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Single? For how long?

HighonLife said:
its the girls that litterally are unable to be single, will jump into a relationship with anyone so long as they dont have to be alone, i found girls like that have a whole set of issues (dependency usually just being the small one)
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Amen to that. For what I'm looking for, I think it's important a girl be able to be comfortable being single.. totally confident in herself without a man. It shows me something and I respect it. It also makes it seem more special if they decide to date me as I know they don't do that easily, so there must be something extra there.
 
HighonLife said:
i would tend to agree

llama im sure your a nice girl n like you said its not your fault you met one person after one relationship. really i dont think stringing to relationships together is what bagochina or myself is reffering to

its the girls that litterally are unable to be single, will jump into a relationship with anyone so long as they dont have to be alone, i found girls like that have a whole set of issues (dependency usually just being the small one)

i mean it shouldnt be a deal breaker but IMO one should be cautious of these women
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Yeah, I've never really "needed" to be in a relationship. But things just happened and I never really was single between my two relationships. I know quite a few people that are kinda what you're talking about. They always need to be with someone, etc. It is important to be able to be independent and single. I kind of wish that I had time in between my two relationships to really experience that "single life", but because I'm curious what it would be like (at this age, now that I know what relationships/sex is like). I think it would be fun to be single for a couple months BUT I love my boyfriend soooo obviously not going to do that lol.
 
I haven't been single since I was 12 ( yeah I know seems wrong) until now....I am 26 and been in a relationship since I was 13. :(
 
I think I was continuously in relationships from about 19 - 24. Guess it's not that long, but when I can't really tell when the in-between time was...

I'd told myself over and over that I should stop and take some time for myself, but I always just let myself fall into whatever. It's not like I wasn't in love, or didn't feel passion, but I know I settled/used people for shelter etc.

I have been truly single now for 4-5 months, with no intentions at ALL for another anytime soon - this last relationship was a mindfuck-and-a-half. I had a little rebound sex and don't see that guy anymore, and I'm currently dating (as in going on dates, the old fashioned way) a few interesting people. I'm trying to be very careful to keep some distance while I ponder the qualities and lack thereof in said folks... being alone isn't always fun, but learning to think completely for myself totally gives me power I've never had.

I miss the coziness I had, but it's outweighed by my fear of becoming trapped with someone insane again...
 
Wasn't in a real relationship til I was 19, after that was done it was a year of solidarity til about now. At first after breaking up I was quite occupied with just trying to find another relationship to jump into, but after about 6 months I was pretty content with just going with the flow and not really pursuing anything. It wasn't til new years when I started seeing the chick i'm with now that I felt a strong urge to be in a relationship again. Definitely prefer it over the single life, I like having someone to share experiences with in a more intimate way than friends and I can deal with some craziness here and there :P
 
I went ten years between my first partner and my second. Towards the end it was really badly affecting my self-esteem and I felt like there must be something wrong with me for not being able to get a boyfriend when a lot of other people I knew were going in and out of relationships like there was a revolving door.

I was with my second partner for three months, then realised that I had only really wanted the satisfaction of knowing that a relationship was a possibility for me; I didn't actually want the relationship. I liked the guy well enough but was happy for us to not get any more serious than we were at that time and he wanted us to buy a house and move in together within the year. So it got to the point where we broke up, he stalked me for a while, I had to call the cops on his ass...good times good times 8(

Anywho, that was about three years ago...the psycho pops up every now and then to show he's still obsessed with me, bless him...but this time around I am actually super content being on my own. The funny thing is, before the stalker I was super bitter and anti-relationship, after the stalker I am much more chilled about it but I recognise that I don't really want one either. I am open to the idea and there have been a couple of guys since the stalker that I have considered as relationship prospects, but at the end of the day I actually really like being single. I value my independence, and I think a lot of people have an unhealthy need to be in a relationship with ANYONE else who will have them not because that person really adds something to their quality of life, but just because they're scared of being alone.
 
bagochina said:
I have never been able to understand those girls that are constantly in relationships, usually I try to avoid them.
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When a girl has spent very little time single, that to me is a major red flag. Generally shows daddy issues.
 
two of my recent ex's I'd be willing to try again with. they were good to me for the most part, relatively short relationships so any damage was minimal and I'm still on friendly speaking terms with em
 
I only have one ex I'd really be willing to try again with but she basically left the country... well, actually left the country... because she couldn't be clean with me around. So I don't see that one ever working out.. :\
 
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