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Do people really need sex?

Well this is quite depressing to know because Ive never had sex or even have been close to being in a relationship before. Although having never experienced romance or love, I guess its better that I havent had sex at all than to have it one or twice and really enjoy it and then never have it again :/
 
Some people need it, some people don't.

Me? I've never had it, and am considering celibacy at this point, just because time is money and I love money. I'm not anti-social, people like me, I'm intelligent and confident, but simply can't be bothered to search for one-night stands. I'm always horny and don't believe in love, so that's all I'd be interested in.

I'd much, much rather be able to buy the things I want than anything else in the world. Since nothing is handed to me and I don't want any handouts, I work non-stop :D
 
pofacedhoe said:
yes! sex is the best with talents and intimacy
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I could never go bang some random dude, but I've had bad and good sex and good sex with some kind of intimate connection is amazing. Isn't there scientific research that cumming is good for the man's long-term prostate health?

Changed said:
If you answer "no," you've never had good sex.

This coming from somebody that felt like the OP for 25 years of my life, until I allowed myself to feel worthy of sexual pleasure, and let's just say: it feels good man.
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lol I remember that and then you went wild.
 
I have gone long periods of time with out sex due largely to being stuck in some god forsaken country trying not to die. How my girl managed to not go crazy from lack of sex while I was gone is beyond me, because frankly in the 4 years I have been home, the longest we have gone is 2 days with out sex. Now I have a high libido ( enhanced by my use of exogenous Testosterone) and her libido is damn near as high as mine naturally. Now granted I love this girl, more then any thing, so sex fro is is just another way to connect at a deeper level. And then of course there is the good 'ol fashion dirty sweaty jungle sex fest that is nothing but pure pent up animal urges ( btw best way to spend a rainy after noon or hell a sunny afternoon fro that matter). Any way the point being that you can live with out sex, every bit as much as you can live with out music adn art, but damn do music and art make life worth living.
 
Absolutely! You crazy?! :D

Sex has many benefits but the best benefit from it IMO is it is an amazing STRESS RELIEVER
 
dopemaster said:
Just 2 partners in your life Snake Eyes?

I stopped counting at about 20 women. Geez I have had sex with 3 women at the same time.

Wow. I am just surprised. I think if I guessed at how many women I shagged you would think I was a degenerate or a liar. That being said that is besides the point.

Maybe you just haven't had good sex or are shy. You really shouldn't give up on sex.

I just do not understand not having sex unless it is controlling your every thought and you need a break.

I did get to the point where I felt the need for sex. I was dating/shagging/juggling 3 relationships at once and I got caught. I ended up with the gal I fancied the most. I ended up cheating on her when she was on her period if she didn't suck me off.

I needed a break then, but other than that I have never felt the need to not have sex. If I was unable to get laid for more than 3 months, I would most likely fuck a prostitute. Thank God that it has not happened.

The thing is I feel so much healthier when I have sex. Also sex is so great. It beats any drug in the world. I cannot fathom denying myself that, especially when women want to shag just as much as I do.

Sometimes its good to have an open relationship with an understanding. Maybe two. I really couldn't imagine not having someone I could call and shag.
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Yep almost 40 and only two partners. The first was a 6 month relationship and we humped like bunnies. The second was a 4 year relationship/marriage. As far as I'm concerned the sex was good so it's not like it was a bad experience or anything. Both of those relationships I just kind of fell into so I never went looking and...well...I never fell into anything else. I'm now incredibly antisocial, shy, self loathing and after years of not even being on so much as of a date you can imagine that I have zero self esteem. My age is another thing weighing against me because the only females that I'm around are in their early 20's if that.
 
This is an interesting question to me, too. I'm no expert on sex at this point (unfortunately, lol), but obviously it is an extremely pleasurable thing. And I've seen references to a few studies that conclude certain health benefits to regular sex. But to what extent do people insist that they "need" it, or that they benefit in some way from it, just as a way of rationalizing or justifying it, because it feels so damn good? The same way a drug addict might rationalize that he/she needs a drug in order to treat his or her depression / anxiety / whatever?
 
it helps keep the connection between partners, maintain the attraction between couples, sex leads to all kinds of freaky deaky, it's great after a trying day, you get to wear all sort of black leather and heels, get to practice on your video taping skills, you can ignore the kids (cuz its sex), the orgasms make you wanna urinate on them, its great for cardio and stretching and eating. ty
 
The health benefits alone of sex are great.

