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How low is it for a father to abandon his baby pre-birth?

lot of slut-shaming in this thread. who cares if she WAS "a whore". that means she has no feelings, no soul? Sleeping with lots of guys makes her an awful person but it just makes a guy a stud? Come on guys, it's twenty fucking fourteen. grow up.



If he doesn't want to have a relationship with her, that's fine. But abandoning a child is LOW. Period dot. I don't care what his "reasons" are.
 
BlueSaffron said:
But abandoning a child is LOW. Period dot. I don't care what his "reasons" are.
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Coming from personal experience, I would have to agree with this statement. My father left pre-birth, and regardless of his reasons, it's left lasting and irreparable amounts of psychological damage regarding abandonment, love, trust, etc. Im sure it's a multi-faceted discussion, and it's quite possible the father isn't entirely to blame for the issue (and it's certainly positive to see that he's taken more responsibility in his life)...but I feel that regardless of who is to blame, it will more than likely lead to a life-time of pain for the newborn. Hopefully it's a situation in which he has a change of heart...it really is potentially one of the more devastating things one could do to a child.
 
I've also dealt with a situation somewhat similar. After not meeting my biological father, my mother eventually re-married and I had a step-father whose presence also created a great amount of negativity in my life (alcoholism, physical/emotional abuse, etc)...I still feel as if it's my biological father leaving pre-birth which has caused me more problems. The issues with the other father-figure in my life were at least able to be discussed and dealt with in an active manner...a father leaving pre-birth entirely shuts down communication and seems to make healing a much more difficult process.
 
I think men get the short end of the stick sometimes, when it comes to this.

people think: girl's body, girl's decision. But I think that's crap.
A man should have the right to choose if he wants to father a child.
 
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Yeah I don't think it's very fair at all the idea that its "all the womens choice" It takes 2 to tango and although we don't actually carry a baby inside of us, it's still half ours, and we should still have a say in whether it's born and what happens afterward.
 
There's nothing wrong with being a promiscuous stripper, but I would think the lifestyle would make most guys feel like they were getting involved with someone that has the foresight and experience to not let an accidental pregnancy happen. I agree that it takes 2 to tango, guys have a choice as well. Of course every situation is different and some dudes are dead beats for walking away. Some chicks are dead beats for expecting the father to stick around, or not going another route.

the guy clearly doesn't care about this woman as much as one should when having a kid. Growing up in a broken family can suck no matter the circumstances. Personally, I'd trade the experience of my parents divorcing (and the opiate addiction that came with it) when I was a teenager for an MIA parent any day.
 
I dunno maybe he thought an abortion would be the best outcome for all of them and she refused. Or maybe he impregnated some badass' girl and wasn't interested in getting beaten to a pulp

In general people should take of their children, but it's not necessarily a black and white issue.
 
If it is actually his child, I think it would be low if he never visited the kid EVER...but as far as impregnating an active stripper, that's already getting into some murky shit. And if he was always partying on the east coast, and if the stripper just got knocked up, then, well, I don't see how you could blame him for wanting to bail on a girl who would likely be about to get fired (if she doesn't get an abortion) and would need a steady influx of money over the coming years to provide for the both of them...I do think that it is irresponsible if it IS his baby to just up and run on them like that, but shit man, I wouldn't blame a guy for ditching a fucked up situation. That's why I pull out first...honestly his main mistake in all of this was just getting her pregnant in the first place.
 
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