I can't stand girls who are too cowardly or duped into thinking it's better to keep cancelling plans/dates/whatevs last minute than to just say something to the effect of "I don't think this is a good idea." It's so much better to know what the deal is and not get strung along by false hope. If you don't want to hang out, let it be known.
Yeah, those are the only rejections that ever really hurt, regardless of whether or not I really liked the person.
Rangerz, I'm referring specifically to bar scenes/club scenes where dating/courtship is ostensibly the primary, or at the very least secondary, focus, and are often marketed and attended as such by males. I'm certainly not referring to every encounter with every women everywhere where any exchange of money for liquid or food takes place. I'm also referring specifically to situations where women are conditioned to accept these gifts yet feel no obligation to even consider pursuing a future relationship with any potential suitor for fear of stigmatization, so a woman who goes to one of these places and turns down any gifts she has no intention of reciprocating (or at the very least, declining to receive gifts after the amount that has been or will be spent on her relative to the potential future of a given relationship becoming excessive) is exempt, no matter where they are.
It's one thing when a drink, cup of coffee, or a meal is offered as a kind gesture of friendship, and quite another if someone strings you along for several of these purchases under a context that implies that this is some form of courtship, and yet the receiver has no intention of fulfilling their end of the bargain, which, to be clear (as posts of this nature can often be misinterpreted as misogynistic), is purely to either give a dude a chance or walk away if they are uninterested.
This is why I have never been big on the bar scene. I've watched too many friends come home empty handed night after night, I like the concept and if there were any indications that it worked it would be what I would do, but all indications (and limited experiences) are that they are good places to get scammed by well-intentioned people. I believe there is data to back these claims up, although I am prone to seriously doubt the veracity and methodology of any study inside of these pop-psychology/pop-sociology realms.
