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Sex while on Medication (painkillers, antidepressents..etc)..

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Hey everyone, hope yall are having a nice night/day :)

*edit* this is kind of a long post, if you don't want to read it all just quickly glance through the next few paragraphs and my questions are after the 3rd paragraph. I'd really like some responses though about what to do about this problem as its really affecting my lovelife. Thanks. *end edit*

Ok heres my problem. I am about 50 mg methadone a day for pain, 20 mg celexa per day, and between 1 and 2 mgs of Klonopin a day for anxiety and I have like no sex drive, its fuckin nonexistant. Wouldn't mind this so much if I was single but I have a girlfriend whos very sexual and needs to get laid/get off atleast few days a week and since I've been on this combo of meds (about six months) I can't do much for her. Now, I'm the type of guy that loves foreplay. I love to go down on her, we have some toys..etc that I use on her so I have been making her cum these past months. But we literally have only had actual intercourse about 5 times in past six months, and everytime I was able to get it hard just enough to kinda fuck her, but it just isnt fun at all, and she likes to really be fucked if you know what I mean and I just can't do that with half a hardon... Each time we've had "sex" she just gets frustrated and I just end up either not cumming at all or masturbating hard as I can hoping to orgasm. I literally have not had an orgasm in probably over 2 months now (until earlier tonite). And I am a very sexual person just like my girl and this I am worrying is really fucking up our relationship.

so anyways..
Earlier tonite I was going down/fingering her and screwin around with some toys..etc but I could tell she was getting tired of this and probably super frustrated and she obviously really wanted to get fucked the way we used to so she gets really angry and goes off on a long rant then goes and digs in her dresser and throws a bottle of dexedrine at me she gets for add. She told me to pop a few of them wait an hour or so until they kick in then snort another one. So I did this .. the hour passed and already I was feeling pretty stimulated actually in the mood for sex, so I snorted another entire pill and that was it I felt like my old ultra sexual/horny self. So anyways then we started to fool around again and it was amazing. I had the first real actual hard hard-on in what seems like FOREVER. Anyways, to make a long story short we fucked eachother brains out for most of the night. I had an amazing orgasm, she came crazy, it was just like old times.

Shes since fallen asleep and I'm all wired from the dex so I've been sitting here thinking. Yeah tonite was great, but is this my only option? take dex everytime we want to have good sex? That kinda sucks and I don't really want to have to do that. Is my only other option just getting off the meds I'm on? Because I really need the methadone for horrible pain issues I have, and I've always had major anxiety and sometimes panic attacks so the klonopin has worked wonders for that. I could stop taking the celexa as I don't think its really doing much anyways, but I don't think its the celexa thats fucking with my sex drive.

I know there must probably be quite a bit of other people on this forum that have been in this same situation, what did you do about it? Share you stories if you don't mind and give me any tips you might have...etc. Are there any natural remedies or something for this?

Anyways I'm sorry for such a long post, but I really would like some responses...etc from others who've been in same situation.

Thanks a lot and peace!
Medina

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Unfortunately I think you've kind of covered it yourself - as I see it the only two options are either to get off the methadone and klonopin, or take stims every time you want to have sex...the latter being a very bad idea IMO because I think that sounds like a very potential path to addiction.
I'm sorry I can't be more help but opiates and benzos are the perfect solution to completely annihilating your sex drive when taken independently, so together well...I really don't know what to say other than it would be good if you could find other ways to deal with your pain/anxiety :\
 
Hey there. My situation is pretty similar to yours - I have severe chronic pain, an anxiety disorder, and major sleep issues. I've been on a bunch of SSRI/SNRI meds like Celexa over the years, and I've been taking Valium for pain & sleep for 5 years. It definitely helps with my anxiety issues as well. I've been on a variety of opiate pain meds, but the two I used the most were heroin daily for 3 years, then for the past 9 months I've been on 12-20mg of hydromorphone daily. I also find amphetamine very sexually stimulating.

I'm going to do a process of elimination/med rundown, based on my experience and pretty extensive knowledge of psychiatry:

Celexa - generally SSRIs don't affect libido, particularly not for men. However, SSRIs DO very commonly delay orgasm in both men and women. While it's not common, SSRIs can also cause erectile dysfunction in men. But if the Celexa is making you soft, it's quite likely a different SSRI wouldn't. Since you're on serious CNS depressants, I would ask your Dr about more stimulating/less sedating anxiety medications. Celexa is pretty much neutral compared to other SSRIs in terms of sedation. Prozac and Luvox are more stimulating.

