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Difficulties in finding a girlfriend

SoonAJunkie

SoonAJunkie

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First of all id like to say that i dont need a girlfriend SO BAD.But something baffles me...

I am 180cm tall and 62 kg not bad face,not bald,im actually a nice guy but i dont succeed in girls.

For real,some guys are UGLY,i mean black like gypsies or chubby but still get girls...and i dont.Im not really the popular guy that goes on parties etc...It was on july of 2012,the last time i kissed a girl...but from then on nothing
Im also not into social media like facebook and well maybe its my character that is bad idk...
I am a guy that plays LoL,im studying,im good at it,my appearence is nice...but zero girls

what do you think is the problem with me?
 
you need to be a quite proactive to get girls I think. You need to get out there, go to clubs and bars, and start talking to people. But don't overdo it. Find a balance between coming across as desperate and being proactive about finding a girl.

anyone can find a girl, there will be plenty of people out there who want to sleep with you. But as I said, you do have to put a bit of effort in I think, often it doesn't just happen. Work out, dress nice, come across as a fun, easy going guy, have the courage to approach girls (without coming across as creepy) and it won't be too long. You will get rejected a fair bit too, and it won't happen straight away, but eventually it will.

in terms of approaching girls, don't be too obvious, I think the best thing to do is just go over, introduce yourself and start a conversation. Don't use cheesy pick up lines, don't be too forward, don't try grinding on the dancefloor without introducing yourself. Just relax and take it easy. If she doesn't seem interested, say bye politely then walk off.

this method worked for me anyway : ) try not to get too drunk or high when your out too, a bit of liquid/ chemical confidence helps but I know one guy who should do well with girls but he always drinks too much and ends up coming across as a dick. I've ruined my chances before by being well and truly off my tits, particularly on stuff like ketamine and mdma.
 
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Put yourself in social mingling situations.

Bars are my go to lol. You may be a tad more socially awkward than you think...but there are so many girls way worse off than you. Without parties or Facebook she's not going to fall in ur lap. It takes opportunity and ... Luck.

Sounds like your confidence is good. What about going to the gym?

And my 100 percent patented fool proof method:
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Btw anything harder than chronic is gonna put u out of range of more than 85 percent of females
 
SoonAJunkie said:
First of all id like to say that i dont need a girlfriend SO BAD.But something baffles me...

I am 180cm tall and 62 kg not bad face,not bald,im actually a nice guy but i dont succeed in girls.

For real,some guys are UGLY,i mean black like gypsies or chubby but still get girls...and i dont.Im not really the popular guy that goes on parties etc...It was on july of 2012,the last time i kissed a girl...but from then on nothing
Im also not into social media like facebook and well maybe its my character that is bad idk...
I am a guy that plays LoL,im studying,im good at it,my appearence is nice...but zero girls

what do you think is the problem with me?
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You don't have a social circle that gives you access to what you are looking for.
You can start advancing toward your goal of meeting more girls, by starting to make more friends asap.

Also, remember. For the most part, for a guy, as long as a girl is attractive and has a good personality, he will accept her.
Girls naturally look beyond that, looking for somebody who advances them in life. Be it socially or financially. So being tall, good looking, and in shape, only gets you so far, the next step is having your shit together. I know that it seems shallow, but it's a reality that you have to deal with. [ Side note: there are exceptions to that, and every, rule. ]
 
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Have something going on in your life that you are very passionate about and can do well, related to your career or maybe just a hobby. People tend to notice these things, and it can be quite attractive. Not to mention, if you get deeply into some sort of field or hobby you like, you will meet a large number of like-minded people in that particular community, a better way to find a partner than at a bar, in my opinion.
 
It seems you think bald, black, or chubby guys are ugly. I wonder if that attitude shines through when you're talking to girls? Like maybe they think you're judging them, too?
 
I'm bald . Some girls may not like it , some girls LOVE it. Some people love gipsies too , etc. I have no problems with getting girls that are attractive to me!
Go working out , eat more I would say...
 
