homeless

[lacedIvy]

Hello everyone. I just wanted to say that I myself am currently homeless. It's more due to trusting an ex with my money than anything, but yeah, it's sure sucks for me. I've never been homeless before and it's hard. I'm praying I do get myself out of this and on my feet again. homelessness can happen to anyone, things can change in a blink of the eye.
Luckily I do have some help from a couple family members and a friend, so it's not as bad YET, but I can see it's going to get bad soon if something doesn't work out for the better.

Good Luck to everyone who is going through this.

 

[Bob Loblaw]

Best of luck to ya .

 

[cj]

Have you started applying for government services like food stamps.

 

[lacedIvy]

Thank you for the wishes.

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yes I have.. I'm working on any help what so ever till I can get back on my feet and have a 'normal' life'

 

[tripnotyzm]

I'm really sorry to hear about your current situation, lacedivy.
Nobody deserves to be left out on the street, especially as a result of another persons actions.
Please try find some sort of local shelter if you haven't already done so.
I'm hoping the support in your life can help you get back on your feet soon

 

[Tryptamine*Dreamer]

If you still have access to the internet, it should not be hard to find a shelter in your area or places to get food. Hopefully you won't need that. If you are in a situation where you may lose internet access, you need to look for those resources now, just in case you need them. I hope you won't have to resort to that, but it seems from your post like that is a real possibility.

I was homeless for several weeks when I was about 7 years old, living in a car with 4 other people and that was no fun at all.

I wish you all the best and hopefully you will get things worked out and won't have to go to a shelter. If you do end up with no place to stay, don't try to live on the streets. Go to a shelter - it is a safer place and you never know what kind of trouble you could end up in the middle of just by being in the wrong place at the wrong time,

Good luck, and things will eventually work themselves out (you'll probably have to do something to make it happen, but I am sure you can do it). Try not to let it get you down, it is only a temporary inconvenience (though a major one).

 

[lacedIvy]

Thank You so much tripnotyzm & Tryptamine Dreamer for the advice and faith in me.

 

[Black Rabbit of Inle]

Hey lacedIvy,

What state are you in?

There will (hopefully soon) be an information thread for those finding themselves in your situation. I've been homeless a couple of times, if you need to talk about things I'm just a PM away.

 

[Jabberwocky]

I was homeless this year for bout 3 months, I was living in my car. My advice is this:
- Laziness is not an option (get any job) - you will need money
- once working get share accomodation, explain your situation, you might have better options for paying rent
- if you are living in your car find some shopping mall with few floors and u can get safe parking accomodation there, some where isolated and anything can happen, you can get rolled and no ones there for help
- go to your local newspaper - they might run a story on you about homelessness you might get help that way (i never did it though)
- borrow cash to sort your situation out
- hang in there it's only temporary

 

[manboychef]

I was living in my car for a couple weeks. Make sure to keep locked up and your key ready in case you have to roll out quickly.

There is no shame in homelessness.

 

[flat-line]

That sucks, I hope things get better soon.

When I was younger I would wander around a lot, I would consider myself “Houseless”. I would find nice places to hang out beaches and parks. Libraries are good you can read magazines use the internet.

 

[MissBehavin'_416]

Ooh Like someone above ^ said - get ANY (respectful/legal) job. It really will be your first step towards getting back to your old self. I know it's not THAT bad yet, but many fast food places just throw out their food at the end of each night. You could get some food that way. Be really nice about it though. Please watch where you sleep and who you encounter. Do spend your money wisely. Don't know what state you're in, but super - cold temperatures are just days away in many regions. Any hope of suing the ex for what he's done?! Exercise your rights!! Being a nuisance really sucks.
I truly hope it works out for you soon.

 

[webbykevin]

Head for south America, seriously.

 

[buffalobillygoat]

If you are living in your car and have been drinking, make sure the keys are nowhere near the ignition, and preferably you should not be in the drivers seat. A friend of mine got arrested and convicted of drink driving after falling asleep in his car waiting for a ferry in a car park after having a couple of beers. It's cunts like that give cops a bad name. Plus the ones who gave me a ticket today for 6ks over the limit.

 

[lacedIvy]

I was homeless this year for bout 3 months, I was living in my car. My advice is this:
- Laziness is not an option (get any job) - you will need money
- once working get share accomodation, explain your situation, you might have better options for paying rent
- if you are living in your car find some shopping mall with few floors and u can get safe parking accomodation there, some where isolated and anything can happen, you can get rolled and no ones there for help
- go to your local newspaper - they might run a story on you about homelessness you might get help that way (i never did it though)
- borrow cash to sort your situation out
- hang in there it's only temporary

I was living in my car for a couple weeks. Make sure to keep locked up and your key ready in case you have to roll out quickly.