Methadone - Opiates can dampen libido, but the effects are quite variable depending on the opiate and the dose. When I started using the heroin more heavily it totally killed my sex drive, although my pain was also worse and I find pain to be the ultimate libido killer. Is your pain adequately controlled? On the hydromorphone my pain is semi-controlled and my libido is stronger. If it's the downer effects of the methadone and/or the pain itself suppressing your libido, switching to a different, less sedating opiate could help. Oxycodone is probably the most stimulating opiate. But I'm sure your Dr will have some suggestions.

Klonopin - sexual side effects are fairly rare, but because you're on an opiate it is likely increasing sedation, which generally decreases libido. Especially if you take your Klonopin during the day. I'd try taking it only at night, or ask your Dr about switching to another benzo, perhaps one less sedating and more short-acting. I find even if I take Klonopin at night, I'm really tired and out of it the whole next day. But lorazepam taken during the day for panic attacks calms me down with no sedation or other effects. Everyone is different, so again, talk to your Dr about what would be best for you.

It seems likely to me that if you adjust your meds your libido and everything else sexual will bounce back. But one other thing - exercise really boosts libido, especially cardio like running, IME. What's your exercise regimen like? Maybe try throwing some running in, if you're able.

Edit: you could also consider testosterone and ED drugs like Viagra. Both are commonly used for men on SSRIs suffering sexual side effects like you described. Ask your Dr.
 
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I feel ya, my sex drive is usually way down when I take opiates. It's super hard to have an orgasm sometimes too. I read somewhere that it may actually decrease testosterone but my theory is that since you have a bunch of opiates in you're system your 'pleasure center' is already satisfied so you don't really have a desire to have sex. Just my thoughts.
 
Pagey you can't ignore the sexual side effects of SSRIs, as it may very well be the main contributor.
 
Opiates are the best aphrodisiac out there for a man, in moderate doses that is. They just make you last longer with none of that beastly behaviour that stimulants tend to induce you imo.
 
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Pagey you can't ignore the sexual side effects of SSRIs, as it may very well be the main contributor.
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Yeah sure if he doesn't think they're helping anyway he should get off them for other reasons first and there might be some improvement when it comes to his sex drive, but quite frankly when there's 50mg of methadone a day in the equation I think the SSRIs aren't the ones having the most influence and I honestly doubt getting off them would resolve everything.
OP fairnymph's point about switching to another opiate is worth thinking about I'd say - although I've always got zero sex drive on opiates, oxycodone is probably the only one on which I'd be capable of having sex just because it's much less sedating. Worth speaking to your doctor about if you haven't already.
 
try zinc supps and some maca root. Give it a few weeks. Zinc and maca restored my sex drive whilst on anti-depressants.
 
Opiates like methadone are going to kill your sex drive and desire to have sex. DO NOT mix amphetamines or other stimulants like Dexadrine with the meds you're taking it's not good for you and it's dangerous. I would talk to a doctor or medical professional and see if you can get Viagra or Cialsis or if you can take a break from your meds instead of taking meds that you are not prescribed, not being monitored for, and which are not good to take with the other drugs you are on. I have never had sex with a woman since I am gay but some women are apparently into vaginal fisting look into that but wear gloves and cut your nails, and use lube.
 
Thanks for the replies guys.I'm going to go through each of your posts and reply to any questions asked/advice given following this next paragraph. I just wanted to first give an update oh what happened after last nite/today for anyone interested.

Well this morning when we woke up my girl was all smiles, as was I. We were obviously both completely satisfied for the 1st time in seems like forever.Last night was like mind blowing almost mystical "becoming one with god" spiritual type sex that we used to have. We went out for lunch and had a really long talk about what to do about this whole situation. I mean I know a relationship shouldnt exactly be just based around sex, and ours isnt, but sex definitely is a big and VERY important part of our relationship. We are both "occultists" and consider ourselves modern day mystics and have both studied diff. forms of tantra.. crowleyan "sex magick"...etc..etc and in my opinion outta everything by far sex done using some of these techniques is one the best ways to have a "mystical experience/become one" with supremebeing,god,whatever. So to make a long story short I see my psych tomo (thurs) and am going to talk to her about this maybe I'll cut back on the klonopin or something. Im def going off the celexa though because for past year and half ive been trying diff antidepressent of all types and ALL them either make me into zombie or make more depressed and angry..etc. Then I see my pain doc next tues and ill talk to him but I doudt hell give me anything other than methadone because I am a recovering heroin addict and weve kinda had this talk before and only things hell give me is methadone or like norcos or perc tens which do nothing all for me. Methadone works great though atleast for my pain. Thing is I can take 15-20 mgs of methadone and have all pain gone sometimes.. I admit a lot of times i take more cause I like the feel of well being it gives me, but its not worth fuckin up my relationship/sex life.

