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How to have fun again

bennyZA

bennyZA

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After the disasters that come with drug addiction how does one have fun again? I barely have any friends, none that I see more than once a week, cause I ruined every relationship. I don't have any money anymore so no hobbies. Obviously I can't go out and rage, and no... I can't party while sober. If I'm partying, I'm going all out... I don't know if there is anything lamer than a club when you're stone-cold sober. I used to play sports but I sold all my sports equipment for drug money. All I really do is read, go on the computer, watch TV/Movies, and occasionally hang out with 1 or 2 people. I've probably hung out with more than 5 people once in the past year. This is fucking driving me nuts, and has been for awhile. Getting your life back on track is soooo fucking hard.
 
Hey Benny,

I know you have medical problems (as I've read about them before), so I hope those are under control for the time being <3

How about work? Getting a job? You can meet new people and make money at the same time. I know a job is not "fun", per se, but it can help get your life back on track. Then hopefully with friends you meet from work y'all can hang out.

Have you ever looked at the website meetup.com? (this is not an advertisement for them- just personal knowledge) You find events in your area that interest you and other people attend. It's the perfect way to meet friends/people with the same interest because that is the intention of the site. They have TONS of activities. Give it a shot!
 
I am just over a year clean off a heroin habit but still on methadone maintenance.
I feel the same way. Over 10 years of drug abuse and I have no recollection of what I used to do for fun before my addiction.
I have one friend but he has been my mate for about 20 years now and he is over 3 years clean himself.
I lost my job last year which used to take up most of my time but now I have nothing to do all day and I just can't think of anything I can do that would interest me.
I need something to do such as a hobby but I just can't seem to muster any interest in doing or trying anything.
No one warns you about feeling like this after a drug addiction.
 
You guys should take an afternoon and jump out of a plane.. tandem skydiving isn't that expensive and it only takes a couple of hours. Hobbies are generally there to relax a person.. why not try and put a little excitement in your lives instead, mountain biking is a cheap and rewarding activity that promotes exercise and health.. hiking, camping and photography.. city photography can be really rewarding as well.. get a camera and get out there.. even if you are unable to get a job for a bit, why not consider volunteering a couple of times a week at a good place.. will get you out of the house and you may start to develop some social skills that we left to rot with the drug abuse and is a good place to meet people.. also helping others generally makes me feel really good and gets my mind off my bullshit.. I volunteer at the restore for habitat for humanity as well as other places.. also getting involved in trying to make political change may be something you wish to consider... as they say be the change you want in the world but we also need to try and facilitate that change. maybe look for a way to help other addicts like we all do here on BL.. sitting around the house is boring so I would do as little as that as possible.
 
Did you ever get your degree? You can likely get community college completely paid for via Pell Grants if you have no income. This gives you a place to meet new and sober friends and if you stick with it will also land you a credential.
 
only things i can recommend is exercise as without it id be a goner and get some dogs...take long walks...beyond that my life is nothing special, day in and day out..id try to somewhat stay away from adrenaline-rush activities as imo thats the same thing as drugs, you are getting a chemical rush to experience pleasure..imo, trying to somewhat train your brain to not expect too much and enjoy small things in life is the way to go..i have been unable to do this though so..after years of drug cocktails my brain seems to require a very strong tug in order to get any pleasure..
 
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