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Embarrassed about my sister wearing revealing outfits?

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I know if this is the right forum but it has to do with sex so I thought I'd post it here.
my sister has taken to wearing what I would consider some pretty revealing clothes. She wears tight shirts that are also cut short so they expose her midriff and she also shows a lot of cleavage. I will admit I can find it attractive when I see a girl showing her belly button like this but I absolutely cannot stand it when my sister does it. It makes me so mad that I don't even want to hang out with her unless she covers up. ANyway, I am just wondering if these feelings are normal on my part? Should I tell my sister how much it bothers me when she dresses this way or should I just try to deal with it?

I don't even know why it bothers me so much, it's just that I have noticed the vast majority of girls do not walk around showing their stomach to the world, even the ones with belly piercings usually dont show it to the world and when I do see a girl dressed like this I kind of think she is a slut even if it looks sexy. I really wouldn't want to date a girl like this either. In college a friend of mine got made fun of for having a slut sister who constantly got insanely drunk and embarrassed him with her promiscuity and I remember feeling so lucky my sister didn't drink. Well she still doesn't drink but this bothers me just as much.

What do the girls here think? If you see another girl dressed this way do you automatically think slut or is it acceptable in your mind? Not that it really makes a difference, I guess it might just bother me less if its not looked down on.
 
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She can wear whatever she wants. Who are you to decide what she "should" be wearing?
 
How old is she?
Your feelings are normal but you shouldn't get involved, as was said, you don't get to decide what she wears. Unless she's like 12, and then maybe your parents should give her some restrictions...but once again I don't really think it's your place.
I've kind of been going through a similar thing recently because my brother just turned 15, which is the age at wich I lost my virginity. I dunno why but it's stressing me out that he might soon as well (if he hasn't yet, he keeps having girls over), because, well, he's my little brother! But I'm accepting that I'm just finding it weird for him to be growing up and that it's really none of my business anyway.
Personally I don't like it when girls wear what you described but she can do what she wants. Provided, once again, she's not inappropriately young.
 
I'm assuming she's young and fit, so if it looks good, why not? It would be different if she was a fatty and had all sorts of blubber hanging out. I see this a lot and wouldn't wear clothes that are unflattering. But that's just me. Sometimes you gotta choose your battles.
 
^Aaw no that's not cool. I hate when people judge a girl wearing short or revealing stuff just because she's unattractive. She's got as much as a right to dress like that as anyone else ffs.
 
the seeker said:
I know if this is the right forum but it has to do with sex so I thought I'd post it here.
my sister has taken to wearing what I would consider some pretty revealing clothes. She wears tight shirts that are also cut short so they expose her midriff and she also shows a lot of cleavage. I will admit I can find it attractive when I see a girl showing her belly button like this but I absolutely cannot stand it when my sister does it. It makes me so mad that I don't even want to hang out with her unless she covers up. ANyway, I am just wondering if these feelings are normal on my part? Should I tell my sister how much it bothers me when she dresses this way or should I just try to deal with it?

I don't even know why it bothers me so much, it's just that I have noticed the vast majority of girls do not walk around showing their stomach to the world, even the ones with belly piercings usually dont show it to the world and when I do see a girl dressed like this I kind of think she is a slut even if it looks sexy. I really wouldn't want to date a girl like this either. In college a friend of mine got made fun of for having a slut sister who constantly got insanely drunk and embarrassed him with her promiscuity and I remember feeling so lucky my sister didn't drink. Well she still doesn't drink but this bothers me just as much.

What do the girls here think? If you see another girl dressed this way do you automatically think slut or is it acceptable in your mind? Not that it really makes a difference, I guess it might just bother me less if its not looked down on.
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lol Oh dear. How old is she? Not much you can do, but I do think it's cute that you're being a protective brother. ;)
 
I walk out of my house naked like 95% of the time. My neighbors would have said something about now. But I guess it doesn't bother em. %)
 
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the seeker said:
I don't even know why it bothers me so much...
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sounds to me like this has nothing to do with her and everything to do with you. would you get angry if a close male friend dated your sister? had sex with her (assuming she's old enough to make that choice)?

i think you need to look inward for the answer to this...

alasdair
 
^^ im not sure where you are goin with that

but i dont know many guys who would want their friends bangin their sister

i mean age definately plays a part but anything under 20 and i could see why someone would have a prob with their friends bangin their sister
 
My brother wouldn't want me dressing in revealing outfits. I wouldn't want to dress in revealing outfits around him either, to be honest. I'd feel embarrassed for some reason. We were brought up in a conservative family so that's probably why. Anyway, your sister has a right to dress however she wants to... there's not much you can do about that. I don't think you should trip about it too much, it's really not a big deal :)
 
alasdairm said:
sounds to me like this has nothing to do with her and everything to do with you. would you get angry if a close male friend dated your sister? had sex with her (assuming she's old enough to make that choice)?

i think you need to look inward for the answer to this...

alasdair
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What do you mean?
I'd hate it for one of my friends to sleep with my little brother, or to date him for that matter - not on my brother's part but on my friend's. I dunno, I feel like friends' family is kinda off limits, I would never sleep with a friend's brother either.
But I've got no problem with how my brother wants to dress or with the number of other girls he wants to sleep with. AS LONG AS THEYRE NOT MY FRIENDS. ;)
 
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what if your brother really liked the person and wanted to be with them?

alasdair
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Yes, it's really not cool for family to try and keep two people who want to be together apart. I have a lot of that of going on in my relationship and it REALLY sucks. Let people who love whoever they so choose, provided they're not being abusive or the like.
 
alasdairm said:
what if your brother really liked the person and wanted to be with them?

alasdair
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I would never try to stop them, he does what he wants with his life after all, but it would bug me. I don't really know why. I think it's exactly the same as if a friend of mine were banging my mom if she were single or something...you just don't do that. I wouldn't do anything to prevent it cuz it's none of my business but I certainly wouldn't be thrilled either :\
I dunno, I thought it was kind of a commonplace idea that your friends' family is off limits, no ?
 
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I dunno, I thought it was kind of a commonplace idea that your friends' family is off limits, no ?
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for many, it is and i'm trying to understand why.

i love and respect my sister enough to celebrate the fact that she gets to choose who she wants to be with. if it was a friend of mine, the only thing that would matter would be that she was happy. i can't imagine why that would bug me so i have trouble understanding why it world bug somebody else.

i understand different people react differently but i just can't relate to that feeling and don't understand what's behind it.

alasdair
 
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