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Am I gay,straight or bisexual?

Grigore

Grigore

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I'm anxious when talking with girls,can't be romantic with them,can't kiss them(stupid mental barrier since 7th grade when I liked a girl and was afraid to tell her) but I have no sexual inhibition when it comes to fucking them and also,I never had orgasm from fucking a girl,after 20 minutes or so I would just stop being excited about the whole thing and think about stopping(you know,like the way you think seconds after having orgasm)

With a guy,I have no anxiety,I can be romantic with him,I can french kiss him without any fear of rejection or something like that,about the sex part,I haven't got laid with a guy yet,just got handjobs from different guys and got erections a bit slower compared to the ones that I get from girls

But,this might happen because I'm used to fantasize about girls and I haven't fantasized about guys yet,maybe it's just a mental trigger or something like that.

Also,I can suck half of my cock since I was 17 (by that time I discovered I could do this) and whenever I masturbate I finish by cumming in my mouth.For straight people it might sound disgusting but the feeling is extremely pleasant.
What do you think?

How much % am I gay?
How much % am I straight?
 
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I don't think there is a "percentage". I think you're simply bi. That's fine. You are clearly interested in both genders. You're more nervous around girls... that happens.
 
when I masturbate it takes about 30 to 45 minutes for me to cum,sometimes 1 hour if I do it when I'm not in a good mood.
from chronic dxm use I developed some sort of subconscious repulsion that prevents me from cumming in less than a half an hour,it's some sort of mental barrier that tells my brain that I simply can't do that and somehow,I'm quite proud of it.

No guy had enough patience to give me a fast handjob for more than 30 minutes in order to make me cum so I don't know,I need to fuck a guy first and see if I'll cum or if I really have a problem about reaching orgasm when having sex.

I might be bisexual,but, the thing that I want to figure out is:do I sound like I am more inclined on the gay side or on the straight side? this is what I can't figure out.
 
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You may try to stop reaching for orgasm. I dont know. For a label, "bi".

How old are you now? Your comfort seems to be higher with males, but I wouldn't try to make your mind up. But its up to you.
 
alasdairm said:
who cares? if you do, why?

alasdair
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Strongly agree with this. IMO, there is no straight, or gay, or bi. There's just you, maybe you like girls or guys or both, what does it matter? Society gets entirely too hung up on these stupid labels.

I used to wonder if I might be gay when I was younger, I think most people wonder it at some point in their life regardless of if they admit to it. It's normal, but it doesn't really matter, you don't have to lock yourself in to either. I consider myself straight on the whole, but only in a primary sexual attraction kinda way. I would be willing to experiment with another woman if the situation developed that way. Maybe that makes me bi? Personally I don't care. Other people can do the labelling. I know who I am, labels are for other peoples benefit, not mine. I know this is harder than it sounds. This attitude didn't come to me overnight. It's just advice, something to strive for if it appeals to you. We all want to know who we are, but I don't think that answer comes in labels. Somewhere in you, I'm sure you sense who you are. That may conform to a label or it might not, either way doesn't matter.
 
If you insist on labels for yourself, I suggest 'sexually ambiguous.' That way you can be whatever you want, and you can change it with the weather.
 
morninggloryseed said:
If you insist on labels for yourself, I suggest 'sexually ambiguous.' That way you can be whatever you want, and you can change it with the weather.
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I think I'll stick with that term lol

@JessFR that's kind of wise,thanks for the answer,now,I really don't feel the need to place myself in a sexual orientation label created by society..
 
uuuhh... lol I tried to suck my own cock before... I was in the bathroom and was trying to masturbate but it wasn't feeling good yet I was very horny... I came close... "I'm unable to reach". Can't say I like thinking about it. Thank you op... I definitely know where your coming from bro
 
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Lysis said:
So instead of trying to identify a particular desire or habit he should just make up some label to replace a label to make himself feel better?
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I never said that. You are the second person who failed to read my post. 'If you insist on labels for yourself"


Since other posters already suggested that labels are silly (and I agree), I merely supplied a different answer so as not to parrot the ones already provided....and the OP found it helpful so :p
 
to me not being able to cum quickly is more of an issue than the labels.

it screams to me drug use (ssri's, opiates) of some sort or that you cannot cum without intimacy. were you able to cum easily before the dxm abuse?
 
I bet there are a lot of people out there who would love find a lover who takes so long to come.
I think you are bi personally. IMHO 95% of the people on this planet are.
 
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