trying to relive highschool

[!_MDMA_!]

so i'll try to keep this real short and simple

i'm basically trying to relive my highschool years (i graduated about a year and a half ago) because i spent most them doing drugs with one particular best friend. unfortunately when i found this best friend was doing meth behind by back for 6 months i haven't spoken to him in 2 months. now all this makes me bitter because it feels like i wasted my highschool, once i saw where this drug path leads.

now i realize i should've been doing less drugs and instead building relationship and particularly having girlfriends. now this leads me to a girl i had a crush on my senior year (she had a bf that whole year), we recently met up again at my local community college. i got her number off facebook and we texted for awhile and hung out once. we had a good time and she made signs after the date that she liked me too; she unpromptedly sent me music on facebook because i told her i didn't know what was good to listen to on the date, she invited me to go hiking, we would be kinda flirty over text with nicknames and shit. unfortunately she's really flaky and we never actually hung out again. last saturday i called her no answer, she calls me back says she just got off work and i invite her to hang out again and she agrees but not too late cause she has work in the morning. later she texts me again flaking saying she's too tired from work today.

at this point i call her on her shit and tell her "i'm interested in you but what's the point if we don't meet up?" and she says how i'm really sweet and doesn't want to lead me on. i ask her why i should keep asking her to hang out if she always flakes and she says something along the lines of "don't pursue me right now b/c i have a lot going on and you don't deserve my divided attention". ok i'm not an idiot, i know if she was super into me she would make time for me no matter what her schedule. two girls i talked to independently about her told me they think there's an ex or someone else in the picture and she doesn't know what she wants.

normally at this point i would just move on completely but with her i don't want to because i've wanted her for a long time now and i can tell she likes me to a degree too. and it ties into wanting to relive my highschool years, it feels like even now i'm mostly crushing on girls that i went to highschool with .

so my two questions are:

what can i do to move on from wanting to relive my highschool years?
and
is there any coming back from getting rejected by this girl? is there anything else i can do at this point?

 

[ATLL765]

Ok, so I know this is the blind leading the blind here, but I'll give it a shot, lol.

You could get what you want if she realizes her ex isn't right for her and you are, but she's clearly hung up on something/somebody though. If you're really into her, you can try to stick around, but you could get friend-zoned or at the least just be torturing yourself by keeping her close to you, but not close enough to be happy about it.

Imo, sounds like you're just a bit depressed here and are reminiscing/being nostalgic over old times that you recall being easier or better. It wasn't a missed opportunity, it was a life lesson. Learn from it and move on.

You gotta find something worth your time and that you find enjoyable right now. Be it a hobby, friends, another girl, driving in circles all day, etc. It's kinda like getting clean and you just need something to do to keep your mind off drugs. I went from heroin...to lots of alcohol for a bit, then weaned myself off straight into spending all my money on SW fish tanks...which is a more acceptable addiction, I guess. I needed something to consume my time so I didn't think about the things I used to as much. Friends and a hobby was a great distraction until I started feeling better. It's still a great distraction.

Time heals all wounds ya know, so you can't sit around waiting for someone or something to show up or the wound just festers. Just find something to keep your mind busy and know if she does have feelings for you and they're strong enough, maybe she'll come find you when need be and it'll be a nice thing for you, but don't count it. Just my $.02.

 

[T. Calderone]

i know if she was super into me she would make time for me no matter what her schedule.

Unless she works 12 hour shifts, I don't see what's stopping her. She may or not be involved with another guy, or super busy but who knows? Ask her out once again, and if she turns you down you can't say that you never tried. Honestly when I first read that you keep wishing for those high school years, I'm thinking you're in your 30's or older. You're not old, you can see those girls you were crushing on and many more at your community college. Stop being scared and move ahead.

 

[Ksa]

Why would you want to be with a woman working 12 hour shifts. You won't be the husband/boyfriend, her company is. Wouldn't be surprized if her boss bangs her from time to time either, with people working so late, all kind of improper thoughts occur. If she can't dedicate time to take you on a date, then she can't take care of her family duties either so might as well jerk-off or find someone else.

 

[!_MDMA_!]

Ok, so I know this is the blind leading the blind here, but I'll give it a shot, lol.

You could get what you want if she realizes her ex isn't right for her and you are, but she's clearly hung up on something/somebody though. If you're really into her, you can try to stick around, but you could get friend-zoned or at the least just be torturing yourself by keeping her close to you, but not close enough to be happy about it.

Imo, sounds like you're just a bit depressed here and are reminiscing/being nostalgic over old times that you recall being easier or better. It wasn't a missed opportunity, it was a life lesson. Learn from it and move on.

