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10 years and he says he wants sex with other women!!! fucked up i know

I don't think its so much that asking 'why' is an inappropriate question, but more that the answer to 'why' seems pretty self-evident. Might as well ask why we get hungry, or in the immortal words of Joe Dirt's father - "Why are boobs good?"
 
Yeah so you may think you know the answer. But if the question has never been asked, you can't tell for sure what the answer is. I'm not saying it'll solve the problem. I'm saying it could potentially help. No guarantee. But it can't hurt to ask a simple "why". Maybe he feels like he's missing something in the relationship, or in their sex life, that the OP never thought of before. Maybe that will give him the opportunity to bring it up. Again, it could not help at all, but it does have the potential.
 
pofacedhoe said:
^yeah but its not going to make my partner feel good if i talk about sleeping with other people :\
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Oh, I agree with that. I guess that's most people who feel that way don't voice their desire - they just enact on it, or suffer in silence.

And scureto1 is right, may as well ask why one is hungry. If it was a particular act he was after, I assume he would have specifically asked for that.
 
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quiet roar said:
Oh, I agree with that. I guess that's most people who feel that way don't voice their desire - they just enact on it, or suffer in silence.

And scureto1 is right, may as well ask why one is hungry. If it was a particular act he was after, I assume he would have specifically asked for that.
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my feeling is that most people want to sleep around at one point or another but don't or simply don't say it out loud. its not gonna make someone feel very good to point out that what you want sexually is not going to be satisfied by them. no-one with be able to do everything you like OR have all the features you want but you have to compromise because unless you are super rich/super hot you cannot bargain for everything you want, cos what have you got to bargain with? your own inflated ego isn't an actual thing that anybody wants so thats not gonna work? hmmm back to the drawing board lol
 
been there po'

I was fucked, but that is on me

when I was able to walk away he changed his tune

nahhhhhhhh....


never again

some people are lucky, in the sense that they can be taken care of
 
Johnny1 said:
I've been married for 10 years, as well. I love my wife and don't want any other partner (in the sense of a life partner). But I do want to fuck other women! Sometimes quite badly. I'm attracted to my wife and we have good sex but it's not every kind of sex I want. Her character is solid as a rock and we get along on a day-to-day basis and we have very similar values, and by the time I got married I learned how important these things were. But even if she were like you in that she would have a very kinky side, it still would not be enough, because men's programming is to be with more than one woman. You can't gauge what sex is for us and what it would mean to be with another woman based on your own experience of sex. It's completely different for us. I want to fuck every hot woman I see - and then go home to my partner who I love. Sex <> love for men. The ONLY reason I'm monogamous is because my wife would not be cool with outside sex. But I'm not monogamous inside. I can't imagine that any guys who make sex a priority are, either. It's not a reflection on how much love I have for my wife, how miserable I'd be without her, or how attractive I find her. It's about what I was put on this earth to do.

Is it possible that your husband is merely being honest with you about what he wants, asked your permission, and dropped the subject when you said no, all the while being the very same man you thought you've been with for 10 years?
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Well said, sir.
 
Just wanted to add, what 35 year old starts a relationship with a 17 year old? Seems pretty fucked up to me. I mean way back when it was okay but nowadays.. not very socially acceptable. 17 is the absolute youngest i've been with in the near past, and i was 21 at the time.. now i'm 22 and i would feel pretty fucking slimey. So i get the immediate impression that this dude is some kind of predator... can you elaborate a bit on the initial circumstances? Sugar dady?
 
it is what it is

some females need to get over the fact that not being the center of affections is not the end of the world

imo of course
 
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