You need to put yourself in more social situation. You need to be proactive about. Initiate conversation. Initiate relationships with other people.... anyone....
 
you gotta subtly flirt with a chick and then BAM as if they wanna fuck if your looking for action as far as a gf that you keep you get back to me when you find out how to find a good (not psycho) one

forgot i have a hint at how to just get laid i call it the walk fast then slow play it needs some work on the name but the technique is sound you walk ahead of a chick preferably at night and let her check you out then walk slow and check her out do this a couple times she'll know you want to fuck her if she's down she'll come on to you
 
Tude said:
It seems you think bald, black, or chubby guys are ugly. I wonder if that attitude shines through when you're talking to girls? Like maybe they think you're judging them, too?
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lol i didnt mean to sound like a douche,i was just trying to give an example...i mean,that there are worse people than me(appearence wise) but still get girls while im sitting here(you know)...
im not the most handsome guy,im just normal,i could have a normal gf too
 
I u go out with the mindset that ur gonna talk to women and meet someone, chances Are its not gonna happen. U most likely to meet girls thru a friend or acquaintance. For me and most ppl I kno, every long term, meaningful relationship Ive had started by a chance encounter. Like one day I showed up to a park to wait for my boy and just so happened to stumble upon my friend with these two girls, and I ended up dating that girl for like 2-3 years, and hooked up with the other one occasionally. My most recent fling started by meeting my friend on the subway and she ended up being with this really hot redhead and we kinda hit it off immediately.

Obviously u gotta put urself in social situations to meet ANYONE, but if I were u I wouldn't force it. Girls can sense disparity, and of u come off as desperate ur not gettin shit.

U talk Bout guys who are less Attractive than u getting girls And all I gotta say is u need confidence. It sounds so stupid but it's true, confidence is the number one thing which will attract any girl. U cud be jacked with a nice car and a dope house, but if ur a little insecure bitch ur not getting any women worthwhile.

Also if ur really having that much trouble, u say ur from Greece, move to America. These bitches love foreign guys ull b Rollin in it.
 
SoonAJunkie said:
lol i didnt mean to sound like a douche,i was just trying to give an example...i mean,that there are worse people than me(appearence wise) but still get girls while im sitting here(you know)...
im not the most handsome guy,im just normal,i could have a normal gf too
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It's not all about appearances, though. Not only in relationships, but in friendships, people seek personality.
 
Bodda said:
Nice comment there :/



You make sweeping comments about skin colour & seem to have some kind of Reichsführer style hate for black people & gypsies may be a good place to begin.
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Im cool with these people
Im talking from a girly perspective,i mean,they are bitchez and care only about appearence
 
my social life sucks, and im on oasis active and found a relationship in 3 weeks, we been together for a week only but still, my shit outlook on life and i still found a relationship by sitting in my room and talking online, try plenty of fish aswell :)
 
Bodda said:
Nice comment there :/



You make sweeping comments about skin colour & seem to have some kind of Reichsführer style hate for black people & gypsies may be a good place to begin.
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but I didn't read the word hate used.

So how does this work? If you successfully label him a nazi, you can thereafter disregard everything that he says?
 
mrflowers00 said:
forgot i have a hint at how to just get laid i call it the walk fast then slow play it needs some work on the name but the technique is sound you walk ahead of a chick preferably at night and let her check you out then walk slow and check her out do this a couple times she'll know you want to fuck her if she's down she'll come on to you
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Fucking lol.
 
SoonAJunkie said:
Im talking from a girly perspective,i mean,they are bitchez and care only about appearence
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Yeah, pretty sure that this could be your problem right here. The vast majority of women out there are in fact not bitches, and know that appearance makes up a small part of the whole package. Get some confidence in yourself, and give women some credit and you will most likely find someone.
 
Even the ugliest guys can get some cute girls. Seriously, I have given some unfortunate looking guys a chance because they just had this sort of swagger...haha oh god I sound like an idiot, but for real just turn up the game breh! Dont't be a cheese dick, don't be an asshole and treat girls like shit, just be yourself! Be confident and you will radiate this energy and girls will be drawn to you. Good luck my love!
 
Bodda said:
Nice comment there :/



You make sweeping comments about skin colour & seem to have some kind of Reichsführer style hate for black people & gypsies may be a good place to begin.
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I am sure even Neo Nazis can get cute girls.
 
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