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Date ideas for a friend I've had for three years

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SunnyHours

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Here it is,
I've had this friend for about 3 years and since I've met her I've always been quite infatuated with her. I was also pretty much friend zoned at that time.
Time passed and I started seeing her less and less. And then for a friend's birthday I got to see her...let's just say we had both taken quite a bit of drugs at that time (Ketamine, alcohol,opiates, coke and lots of weed and she had about the same except she took Methylone instead of K).
We spent the night talking being together, holding hands, having her in my arms and stuff.
Some more time passed and every time I'd see her we'd say it'd be fun to get together and all.
Well she finally got back to me asking if I was free tomorrow night and I'd need some fun date ideas that are not all that expensive...
I was thinking Laser Tag could be fun maybe

Any ideas?
 
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Errrr... laser tag? Could be terrible.

I like night walks. I'm not self conscious, we see pretty places, and talk about anything and everything.
 
laser tag is shit because the actual experience is shit (for me it was boring and confusing), paintball is much more fun

go out for dinner? a walk in the park (worked well for me the other day)? a free music gig (any open mic nights)?

you have lots of choices but it depends on the person i.e. if they are lazy dont go for a walk...
 
I was hoping no one else noticed yet.
Laser tag for a 3 year old is gonna be way too hard. Just sit and watch Dora? Coloring?
 
Dammit 95Land bet me to it hahahahahaha.

Movies or dinner is a pretty safe thing! or just coming over to "chill", personal favorites are headin out to a club or drive ins :)
 
OMFG yeah it's not the most inspired title in the world, so what? Help the man if you have some useful advice, if not why even bother posting?

edit: Beachcat solved the problem, so nevermind.
 
Haha. See Ed? The OP took it in stride....
I think you're going in the right direction. I always have found that more personal dates, dates where you can talk, are more productive. Coffee, lunch, the bar, etc.
 
I see. I think I was in a rush to make a Barney joke and skimmed your original post. :-). Sorry bout that.
I'd still go with something one to one but with you guys having been friends, I'd make it crystal clear that your intent is for it to be a date.
A relatively expensive restaurant, perhaps? I hate the term "friend zone" but it is hard to bust outta that mold sometimes.
I'd say do anything that sounds fun as long as it's clear that your intent is one of a romantic inclination.
 
Fuck me! I've canceled tonight...had to. She thought we were gonna hang out me, her and my best friend as we did before.
I thought it was better to cancel rather than having another friendly get together...
Still sad I don't get to see her but Ohh well...
 
Why not just do a dinner and a movie? Then it's confirmed it's a date much more easily.
 
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Fuck me! I've canceled tonight...had to. She thought we were gonna hang out me, her and my best friend as we did before.
I thought it was better to cancel rather than having another friendly get together...
Still sad I don't get to see her but Ohh well...
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What? That's so stupid.. you should have went.

Maybe she wants to see you more to get more comfortable to actually go on a date.
 
Yeah. I guess...why the hell is it so hard for me to ask her directly for a date?
I even have trouble being playful and stuff, it's really bad hehe
Also there is this unspoken ordeal, I don't know. Whenever I'm in a group setting with her everything is fine and I can flirt.
As soon as I'm alone with her I become a total pussy, that is if I'm not smashed hehe
Maybe a benzo would help me out be the playful and funny guy I usually am

And I don't think it's stupid since I've known her for over 3 years and before we used to hang out daily. So I don't think it's a question of knowing me more before a date...I think it's a bit deeper than that.
But now that I think about it, you're right, I shoulda went and told her I'd like to meet her, and just her for dinner and a movie...
 
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If you're scared about dinner because it's too formal--just do movies. Text her and be like, hey wanna see <insert> movie with me sometime this week/weekend. If she asks, who else is going? Then be straight up and say, well I only just texted you. If she's uncomfortable with going with just you, she'll suggest--oh I'll invite blah blah blah. WHICH is totally fine, think of it as a double date! :) If things are going well (during the movies), ask if she wants to go grab a bite or some drinks after.
 
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