an intelligent and articulate human being, don't devalue yourself <3
 
thedawn, are you in the same city as your Dad? I have spent time with quite a few people in the dying process (my Dad, my uncle, an aunt and a very good friend). All of these people knew they were dying and it has changed my mind about wanting to go "in my sleep from a quick heart attack". There is an unbelievable state of grace that can happen when someone knows they are leaving. My Dad and I were able to cut through all the bullshit that we had had between us for years and just laugh together and love each other at the end. I know it meant a lot to him to be able to say things he never would have said had he not known he was dying. I hope you get some time like that with your Dad. It's a very sacred time. The heart opens.
 
yeah,as u can understand i can barely read and understand
what u guys r writing.

but I'm sure its positive.

i love you.
 
thedawn said:
hi,
my dad has been sick for long and now it's almost over.

he had a bad life cuz of the pain of drugs.

he watched helpless through me using heroin for two decades.

he never knew what to do or what was right.i do not blame him.

i was able to make amends.

well,today is a good day to die.
today is a good day 2 live.
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So very sorry for your Dad and for what you are going through right now. I cannot begin to imagine how difficult this must be for you.

Thinking of you and all my love to you and your family,

Evey xxxx
 
I lost my mum to cancer in 2012, she fought it for 8 years. Be strong for your father and spend as much time as you can with him. That's what I did with my mother and I have no regrets as I have said all I wanted and done all I wanted to do with her. I have no regrets.
 
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