You gotta find something worth your time and that you find enjoyable right now. Be it a hobby, friends, another girl, driving in circles all day, etc. It's kinda like getting clean and you just need something to do to keep your mind off drugs. I went from heroin...to lots of alcohol for a bit, then weaned myself off straight into spending all my money on SW fish tanks...which is a more acceptable addiction, I guess. I needed something to consume my time so I didn't think about the things I used to as much. Friends and a hobby was a great distraction until I started feeling better. It's still a great distraction.

Time heals all wounds ya know, so you can't sit around waiting for someone or something to show up or the wound just festers. Just find something to keep your mind busy and know if she does have feelings for you and they're strong enough, maybe she'll come find you when need be and it'll be a nice thing for you, but don't count it. Just my $.02.

Winter quarter is beginning on Monday, I'm looking forward to that. I'll be busy with classes and I'll spend most of my time on campus, which always makes meeting new girls and friends a possibility. I just take a lot of nerdy science classes, sometimes it's hard to meet attractive girls in those classes. Not that women aren't that smart, it's just a matter of the careers they typically pursue.

I'd probably be more understanding if we didn't have a connection, if when we hung out it was two people sitting in awkward silence with no mutual interests or similarities. But there was obviously a lot in common between us, and at the same time there's something between us on her side that I don't understand which is really annoying. I might run into her on campus, if I believed she'd tell me the truth I'd probably ask her what and why, but I'm not sure she'd be honest. She did deactivate her facebook so maybe she is busy idk whateva!

Unless she works 12 hour shifts, I don't see what's stopping her. She may or not be involved with another guy, or super busy but who knows? Ask her out once again, and if she turns you down you can't say that you never tried. Honestly when I first read that you keep wishing for those high school years, I'm thinking you're in your 30's or older. You're not old, you can see those girls you were crushing on and many more at your community college. Stop being scared and move ahead.

A lot of them went away to four year colleges so that's a bigger problem. I'm not scared, I'm more surprised that you're not telling how unhealthy it would be to pursue a relationship with one of these high school girls as it would contribute to me living in the past and not moving on. Or maybe it would cure my problem? Who knows.

I don't think I want to contact her atleast for awhile, I deleted her number and all possible ways to get it back aside from going online and checking my phone bill and I don't want to do that. Maybe if she misses me she'll try to reach me, but I doubt it because she always seemed kind of insecure for that (but I don't know her that well).

Why would you want to be with a woman working 12 hour shifts. You won't be the husband/boyfriend, her company is. Wouldn't be surprized if her boss bangs her from time to time either, with people working so late, all kind of improper thoughts occur. If she can't dedicate time to take you on a date, then she can't take care of her family duties either so might as well jerk-off or find someone else.

She doesn't work 12 hour shifts lol. What just bothers me is she made it clear she likes me back, but something is holding her back. I'm hoping to meet someone new when I go back to school. I also may be transferring around June to finish my education at a four year school, that should be amazing I'm looking forward to it.

 

[llama112]

First, high school isn't worth reliving. Enjoy your college years. High school is nothing special, college is much better.
Second, if this girl has rejected you multiple times, then move on.

 

[ATLL765]

She did deactivate her facebook so maybe she is busy idk whateva!

It looks like that when someone blocks you too. Not to be a pessimist, but got a mutual friend to check that out with? Wouldn't be the first time a woman freaked out and just shut people out.

 

[severely etarded]

friendzoned

 

[pofacedhoe]

hmm if someone genuinely likes you they will actively pursue you if you are free

there is no such thing as people being held back from what they really want. but there are people who string guys along for the power trip.

its lame but it happens day in day out. you're young you could have any girl you like

 

[!_MDMA_!]

It looks like that when someone blocks you too. Not to be a pessimist, but got a mutual friend to check that out with? Wouldn't be the first time a woman freaked out and just shut people out.

na it's deactivation it says so in my friend's list
and she's still liking my shit on instagram

friendzoned

yea ur probably right buddy
you live and you learn

hmm if someone genuinely likes you they will actively pursue you if you are free

there is no such thing as people being held back from what they really want. but there are people who string guys along for the power trip.

its lame but it happens day in day out. you're young you could have any girl you like

she did pursue me for awhile before and after we hung out, she musta changed her mind idk i dont really care anymore tbh
tired of thinking about her
i did consider she was leading me on, but if she really just wanted the attention she wouldn't have stopped me from texting her anymore by her saying she didn't want to lead me on and not to pursue her
i know plenty of girls who woulda said something sly that kept giving me a glimmer of hope to keep trying


anyways i'm looking forward to getting back to school i'm sure i can meet someone there as long as i take advantage of opportunities and stay open to things