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She took me to a concert, then we kissed, then i kissed her in front of everyone

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The title is pretty self explanatory .. There's this friend I like who gave me tickets to a huge concert.. we went there this weekend and we kissed and hugged through the whole thing. We didn't speak till tuesday and when I saw her she was with our friends. I kissed her goodbye in the mouth in front of out friends and left home. That night she didn't answer me on facebook. The next day (today) we acted "normal" around each other, I played with her hand a little but that was it.. And then we kissed near the bathroom away from our friends- And then when i said goodbye to everyone i kind of kissed her but kind of didn't cause i moved my face to a side,, i don't want to be kissing on the mouth in front of people not that there's anything wrong with it i' just not that into it.. We didn't talk about "stuff", in fact i am pretty much lost here. Well, i know what i am doing, but i have no idea what she thinks that i'm doing or what is she doing? I like it that way and i know i rushed things by kissing her in front of our friends but i really wanted to do it. I like this girl and i feel confident about what's comming.
What i need here is some advice on how to act from now on.. i don't want to seem needy or hurried or be too easy. Her answers on facebook are pretty short and to the point and it doesn't look like she wants to talk a lot. Well, neither do i, i mean i want to talk in person not on facebook because we kind of have important shit to talk about and facebook doesn't seem like the right place to do it.
 
So why haven't you talked to her in person? You say you have important stuff to talk about yet you don't seem to be initiating that conversation. Why not?
 
still i ponder.. I like her, i really like her and i'm acting to let her know that, but i fear she might play with me. My question now is, if a girl really likes she won't play with me right? I mean I know that being 100% available is not the best way to go, or is it? If I think about it from my point of view, I would love for a girl to be awesome with me and all available and nice and kiss me in front of everyone.
 
So why haven't you talked to her in person? You say you have important stuff to talk about yet you don't seem to be initiating that conversation. Why not?

ahm, first of all, i never had the chance. second, i do admit that i hurried the fuck up kissing her and i-m ok with it and she's ok with it but i don't think we're ready to be a couple.. well i kind of shoved it up everyones ass didn't I? So maybe I want to keep a little mistery now, the little that's left, at least
 
still i ponder.. I like her, i really like her and i'm acting to let her know that, but i fear she might play with me. My question now is, if a girl really likes she won't play with me right? I mean I know that being 100% available is not the best way to go, or is it? If I think about it from my point of view, I would love for a girl to be awesome with me and all available and nice and kiss me in front of everyone.
sounds like you're playing games. just talk to her.

alasdair
 
You're right- facebook isn't the place. If you get to see her, kiss her, spend time with her, well...wait until you do - use facebook to send her a song off youtube if it makes you think of her and makes your heart throb, use your time to have a life worth living and she will just keep being attracted to you.

Stop playing games - (unless you enjoy games, and there's only so far they should go imo fme) just be real with her, but first and foremost be real with yourself. If you think you're being too needy chances are that's the case. Why do you think it was moving too fast to kiss her in front of her friends? I don't think it was, if you were like that at the gig, but maybe she did think it was too fast. So just TEMPER IT.

Have fun, don't even think about playing games unless you love them - games are for playing with people who are also consciously playing for the chase because they're not playing for keeps. If you're truly interested in this lass, then be real with her, be open with her about your feelings - she will seriously appreciate your vulnerable openness, if she's in the right place for something more with you.

To mz last point - don't expect anything other than being friends, and having beautiful intimacy with her. Anything more will be a surprising bonus and you won't be setting yourself up for disappointment if you are not expecting anything more than being very close friends.

Peace, One love
 
Orly. How many boys have you kissed then, erich.

Nevermind

Kthxby

and the plot thickens, you're 22 go do manly things like take her to exotic restaurants not talking on FB like 14 year olds because that is what everyone is doing at 14! Be old school and call her at least surely!
 
ahm, first of all, i never had the chance. second, i do admit that i hurried the fuck up kissing her and i-m ok with it and she's ok with it but i don't think we're ready to be a couple.. well i kind of shoved it up everyones ass didn't I? So maybe I want to keep a little mistery now, the little that's left, at least

Well if YOU want to talk then YOU should initiate it and talk to her.

What mystery do you want to keep? I don't get it.

Agreed with ali, seems like you're just playing games with her.
 
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