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So I made a post in another part of the website looking for potential chat friends. Due to me suggesting they be from a specific area my post was closed because it was assumed I was sourcing or whatever the term is. That really pissed me off. I am not in recovery and I don't want to feel like I have to be actively looking for recovering addict friends.

I was going and am going through a lonely time and was hoping that somebody from the tri-state area or close would understand what it's like to live around here and deal with the fact that there are such easy access to drugs. I even specified that I was only looking for internet friends. I was closed down anyways. I said I would repost something else.

I believe in addiction, but I don't subscribe to the idea that drugs are evil. If things get out of control that's our own fault not the drug's fault.

Anyways I am new in New Jersey. I am a good student with aspirations in interpreting and social science grad school who enjoys reading about ethnobotany and I also happen to do H. But it's just one facet of my personality.

Tell me about yourself.
 
Hi, I'm so sorry you had such a very bad reaction to a post. I am new here, so if I make mistakes please forgive. It really blows that you are just going through a bad time and looking for someone to chat with. Drugs are obviously not evil -- pain relief and feeling good are something every human looks for. Good God, if you removed drugs from the planet we would see some major anarchy!! Drugs can be addictive, obviously, but for some of us that is just the cost of staying sane. I suffer terribly from pain related to Multiple Sclerosis, so have inadvertently become an addict. What's the alternative? Suffer in agonizing pain until I die? No freaking way.

I also have zero judgement against those who choose to do drugs recreationally. As long as they are aren't hurting anyone, what is the big deal? Alcohol is just as much a drug as any of the so-called "evil" ones. Most other drugs don't result in bar fights, loss of control, etc. So why they separate alcohol from the category of "drugs" is frankly beyond me.

I'm happy to hear you are a student who is interested in learning. WTG. I am an actress in California, so not close by but still felt the desire to reply since I felt bad that your new post was closed.

Take care, and good luck to you!!

Ashley
 
Hello From London \o/

LaughingDead, I totally believe that you had all good intentions, but a lot on Blue Light sign up, try and make connections to score and then we end up with a drug trafficking site. I've notified the moderators to have a look at this thread so hopefully they can explain why that specific decision was made.

It looks as if it's just a misinterpretation of your thread, please don't be put off by it. Blue Light is a great forum!

Welcome to Blue Light and enjoy your stay!
 
Welcome to bluelight laughingdead. I'm sorry to hear you're a bit put off by what has transpired. That said we do have very strict rules in place in regards to anything that might resemble drug solicitation. This serves to protect both our members and the forum as a whole.

I do firmly believe what you're saying, but understand that you're an exception not the rule when it comes to many new users intentions when posting something with similar content.

The best thing to do is to contact the staff member that said interaction was with via PM. I promise, they're very reasonable. They help to run a different section of bluelight than I do, and I certainly won't pretend to speak for them, but I'd think you could work out a slight edit to the thread with them and have it reopened.

Most people here just to score drugs aren't going to keep open communications after having a thread closed, so that fact you're willing to should be well received.

(as noted below future threads of this subject matter are better placed in support - this is fine here given you've just signed up this month and you're receiving some welcomes to bL as well)

For future reference, I'll list the proper procedure for disputing a moderation below:
How to Make Comments, Suggestions and Complaints

Why was my post closed or moved? I don't understand what I did wrong.

There was almost certainly a good reason for this to happen, even if you aren't aware of it. But sometimes moderators might make mistakes, too. Often things aren't cut and dried, and a decision could easily go either way. If you think we've made a wrong decision, here's what to do:

  • The post will state which moderator closed it. Send them a PM to ask why it was closed.
  • Be polite. There is no need to be overly angry or belligerent – this will only make things worse.
  • Clearly indicate your question or problem. If you just want an explanation, ask for one. If you disagree with their stated reason for their actions, say why you disagree. Don’t leave them guessing.
  • Include a link to the thread in question. This makes it easier for them to know what you are talking about, rather than having to dig.
  • Be patient. Moderators have lives, too.
  • Please remember that it is not uncommon for a poster's polite inquiry or request for clarifcation to result in a thread being re-opened or a decision reversed.
What if I do not receive a response from the moderators?

Please wait at least 24 hours. If you do not receive a response, contact another forum mod, or the forum senior mod. Explain the original situation and state how much time has passed.

What if my problem is with the moderators? Who do I contact?

Please make a reasonable attempt to resolve the issue with the moderator(s) in question privately. If that fails, contact the forum senior mod or administrator and explain the situation. When you do so, remember the following:

  • Once again, be polite and patient.
  • Include any communication you have had with the moderator(s) in question.
  • Clearly indicate the problem and include links to illustrate what you are talking about.
If, at any point, you feel unsatisfied with this process or you would simply prefer to air your issue in public, you should start a thread in the Support forum and we'll address the issue there. As with participation in any forum, please ensure your post is civil. If you have received a ban and wish to discuss or make a case for having it overturned, under no circumstances should you create an alt account to communicate with the staff. In that case, send an email to [email protected]. Alternately, post a message in the Anonymous Posting forum and request that it be moved to Support. Again, you are urged to be civil in your communication.

Bluelight gives a lot of power to the moderators to manage the day-to-day operation of the forums. Making a difficult judgment call or committing a simple human error does not mean a moderator was derelict in their duty. Please note that the complaints procedure stops with the site ownership. If you are still unsatisfied, just laugh and remind yourself that Bluelight is only a message board.
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Thanks Bronson. I wish I had seen your reply earlier. You seem nice from what I've read of your other threads. I have a hard time fitting in in real life and I think that quality has followed me to online forums! Haha
 
Hey, I live in the tri-state area as well (and I shoot heroin, too - - damn, separated at birth! heh)... Anyway, I'm sorry you had a crappy initial-posting issue. I don't really know the rules here, either. Just sort of feeling my way around, trying not to offend. I, too, have lurked for longer than I can even accurately remember, but finally decided to stick my toe in the whirlpool... I'll probably screw up sooner rather than later, and have a mod make me feel like a jackass. Oh well. Won't be the first time. (That I've felt like a jackass.)
 
Thank you. I feel welcomed now. ;)

Thanks. Yes... I feel like this is a place where a lot of frustrations get vented. But that may be a good thing.
 
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