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I'm scared that I will never find someone

I had my first boyfriend at age 17. Thought I'd be with him forever (oh, I was young and naive) and we broke up (cuz I met someone else). Although we did date for 3 years. My point is - there are SO MANY changes you go through from age 17 onwards. I'm not nearly the same person now that I was at age 17 and I'm only 22 now! You have TONS of time! I don't think most people their future wife/husband/person to spend the rest of their life with until at least their 20s!
 
Shit man take it easy I'm 27 and haven't come close to finding a girl I'd say I truly loved or felt that way about me. And honestly when you're 17 you're not even capable of knowing whether you really love someone, just have some fun and relax you have plenty of time.
 
To rephrase Chris Rock, you can either be single and lonely, or bored and in a relationship. "Ain't no happiness nowhere."

In any event, I think you'll find as you age that relationships are secondary to self-actualization.
 
Belisarius said:
In any event, I think you'll find as you age that relationships are secondary to self-actualization.
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I feel like im walking this line, it's starting to become apparent in some ways.. especially after relationships which feel 'all-consuming intense'.
 
Belisarius said:
To rephrase Chris Rock, you can either be single and lonely, or bored and in a relationship. "Ain't no happiness nowhere."

In any event, I think you'll find as you age that relationships are secondary to self-actualization.
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I agree totally with your 2nd sentence but FUCK your first - there's happiness where you make it. You won't find it in another person for more than a few minutes, hours, days, maybe even months. True happiness of course comes from within. So there is happiness, but only we can give it to ourselves, by opening our hearts.
 
I believe that every living creature in this world has a partner meant for it, him/her so yes have hope! It would be your choice though if your standards are way too high etc. Goodluck on finding the one :)
 
It could be worse. You could be married. Now thats some scary shit dude. Even worse is coming down with a case of children. Its awful man. It keeps you up all night for the first few years. Takes at least 18 years to get rid of and everyone will know you got children. You cant hide it. Its one scary STD.
 
Geez...I can't even attempt to tackle this one without being an asshole! =D

No but seriously...besides all the stuff about there's someone for everyone and it will happen (and IT WILL happen), dude, you are 17. Concentrate on other things. Having fun. School. Plans for the future. Besides a girl finds a guy who is enjoying life rather than depressed and in despair so much more attractive and fun! I swear when I used to go out to a bar or club and was lonely (even though I didn't think it showed) I never hooked up with anybody. But you could be damned sure if I was with somebody else, had a guy that wasn't there or just interested in someone else and therfore not looking, so many guys would hit on me! So that saying is true: when you are looking for it, it will never happen. When you aren't looking for it, it will find you.
 
I am 22 going on 23 soon... you have nothing to worry about.
My issue is, i pussy out when i see a cute girl. I never approach them, sometimes i get approached but i am pretty introverted at times : |
 
From the age of about 18 I felt I would never find someone, and then from the age of 20 I didn't want to find anyone. 25 and a long term relationship falls into my lap out of nowhere, totally unexpected.

You're 17. There's so much time. Enjoy your youth while you can and things will most likely fall into place naturally.
 
At the risk of sounding crass....

....dude you're seventeen, you should be trying to stick it in every and any hole that walks past not worrying about clicking with a girl.
 
omen_owen mk2 said:
At the risk of sounding crass....

....dude you're seventeen, you should be trying to stick it in every and any hole that walks past not worrying about clicking with a girl.
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at what point is it wrong to want a relationship. everyone is different. not all men are promiscuous and you have to do what suits you...
 
I must admit I've been wondering much the same as of late. Will I ever find a woman who would bother with me? I havent approached a woman at least in an intimate regard nearing three years now, but then again none have approached me either which leads me to think I'm physically unattractive (or was up until I made some recent cosmetic improvements - new hair style, gained weight and look much healthier in general what with having kicked smack).

I want so much to find a nice lady to spend my time with - for us to share a portion of our lives together with each-other. Theres so much I could offer her, so many ways I could love her. All I want to do is find a woman to love and who'll love me back - but to be fair its not as if I've put any effort at all into looking for one over the last 3/4 years...but I plan on doing so now. I just hope it goes well is all - obviously enough, although I can certainly cope with rejection.

I can live quite happily on my own; why I've lived the single life since 2010, however that was largely by choice and now I'm at a stage where I no longer want to be the bachelor. I'm certainly not looking for children and/or a mortgage etc, just a lover...ever so much and oh so more as the weeks roll on and the months pass by.
 
Bro, you are scaring the women around you thinking like that. People will get the feeling you are complaining without trying to change it...

Women don’t come running at average guys just like that. Reevaluate what love is in your head.

Next year, tell your uncle to take you to a strip joint... Throw a couple of bills and move on.

Dwelling make shit worse.

Keep looking, it is there.

Talk to the girls with the douche-bag boyfriends, shit works like a charm, unless she is a dumbass.
 
Hold on, the OP is only seventeen? I thought you were in your late 30's at least.
For christs sake man you have years for this stuff to happen, you shouldn't even be thinking about this right now;
I mean this shit shouldnt even be an issue for you.
 
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