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ghostlove

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okay, so where do I start? well, me and my ex broke up like exactly 2 years ago. it was a very rough break up, I was depressed, didn't eat, couldn't sleep, tried so hard to get back with her and she just really wasn't having it, although I know how crazy I got about it so that could be some of the reason why. I love this girl still till this day with my entire heart, I care for her, think about her, just nonstop. we only spoke a couple times through the 2 year break up but nothing special, more like a whatever type convo. well these past couple of weeks I could not get her out of my head for some reason, dreaming about her, constantly thinking about her, just the whole 9 yards. now keep in mind every time I broke up or wanted to leave her, she would beg,scream,everything she could to make sure I didn't leave her. well I finally had enough of the depression so I decided to write her a letter explaining how I felt and how I felt about the whole break up situation. I explained to her that I wasn't trying to get back with her, nor did I want her to respond back to me. I told her that I wanted to set myself free and to be done with the idea of me and her getting back together, and that's the whole reason I wrote her that letter. so I texted her told her to check her mailbox outside, and I told her to keep things how it is and not to respond back to me. well she did, and her exact words were "I like your letter". so I text back and said thank you and I really appreciate you reading it. so after that, she texts me explaining herself, and we started talking about life. she told me she wanted me to send a picture of my dog, which I did. long story short, I just need guidance. I know she knows I love her, and our break up was both of our faults. some people just say move on and get over her, and some say to fight for what you think is true love. well I know I can make things better. I love this girl so much and I just want to prove it. what should I do? please help me. thanks :)
 
iheartthisthread said:
it's time to move on. There are other people to date. Seriously.
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This. Maybe the reason you're still so hung up on her is because you never told yourself to move on so you've been stuck in a sort of limbo waiting for something to work out. Hopefully the letter will give you some closure, but you should really forget about her.
 
even if I really love the girl? and I know we were meant? she still has my heart, still get butterflies when I see or hear of her. they say fight for what you want, fight for that love that you think its true. so is that not a good thing to do?
 
well I did get into a relationship after, and still kinda am in one. but its not working out, I don't think I can love another girl like I did her. I just don't want to go down in my life and think what if I did say or try something. I don't want to miss that chance to make things right.
 
ghostlove said:
even if I really love the girl? and I know we were meant? she still has my heart, still get butterflies when I see or hear of her. they say fight for what you want, fight for that love that you think its true. so is that not a good thing to do?
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ghostlove said:
well I did get into a relationship after, and still kinda am in one. but its not working out, I don't think I can love another girl like I did her. I just don't want to go down in my life and think what if I did say or try something. I don't want to miss that chance to make things right.
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I dunno, I mean I personally don't really believe in the idea of 'the one'...it's not beause your current relationship isn't working out that it won't work out with someone else! And I mean, 2 years ago the two of you broke up for a reason, so in one way or another it must have been a dysfonctional relationship...I'm sure if you work towards moving on from this girl and meeting new people you'll be able to love someone else just as much.
 
sorry if I sound crazy, obsessive, or even dumb. but I'm just in love, and confused. but I do appreciate all the advice.
 
You don't sound crazy or dumb dude, it's really difficult to move on from passionate relationships, but sometimes it's just time :\
 
You don't sound dumb or even crazy IMO. It always sounds crazier when it's in words on a forum. I've had break ups where I'm a mess just crying in bed and not eating and wishing I'd get a phone call. I've also had feelings for people a while after the breakup but you have to let go after a while.

I think the letter was good idea for closure but don't go back into obsessive behavior. It's especially difficult to get a spark back after you fall out of love with someone and chances are she has moved on. She probably felt obligated to say something to you because it would have been rude not to acknowledge what you wrote at all.
 
ghostlove said:
I wouldn't call it obsessive. I just sincerely love that girl.
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I know it hurts. And as hard it will be, you have to change your focus. It'll take some time, but eventually your love for her won't be so life-consuming.

A month ago, I was madly in love with someone...I thought I'd DIE if I couldn't be with him. Long story short, I'm not with him and I'm okay.

You'll sort it out.
 
The letter was a good idea but it was for closure! It seems like it has had the opposite effect and now you just want back with her. Stop talking to her. Start meeting some other girls. You really need to move on!
 
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