Ok I'm going to answer any questions/any advice now....

Pagey - Thanks for the reply, its much appreciated. Yeah I dont plan to do this dex thing much, or even ever again. I used to be a major tweaker in my late teens early 20s and quit just around time I met my Lady. No way im fallin back in speed, even if its just dex. Weve together lil over 8 years now and I love her with all my heart and I know she loves me the same so I'm definitely going to try to cut back on the methadone and the klonnies and stop celexa all together. I'm thinking maybe like on thurs I'll lower my dosages of done and klon very low and on friday not even take it or take very small dose and on sat not take any. Saturdays and sundays are generally our just us time and we spend the time meditating, studying, hiking, doing spiritual practices, and having sex. So maybe thatll work out. Anyways thanks for your post.

FairyNymph - Thanks for the reply. I plan I straight up go off the celexa tomorrow wehn I see my psych and not use any anti-ds for time being. Past almost 2 yrs or so ive been tried on prolly 5 diff antidepressents and they either make into a zombie or make me more depressed and/or very angry. I'm an recovering H addict so my pain doc wont write me anything really other than methadone or like perc tens and norcos and like mscontin all of which dont help me unless i take tons. I said somewhere earlier in this post that I generally really only need 15-like25 mg or so of done to kill my pain, so imma start just doin that and takin it only when i get pain that ibprofin wont kill. and the klonnies I plan to just take as needed, I dont need em everyday really and most times .5mgs works fine. so imma cut back on those too. Regarding exercise I dont get much on te weekdays but every single weekend pretty much we hike quite a bit on either sat or sun. Anyways thanks a ton for your post.

Gado - Shit that makes sense, wouldnt be surprised if it was true. Thanks for your post, man much appreciated.

velmwend - So zinc supplements and maca root. Just looked em up online, any recommendations for any sites to order them from? Or should I just get em from like amazon or something? Thanks for your post, man.

DrunkardsDream - Thanks for the post, man. Well I dont plan to make this dex a regular thing, matter of fact i dont plan to do it again. I used to be straight up crystal fiend too in my late teens early twenties so I'm forever done with that bullshit. Anyways In the past weve had the same wild sex (even better a lot of times) that we had last night while being pretty much sober, so I'm just going to adjust my regimen of drugs, cut out some of them...etc..etc until we can acheive the same amazing fuck sessions we used to have. And regarding the fist thing, I'd be scared to death to do that to her! Shes only about 5'1, tiny and petite and shes tight as hell and I highly doudt shed like to be all stretched out and I KNOW i dont want her pussy loose. But thanks for the post, man.

Anyways thank you to you all!
 
I think speaking to your psych about getting off the anti-depressants & reducing your klonopin dosages is a good idea (well to the extent that you said the SSRIs were only making things worse overall). If you combine that with decreasing your methadone use to only pain relief doses I can imagine you'll start noticing an increase in your sex drive, or I'd be surprised if you didn't anyway. It might still be difficult to manage it like before though so if I were you I'd definitely look into Viagra and such, as others have mentioned. Good luck!
 
get of the ssri's or keep your sex drive where its at:\

if you alter your sexual chemistry with methadone which is bad for sex drive and citalopram which can really kill your sex drive then what do you expect. the solution to this problem is not more drugs, its less drugs .

for me ssri's were shit for depression. exercise is probably more effective. they're good at demotivating you if you are on the verge of suicide (maybe) but thats about it

on a side note if weed makes you horny then that might help and is less likely to crap in your head than amphetamine...

what really helps with depression is a good social support network/good diet (cannot stress this enough)/lots of exercise/ cognitive behavioural therapy/a career or a drive to succeed and making use of your skills doing something you enjoy

long story short, cut out the drugs if you want a sex drive!
 
I want to second the exercise. Especially exercise in the sun (I know it's easier in Florida). Keeps reminding me that I need to go back to boot camp but honestly a good hour exercising in the sun will help a ton.
 
I used to shoot dex. It didnt last as long that way and came on stronger. Im sure its all kinds of unhealthy, but yeah I fell asleep soon as I came down when I was shooting it. Also the SSRIs are probly whats fucking up your sex drive. Pain medications will do it to you as well but only in larger doses IME. SSRIs seem to have a strong labido dampening effect.
 
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