Lunchboxor
Bluelighter
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- Jul 5, 2010
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Alirghty, so, my girlfriend and I have been going out for like eight or so months by now. In the begining I was more into her then she was me. And she would bounce all the time and say im done with this relationship, as a means of control, to get me to chase her. After the fourth time she did that, I laughed and calmly told her to leave.
She left, a week later, shes a mess, didnt mean it etc.
Got back togeather (four months ago), and now, she hasnt pulled that move since. I guess she knows I had enough of it to where I dont care if she wants to leave or stay. But as of recent (past two months +-) Shes been getting very annoyed with me. Its not even what she says, its the tone of her voice. Ive only cursed at her once, maybe twice when I got kicked in the back of the head by her. I gernerally remain calm, I dont let emotions run what is comming out of my mouth, and, overall I keep a clear head when I speak, and listen. This drives her crazy. She hates it that I dont get just as irate or annoyed as her. If shes having a mood all of a sudden, ill ask her why she feels the way she does. All I get is even more annoyed comments, either about how I dont go out because I try and save my money. (Part time job, live in ny.) Realistically I save like 20 bucks a week, out of a 160 dollar paycheck and goto college at the same time. Its hard to go out. She makes around 2.5 times what I do, and blows her entire paycheck in two days at bars, and complains that I dont like to go out and get drunk; that I dont like using my fake ID (im 20 she 24)
Also she seems to think I talk down to her alot, when I really dont. I never attempt to. If she comes to me with a problem, I politely give her multipal solutions without pushing her to do any of them; and im told im telling her what to do..
She also sleeps at my house 5 or 6 nights a week. I have a backwards sleep sched. I go to sleep at 6am and wake up at about 2-3pm for work and school. She goes to sleep at 11pm, for work at six am.
I have a 50 inch plasma connected to my gaming computer, and natrually, I game all night. I tell her before she even comes over im going to play video games after she goes to sleep. its never a problem. I live at home with my mom in an apartment, very small room. I think its 10x9.
But once shes asleep and its like 3 am, I started getting screamed at nonstop. (I have a headset its not the noise) b/c it looks like theres a second sun in my room.
So ill go out for an hour or two and smoke a blunt with a friend after she goes to sleep. And she gets pissed at that too, that im not staying with her while she sleeps in my bed. The main reason I started doing that was so she could fall into a deep sleep quicker, and I could play more games once I got back, without waking her.
Overall, idk wtf to do. Shes almost always mad. The only time she isnt is when she wakes up on a weekend. Then shes alirght untill something is said or she thinks of something that makes her angry. and im the only one to take it out on.
I tried saying lets spend less time togeather, to her, that means from six days a week to five, then back to six, because we spent time alone last week!
o.o
Also, she only likes sex missionary. I dont really get it, but she doesnt like being eaten out, and SERIOUSLY hates doggy. Like to the point where she can be all turned out in missionary, and ill even mention doggy and shell be dry in a minute or two.
Im ok being alone (as in sitting in my room for hours on end alone) Ive always been like that. Yeah I like chillin too, but I have no problem sitting on my computer from when I wake up, til when I go to sleep. If shes not around someone constantly, she gets into a shitty mood, and complains im not the same as she is...
tl;dr i have no idea what to do.
btw im not perfect, im actually rather oblivious, and need things pointed out painfully obviously for me to get it. Like word for word what she means. The ambiguous crap just goes right over my head...I also walk into a lot of door frames
She left, a week later, shes a mess, didnt mean it etc.
Got back togeather (four months ago), and now, she hasnt pulled that move since. I guess she knows I had enough of it to where I dont care if she wants to leave or stay. But as of recent (past two months +-) Shes been getting very annoyed with me. Its not even what she says, its the tone of her voice. Ive only cursed at her once, maybe twice when I got kicked in the back of the head by her. I gernerally remain calm, I dont let emotions run what is comming out of my mouth, and, overall I keep a clear head when I speak, and listen. This drives her crazy. She hates it that I dont get just as irate or annoyed as her. If shes having a mood all of a sudden, ill ask her why she feels the way she does. All I get is even more annoyed comments, either about how I dont go out because I try and save my money. (Part time job, live in ny.) Realistically I save like 20 bucks a week, out of a 160 dollar paycheck and goto college at the same time. Its hard to go out. She makes around 2.5 times what I do, and blows her entire paycheck in two days at bars, and complains that I dont like to go out and get drunk; that I dont like using my fake ID (im 20 she 24)
Also she seems to think I talk down to her alot, when I really dont. I never attempt to. If she comes to me with a problem, I politely give her multipal solutions without pushing her to do any of them; and im told im telling her what to do..
She also sleeps at my house 5 or 6 nights a week. I have a backwards sleep sched. I go to sleep at 6am and wake up at about 2-3pm for work and school. She goes to sleep at 11pm, for work at six am.
I have a 50 inch plasma connected to my gaming computer, and natrually, I game all night. I tell her before she even comes over im going to play video games after she goes to sleep. its never a problem. I live at home with my mom in an apartment, very small room. I think its 10x9.
But once shes asleep and its like 3 am, I started getting screamed at nonstop. (I have a headset its not the noise) b/c it looks like theres a second sun in my room.
So ill go out for an hour or two and smoke a blunt with a friend after she goes to sleep. And she gets pissed at that too, that im not staying with her while she sleeps in my bed. The main reason I started doing that was so she could fall into a deep sleep quicker, and I could play more games once I got back, without waking her.
Overall, idk wtf to do. Shes almost always mad. The only time she isnt is when she wakes up on a weekend. Then shes alirght untill something is said or she thinks of something that makes her angry. and im the only one to take it out on.
I tried saying lets spend less time togeather, to her, that means from six days a week to five, then back to six, because we spent time alone last week!
o.o
Also, she only likes sex missionary. I dont really get it, but she doesnt like being eaten out, and SERIOUSLY hates doggy. Like to the point where she can be all turned out in missionary, and ill even mention doggy and shell be dry in a minute or two.
Im ok being alone (as in sitting in my room for hours on end alone) Ive always been like that. Yeah I like chillin too, but I have no problem sitting on my computer from when I wake up, til when I go to sleep. If shes not around someone constantly, she gets into a shitty mood, and complains im not the same as she is...
tl;dr i have no idea what to do.
btw im not perfect, im actually rather oblivious, and need things pointed out painfully obviously for me to get it. Like word for word what she means. The ambiguous crap just goes right over my head...I also walk into a lot of door frames
