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Guys, do you like it when a woman approaches you first?

Do males appreciate when women approach them first?

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instead of treating it like a game and constantly double-checking with yourself that you're playing it correctly, and worrying about what he'll think if she does that and what she'll think if he does that and so on.

how about if you like somebody and you want to get to know them better, you ask them out. whoever you are.

:)

alasdair
 
alasdairm said:
instead of treating it like a game and constantly double-checking with yourself that you're playing it correctly, and worrying about what he'll think if she does that and what she'll think if he does that and so on.

how about if you like somebody and you want to get to know them better, you ask them out. whoever you are.

:)

alasdair
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Yes, it actually really is this simple....
 
What if I don't want to get to know them better? What if I want a meaningless and transient sexual encounter? That doesn't seem to work then.
 
alasdairm said:
instead of treating it like a game and constantly double-checking with yourself that you're playing it correctly, and worrying about what he'll think if she does that and what she'll think if he does that and so on.

how about if you like somebody and you want to get to know them better, you ask them out. whoever you are.

:)

alasdair
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chances are you're old. that's all fine and well; i'll do that when i'm older. first i want to bag my lecherous desires, the 9s and 10s. and let's be real: you're not getting 9s or 10s without having tight game.

i know all and well in the end it's going to be vapid and unsatisfactory, but i don't care. i just want to experience it. -shrugs-
 
wow from my past experiences this past 3 weeks and reading these new comments im def NOT going to be asking out anymore guys...
 
ilikestims said:
lololds
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the fact that you boil this down to a tired stereotype for the purposes of cheap point scoring speaks volumes.

i may be older than you - or even the average bluelighter - but that doesn't mean that i wasn't younger once, nor in your (plural) shoes.

i'm of average height and, if you ask anybody (other than my current girlfriend) they'd tell you i'm pretty average looking. that didn't stop me from nailing hotties in college. even back then, i knew who i was and didn't try to front and play immature games. hot chicks can also be smart and some of them love that.

alasdair
 
Jean-Paul said:
agh. i was just struggling with this. this guy came into my work...i could hardly look at him and when he sat down and he kept grabbing his hair...WHICH IS BLONDE RIVER PHOENIX CUT HAIR AND HE KEPT GRABBING THE LONG PART IN FRONT and anyway...i told my loudmouth chef thank god, who is much more outgoing than i am. iw as like..."i can't stop looking at this guy. oh my god. oh, it hurts. and he's so out of my league". and he coerced me into telling this guy he had a great haircut as i served him...then he came up to buy more. and the chef came up was like "i'm sorry, but she can't stop going on about how she loves your hair so much", etc. etc. i couldn't ask for his number or give him mine...i was just mortified. but then i felt really sad. ....so *pretty much* i made the first move. for nothing. and then he ended up googling my works number like fifteen minutes after he left, asking for me, called me tpday, and now i have a date in 3 days...with someone...so much prettier than i am. and ugh. but just. i promised my coworker/friend i'd try to pretend to be confident and normal. so that's what i'm going to do.
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So did you go out? And if so how was it girl?

The only part of your post that made me 'sad' was that you thought of yourself that you were 'out of his league'. hell Never ever doubt that your not pretty or 'good enough' for someone else, because that's your low confidence oozing out of you. Boost that confidence up and people will notice.<3
 
Yep. Nothing is as unattractive in a prospective partner as a lack of confidence.
 
alasdairm said:
the fact that you boil this down to a tired stereotype for the purposes of cheap point scoring speaks volumes.

i may be older than you - or even the average bluelighter - but that doesn't mean that i wasn't younger once, nor in your (plural) shoes.

i'm of average height and, if you ask anybody (other than my current girlfriend) they'd tell you i'm pretty average looking. that didn't stop me from nailing hotties in college. even back then, i knew who i was and didn't try to front and play immature games. hot chicks can also be smart and some of them love that.

alasdair
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imo your posts are lol condescending. you're just assuming you know where i'm coming from and just rolling your eyes and so forth so i'm mirroring that condescension.

which fits in perfectly with lololds. lololds are so lol because that's their m.o. you're an old-timey baseball scout and i'm pitch f/x. -shrugs-
 
and you don't think you know where i'm coming from? now who's condescending?

anyway, op is free to read, take heed and ignore the advice of whomever they like. they could listen to you who's playing childish games and still trying to bang hotties. or they can listen to me, who's banged more hotties than you've had hot dinners :)

ymmv :)

alasdair
 
I've never asked a girl on a date or approached a girl that I don't know and started chatting her up. Well I have but never succeeded. And yet I've had maybe 10 different partners.. It's always people I already know in some way or other. I don't know if that's normal :/
 
Yes! I love women who are slightly aggressive that way and don't beat around the bush when it comes to what they want. Confidence is a big turn on for me. I would say that i have had far more women approach me then vice versa. Back in my teens and early 20's when i lacked the self confidence i do now i would often be too chicken shit to approach a hot woman but they would often approach me and that was much easier then the other way around. Plus it saves me the trouble of hitting them up :\
 
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alasdairm said:
and you don't think you know where i'm coming from? now who's condescending?

anyway, op is free to read, take heed and ignore the advice of whomever they like. they could listen to you who's playing childish games and still trying to bang hotties. or they can listen to me, who's banged more hotties than you've had hot dinners :)

ymmv :)

alasdair
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;)

i never kiss and tell
 
I like it, shows desire and an unwillingness to be bound by social norms. Would be more than happy if this happened to me!
 
Also, why should men have to do all the work and deal with the inevitable rejection that goes with it along the way at some points!
 
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