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Robs girl

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So me and my boyfriend decided to take some meth this evening. We have done this in the past, but it's not a regular occurrence. Anyhow...I'm sitting here and he is completely obsesses with looking at naked pictures of himself with anal toys, porn, Craigslist, and himself. I'm trying not to get angry...but it's confusing. He likes dudes and many other things that are shocking to me as I've been pretty much a prude and believe in sexual morality as what is right for me. Not judging others, I just believe in certain ways for me and love those who are more open than me. But, ill do strange and new things with him and be daring to satisfy him. And still all he wants is porn, dudes, strangers and unreal things

Any idea how to handle this or to not take it personally. It really hurts my feelings that he cares more about that when he could be with me. Thanks for any input to help me understand and not judge and criminalize him
 
I would blame it on the meth, does he have this porn obsession when he's not on meth? If so I'd break it off and look for someone more like yourself in the sexual morality department.
 
He has totally had sex with dudes, it's been a bit new and hard to understand but I try. However, he looks at dudes and girl porn over even noticing I'm alive. I'm trying not to take it personally because I know it's the drug. My question is...if he is that horny that porn entertains him for so long, how does having your pretty, sexy lingerie, heel wearing girlfriend next to you become a nothing? I understand alone being alone and porn or some of his past girls really enjoying the porn and getting him off as he watches, but I'm not that girl although open to new things, I constantly feel boring. I wouldn't mind trying anything he is into, but he forgets I'm me and I'm just a sex tool. That I don't like...guess I'm just really trying hard to understand how I'm being viewed rght now and if anger is an appropriate response
 
The reason I posted here was because it is an issue only prevelant during meth use. I myself use the drug and do not get so stuck and self absorbed. I hear this said over and over, but I just can't grasp it and want to understand how deep this goes. Is the drug causing this or does the drug cause more true self to surface. If you are not into your partner anymore and keep it bottled up, can this drug magnify that and show it. Or is it as simple as previously said, getting stuck and self absorbed is just the nature of the beast?
 
Robs girl said:
He has totally had sex with dudes, it's been a bit new and hard to understand but I try. However, he looks at dudes and girl porn over even noticing I'm alive. I'm trying not to take it personally because I know it's the drug. My question is...if he is that horny that porn entertains him for so long, how does having your pretty, sexy lingerie, heel wearing girlfriend next to you become a nothing? I understand alone being alone and porn or some of his past girls really enjoying the porn and getting him off as he watches, but I'm not that girl although open to new things, I constantly feel boring. I wouldn't mind trying anything he is into, but he forgets I'm me and I'm just a sex tool. That I don't like...guess I'm just really trying hard to understand how I'm being viewed rght now and if anger is an appropriate response
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you could ask him why he is looking at porn rather than you. like why he's sitting on a computer instead of even saying a word to you. .. yeah

probably enhanced by the meth but either way it seems maximally rude .. (I think i'd be either angry or perplexed enough to gtfo)
 
Robs girl said:
The reason I posted here was because it is an issue only prevelant during meth use. I myself use the drug and do not get so stuck and self absorbed. I hear this said over and over, but I just can't grasp it and want to understand how deep this goes. Is the drug causing this or does the drug cause more true self to surface. If you are not into your partner anymore and keep it bottled up, can this drug magnify that and show it. Or is it as simple as previously said, getting stuck and self absorbed is just the nature of the beast?
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It's very obviously not just from the meth. The drug use may be exacerbating the problem, but it's very clear he/both of you have issues separately or together that need to be addressed surrounding your relationship.

That's what these folks here are best at.
 
I've asked. I've said how I feel, and this is 8 hours later. I just don't know if once sober, this is relevant. I have a hard time with the well I was high, lack of responsibility for actions excuse. However if it is valid, how can I be angry at him for his reaction to a mutual decision to indulge. If it is just him being a jerk, how do I not feel hurt? And how the heck am I to know. I've been reading these forums and haven't had any clarity. And...I love him very much and want to be careful how I handle this.
 
Meth is such a nasty drug. It will definetly affect personalilty, actions, and while people are on it dont expect them anywhere near 100 percent. That being said dude is obviously bi-sexual. He also seems pretty at home with himself sexually, maybe to the point where its a problem. He doesnt see it that way Im guessing. As for porn over sex, thats just madness or speed. I would much rather fuck a woman than my hand.
 
That's stupid, sorry it must suck to be in your position but I would take pussy over porn ANY day of the week. Meth would make me even more dtf which is hardly possible hahah
 
It probably does have a lot to do with the drugs. But, I had a boyfriend who was into porn so much. I don't care about porn but, I beat him at his own game by being obsessed with male porn stars, watching and pleasuring myself and totally ignoring him. He didn't like the feeling at all and confronted me. I acted like it was no big deal and just told him that if he could do it so could I. Needless to say the porn completely stopped and he became a very attentive lover. Unfortunately, I got bored of him and dumped him a few months later.
 
It's not that your boyfriend is being a jerk, he's bisexual. Porn is an addiction, couple that with meth and of course he will ignore you.
If his behavior goes against your personal beliefs/morals, you might be better off without him. You can't talk him into being more into you.
 
So my conclusion is that it's not my place to be angry for him being him, but realize that love doesn't always fit...we need different things that we can't give each other. Thanks all...I'm happy to have thought and asked for advice before reacting. I was so angry, but yelling and saying he was wrong didn't quite sit right with me. Thanks again! He is passed out now and confused why I am a bit off :)
 
its definitely to do with the meth.

mephedrone makes people crazy perverted and speed made me obsessive with porn (meph was way worse though)

is a drug fueled relationship what you want or need though. what will you achieve? a shitty comedown tinged with guilt shame and other negative feelings.

how about you two cut out the meth and see how that works
 
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So my conclusion is that it's not my place to be angry for him being him, but realize that love doesn't always fit...we need different things that we can't give each other. Thanks all...I'm happy to have thought and asked for advice before reacting. I was so angry, but yelling and saying he was wrong didn't quite sit right with me. Thanks again! He is passed out now and confused why I am a bit off :)
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Glad to hear you're feeling better about the whole thing :) I've heard lots of accounts of people who would choose porn over sex any day while on meth, I really don't think it's any kind of reflection on you or how he feels about you. Try not to worry bout it too much.
 
Im all bout some heels and lingerie. How much speed does this guy do? I mean is this a rare occurance or is he always fucked up and having sex with men? I dont know much about meth or bisexuality, but you might not be at the top of his list of needs. Personally I put a woman pretty high up in priorities. It goes something like: food and shelter, pain medication, women and sex, recreational drug supply, and than hobbies for me.
 
^Bi =/= having sex with men, I don't think she mentioned anywhere that he's ever cheated on her, there's a big difference...
Put it this way: have you never fantasised about someone else while in a relationship? Or watched porn while in a relationship?
We all do that. So what if he's attracted to men as well and that's the kind of porn he likes? Doesn't mean he loves her in any less.

I'd like to think I'd put my boyfriend ahead of drugs - wouldn't really know, I've been single ever since I've gotten into them for real - but how I would act towards him while on smack would have to be completely set aside from how I would act towards him when not. Just like with meth. If they're cool with each other's drug use, they've gotta expect certain consequences.
 
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