There is no shame in homelessness.

Thank You both. All the advice given is helpful.

 

[lacedIvy]

Re: Homeless

That sucks, I hope things get better soon.

When I was younger I would wander around a lot, I would consider myself “Houseless”. I would find nice places to hang out beaches and parks. Libraries are good you can read magazines use the internet.

I grew up in a two parent house hold in a decent multi race hood, then when I was around 12 yrs. of age we moved to the suburbs, I never dreamed one day far away from living on my own as an adult I'd find myself homeless, especially due to faith in another person, but it wasn't like I didn't know them, I had for over 18 years.

Ooh Like someone above ^ said - get ANY (respectful/legal) job. It really will be your first step towards getting back to your old self. I know it's not THAT bad yet, but many fast food places just throw out their food at the end of each night. You could get some food that way. Be really nice about it though. Please watch where you sleep and who you encounter. Do spend your money wisely. Don't know what state you're in, but super - cold temperatures are just days away in many regions. Any hope of suing the ex for what he's done?! Exercise your rights!! Being a nuisance really sucks.
I truly hope it works out for you soon.

Huntington, West Virginia It does get cold here and I believe this winter will actually be like a true winter. I have a few places to stay warm planned, hope it works out that way.
Thank You.

Head for south America, seriously.

Really? I can see that as a logical place.

If you are living in your car and have been drinking, make sure the keys are nowhere near the ignition, and preferably you should not be in the drivers seat. A friend of mine got arrested and convicted of drink driving after falling asleep in his car waiting for a ferry in a car park after having a couple of beers. It's cunts like that give cops a bad name. Plus the ones who gave me a ticket today for 6ks over the limit.

I don't drink, but Thanks for all the information. Gracias.

 

[bingey]

If you are living in your car and have been drinking, make sure the keys are nowhere near the ignition, and preferably you should not be in the drivers seat. A friend of mine got arrested and convicted of drink driving after falling asleep in his car waiting for a ferry in a car park after having a couple of beers. It's cunts like that give cops a bad name. Plus the ones who gave me a ticket today for 6ks over the limit.

Yes watch out for the cops, they will go to incredible lengths to bust your balls for being homeless/indesirable.

and libraries are a great "haven" for resourcing yourself/passing time/working out plans.

I think the most important thing do is not to be afraid to ask people for help, don't let the dirty looks get at you!

 

[Tommyboy]

I was homeless this year from January 2 to early April and let me tell you it was a brutal winter in NY. I didn't have a car so my only option was a homeless shelter. The dinners were decent but other than that I only got a bowl of cereal in the morning. It was impossible to get a job in that situation because in order to stay in the shelter I had to get dropped off at welfare every morning to file paperwork that I need housing, and then sign up for the van back to the shelter at 2pm, then the van would finally come at 5, so there was no time to work.

I finally got moved to a different temporary shelter where I could stay during the day and there was food, so I could work from there. They were really strict though and I got kicked out for breaking curfew once, and just went back to my parents hanging my head.

I second what several people have said about libraries being a great resource. There's actually a decent amount of homeless people there during the day, but the average person couldn't tell. For food, try churches. Most of them have outreach programs (which could help you with a job too), and I had access to a food pantry at a counseling center too. Foodstamps help but when you are homeless the money goes fast since you are forced to buy a lot of single serving food items due to not having any refrigeration, and those cost a lot in comparison to buying in bulk. My stamps came out to just under $7 a day, which really isn't much if you are buying 3 meals a day with it, and trust me you need a lot of food for energy when you are homeless and have to walk long distances everyday.

Department of Social Services will pay a little if you find a cheap place to rent, but the place has to accept their method of payment and be approved by them. They didn't pay enough for any rooms I saw for rent, but a few people I was in the shelter with finally got placed in one of the rooms of houses that DSS worked with, but most all of them had roaches, bedbugs, 3-4 people per room, and your property wouldn't be safe there if you left the house at all.

 

[mrflowers00]

if it's an option i've always lived with my dad allbeit i'm still only 24 i don't see that changing until he's dead a good relationship with a family member could be a perfect place to live at least till you get back on your feet

 

[lacedIvy]

I would like to express my gratefulness to All of You very much for you help. It means so much!!!!!

I have gotten a home!!!!! I am soooo happy! I was homeless for 1 year 1 Month and 5 Days....

I hustled, I worked any job...I applied for government help (which I am still waiting on that)and now, I have a hom,e with roomates, but I am off the streets! It's still a bit un- steady, yet I am getting there.
Thank You all again!!!