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Our hyper sexualized culture causes insecurity and self esteem issues for children

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Girls especially. So many girls I have known, suffered from low self esteem or insecurity issues regarding their looks . Of course its natural for everyone to go through this to some degree but I feel like our culture is a really unhealthy environment for girls. Most recent example, this 11 year old girl that my sister tutors in math told her that she wants to get her belly button pierced because Miley Cyrus has her belly button pierced. Kids that age should not be thinking already about how to increase their sex appeal and mimmick celebrities.
 
the seeker said:
Girls especially. So many girls I have known, suffered from low self esteem or insecurity issues regarding their looks . Of course its natural for everyone to go through this to some degree but I feel like our culture is a really unhealthy environment for girls. Most recent example, this 11 year old girl that my sister tutors in math told her that she wants to get her belly button pierced because Miley Cyrus has her belly button pierced. Kids that age should not be thinking already about how to increase their sex appeal and mimmick celebrities.
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Kids are hardly innocent.


I started masturbating and fantasizing about girls in my class at 4 years old. Just the kind of kid I was. I'm a sick, deviant motherfucker, but I don't believe any of this has had any negative effect on me. I'm perfectly capable of both controlling my impulses and engaging in normal sexuality. I'm only deviant because I had a headstart over everybody else in terms of fantasizing, so when I was ten I was where most people are at when they turn 20. I had to wait ten years from the moment I first wanted to get laid (4 years old), til the moment I actually got laid (14-15 depending on what you qualify as sex/loss of virginity). That's the only thing that had a negative impact on me.

Yes, our culture has some fucked up attitudes about sex, but it's hardly due to the level of exposure to it. The idea of shielding children from exposure to sexuality is a relatively recent phenomenon.

11 is a perfectly normal age to begin experiencing sexual feelings.
 
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Kids are hardly innocent.


I started masturbating and fantasizing about girls in my class at 4 years old. Just the kind of kid I was. I'm a sick, deviant motherfucker, but I don't believe any of this has had any negative effect on me. I'm perfectly capable of both controlling my impulses and engaging in normal sexuality. I'm only deviant because I had a headstart over everybody else in terms of fantasizing, so when I was ten I was where most people are at when they turn 20. I had to wait ten years from the moment I first wanted to get laid (4 years old), til the moment I actually got laid (14-15 depending on what you qualify as sex/loss of virginity). That's the only thing that had a negative impact on me.

Yes, our culture has some fucked up attitudes about sex, but it's hardly due to the level of exposure to it. The idea of shielding children from exposure to sexuality is a relatively recent phenomenon.

11 is a perfectly normal age to begin experiencing sexual feelings.
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4 seems very young indeed- did you have some kind of early puberty hormonal shit going on or what? i'm confused because when we had to do a safeguarding children thingy a child of four being very sexual would be a red flag for possible sexual abuse

yes really young kids masturbate for the fun of the sensory experience but "wanting to have sex" seems very different and a bit out of the normal range.

i was very horny at 11 and was desperate for sex and it wasn't the culture i lived in that caused it, it was my raging hormones and poor inhibition of desires

i do think advertising is a huge mental evil that drives a lot of stupid behaviour and makes us feel inadequate. i just block it out at every opportunity these days no matter what the message is as i try to reduce the level of brainwashing norms i absorb. obviously some get through but what ya gonna do? just mute it an put it on guide till the adds are over
 
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pofacedhoe said:
4 seems very young indeed- did you have some kind of early puberty hormonal shit going on or what? i'm confused because when we had to do a safeguarding children thingy a child of four being very sexual would be a red flag for possible sexual abuse

yes really young kids masturbate for the fun of the sensory experience but "wanting to have sex" seems very different and a bit out of the normal range.

i was very horny at 11 and was desperate for sex and it wasn't the culture i lived in that caused it, it was my raging hormones and poor inhibition of desires

i do think advertising is a huge mental evil that drives a lot of stupid behaviour and makes us feel inadequate. i just block it out at every opportunity these days no matter what the message is as i try to reduce the level of brainwashing norms i absorb. obviously some get through but what ya gonna do? just mute it an put it on guide till the adds are over
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If I felt that all of this was somehow the result of possible sexual abuse, I would not have listed it. I'm positive I was never sexually abused. It's simply not uncommon for some unknown factors to sexualize a kid early, and I have had several friends with similar experiences. It's not typical, but at the same time, it's not abnormal.

I'm not sure what caused it, to be honest. But I would consider its effects to be mostly beneficial on my life, I feel I have more awareness of that side of myself and maturity regarding it, which is a very good thing.

I remember the moment these feelings started, but I feel like a creeper typing it out so I think I will just keep it to myself, lol.
 
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sorry i didn't mean to freak you out i was just saying its a little bit early for wanting actual sex

everyone is different

there is a syndrome of early puberty thats quite real
 
I was getting boners and humping the couch at 4 years old, but I didn't actually "become sexual" until I was 11-12

It's natural for children to explore their bodies (and sexuality, if it's there)

Also, kids are innocent, until they lose their innocence.
Being sexual and being innocent aren't mutually exclusive.
 
Well it's not like genitalia is inherently sexual, but I do understand where you're coming from.
At the same time, I don't think sexual abuse is a necessary precursor to sexuality at that age.
 
Abject said:
Well it's not like genitalia is inherently sexual, but I do understand where you're coming from.
At the same time, I don't think sexual abuse is a necessary precursor to sexuality at that age.
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maybe not but its a little bit extreme and i though i was super horny lol
 
I wouldn't say it is just women ESPECIALLY. Men are made to feel they should be as handsome as Ryan Gosling, and 99.9% of them aren't Society yes is harsh on women, but you shouldn't say one is worst than the other. Men get it pretty bad too, you just don't hear about them talking/complaining about it as much.
 
^ Not to mention that porn actors are in the top few percent of dick size. That has to cause a lot of insecurity.
 
We don't live in a hypersexual society. That's an absurd remark to make.

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I started masturbating and fantasizing about girls in my class at 4 years old.
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^ fetuses have also been seen self-stimulating in the womb; it's definitely instinctual.

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If I felt that all of this was somehow the result of possible sexual abuse, I would not have listed it. I'm positive I was never sexually abused.
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On this specific note; people cope with sexual abuse differently. It can make children hypersexual, but in other children, it makes them somewhat asexual and not interested in sex for a long, long time.

I don't think it's abnormal to want to have sex or masturbate at the age of 4 at all.
 
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Captain.Heroin said:
I don't think it's abnormal to want to have sex or masturbate at the age of 4 at all.
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hmm to play with themselves yeah but to actually want to have sex either its early hormones or something weird is up. children are inquisitive and will do some bizarre sensory things but to consciously think at 4 years old without some kind of early puberty "i want to have penetrative sex" doesn't ring true to me:\
 
Cornishman said:
I remember wanting naked skin on skin contact at age 4.

To be fair I didn't know exactly how to even have sex at that age, but my instinct wanted to find out for sure.
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I would say this.


I didn't know exactly what a vagina was as a kid, nor that I needed to stick my penis in there, but I knew I wanted to rub my penis on whatever a girl had down there. I didn't necessarily understand the concept of penetration.
 
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