The emotional connection, however fleeting it may be, between two people that is experienced during sex is just irrepplacable.

I do not think single people need sex everyday. In a relationship it is important to keep sex good and keep it going, but thats a bit off topic.

I would say when single maybe at the bare minimum its optimal to not go for than a month or two without a partner. Of course it happens to everyone where they have a dry spell. But if its on your mind all the time, you probably need to get laid. You feel much better mentally and physically.

The emotional connection that can last in relationships of all degrees and though brief when casual, is something mammals in general need.
 
geoffreychaucer said:
I should probably say that the only sex I've had was with one person, my ex. And I should also say that I did not enjoy the sex other than knowing that I was having sex finally. This girl was great, we really got along well and she was far more attractive than I could have ever hoped for. But I just don't think that generic sex is very arousing. In all the 20 or so attempts, I was never able to cum. I just don't see how something so common as sticking your penis in a woman's vagina turns people on. Obviously that's a massive over-simplification but still. People tell me, "Well then you just have to keep trying with different people until you like it". I have two issues with that. First, it's not like it's that easy to find someone to have sex with. If I started talking up different girls tomorrow, maybe I could be having sex with one of them within the month, maybe. But more importantly, if I did start really liking it then I'm hooked and I'll have to look for sex for the rest of my life. That's like willingly getting addicted to something isn't it?
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No offence dude but there is the possibility you're asexual or there are some issues at play here because to put it bluntly this is not normal. Not cumming at 20 attempts, wtf? Most young lads can't last 2 minutes...
 
geoffreychaucer said:
I consider myself to have a somewhat normal sex drive.
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geoffreychaucer said:
I masturbate on average once a day to rid myself of excess sexual feelings
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People can live without sex, yes. Can you?
Like Gratuitous Grace said, your issue seems to be with relationships/sociality more than with sex. Avoiding sex will not solve the problem but, on the contrary, will add frustration. You should look for another solution to your problem :P
 
Well there are plenty of chicks out there. There are many ways to find them. You just gotta apply yourself. T

here is more than one person for everyone that will work out well.
 
Snake_Eyes said:
Not really. Unless you're female online dating is for pretty people.
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False. I have a friend that isn't attractive, but has a great personality, and he cleans up w/ online services. He goes on a date with a new girl seemingly every week, and sleeps with a good number of them within a couple dates.
 
N.b. that women perceive males as pretty on a much more individual basis than men do. Like If a guy thinks a broad is cute, probably most guise will agree. A woman can think a dude is cute & it's much less likely that many others will think the same.

IIRC I read that in Men's Health
 
geoffreychaucer said:
I consider myself to have a somewhat normal sex drive. Also, I know that I'm not unattractive and I know that I can hold a conversation and people tend to like me. However, I switched from your normal college experience to an urban commuter school where meeting people requires effort. I like it this way and left my other school partly because I don't enjoy having to talk to people all day and having to keep up superficial relationships with people I don't care for.

Anyway, if I continue living as I do now, I won't have sex for the rest of my college experience. I go to class and I return to my apartment when I am done. Unless I make some serious efforts, I will not meet anyone. I am slightly concerned about this on an introspective level but I have no feelings of loneliness or sexual frustration. My question is really, would "normal" people find this situation intolerable or am I a "normal" person who has just adapted to my circumstances?

I masturbate on average once a day to rid myself of excess sexual feelings but other than that, a lack of sex is not an issue. I do have urges to talk to pretty girls but then I think about the possible outcomes and realize I want none of them. Sex to me just seems incredibly pointless if its not with someone you love or care about. And getting to that point with someone seems like it would take a lot of energy and time so why pursue it? Can I be happy without sex despite having a sex drive? I really hope so. I want nothing more than to live my life without needing sex. It just seems like in this "progressive" century, you always read and hear about the importance of sex and stuff like that. But that's the physical release which can be obtained alone right? What is it about sex with another person that is held with such high esteem? There has to be other non-asexual people out there who willingly choose celibacy. Thanks for your input.
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masturbating once a day is a lot do you watch porn? how long do you masturbate for? maybe channel that energy towards another pursuit in life.
 
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