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How does everyone have like 6,000 friends on Facebook?

i just went through and "unfriended" like a 100 people.... i want my "facebook friends" to at least be people i can remember meeting...
 
I got like 300ish "friends" I believe. I been on fb since 2008 and at one point or another in my life these people were good friends. but I've transitioned a lot these past few years: high school clean friends, high school get high buddies, college friends, college get high buddies, family, and now NA friends.
 
I've been on Facebook since 2009 and out of 2,600 "friends" I actually know about 70 in real life. The other people are into metal and clubbing like I am, so that's our basic link.
 
Illyria99 said:
I've been on Facebook since 2009 and out of 2,600 "friends" I actually know about 70 in real life. The other people are into metal and clubbing like I am, so that's our basic link.
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So dyou just add random people you don't know on there because you've got stuff in common? Like do you actually talk to them on the chat or something? (don't mean to sound condescending, I'm genuinely curious).
 
Pagey said:
So dyou just add random people you don't know on there because you've got stuff in common? Like do you actually talk to them on the chat or something? (don't mean to sound condescending, I'm genuinely curious).
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Absolutely. Facebook suggests people based on your interests...and since mine are deathcore music and clubbing, people who are into that either add me, or I add them.

I've actually met several people and they turned out to be a lot of fun.
 
^^me neither dude

whenever i get a fr from someone i dnt kno i always say to myself, who the fuck are u and why are u requesting me??

then ill usually accept cuz u kno, having a lot of fb friends makes u cool ;)
 
^Yeah, I usually say no cuz it's always relatively old men and seeing as I'm in a bathing suit on my profile pic I tend to question their motives for adding me...I only accept people I know :p
 
Pagey said:
Huh okay. I'd never thought of facebook as being a website to do that but sounds pretty cool.
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I used to use myspace for this, but I keep my facebook fairly private. I still network on it like mad, with people I've either met or spoken to for a long time on a forum like BL or somewhere else.

It's good for spreading good words, music, keeping in touch with my homies, and networking for stuff I need help with in the future - gurus, travel, business, artists, musicians and bands, DJs, tattooists, old teachers, parents of friends, very few people I haven't actually met.
 
Actually, I have two profiles. One for family and the other for my death metal friends...so obviously, I can be as wild as I want on one and a bit more restrained on the other.
 
I have mixed feelings about Facebook. I deactivated my account last week because I found it was fucking with my head a bit that I had 200+ "friends", but the extent of my interaction with 99% of these people was that they would like my status or a photo, or I would like theirs...but there was never any really meaningful interaction. It makes it too easy to think you have a friendship with someone when really all you have is a couple of shared interests, and nobody pursues a relationship with anyone else outside of clicking a button to give some instant gratification. I am just as guilty of it myself, I feel like I have become such a social retard since Facebook became my primary tool for interacting with my friends and I really don't like it.

On the other hand, it does definitely have its benefits too...it's the best way to still feel connected with people who are interstate/overseas, and as an artist it's a great networking tool. So I don't think that deactivating my account is the best long-term solution, but I am gonna re-address the way I use it before I get back on it.

All that rambling aside, to address the original question: having thousands of friends on FB isn't really something to aspire to IMO (unless like I said it's for networking purposes). I guarantee that a lot of those people would not actually be someone you've had a decent conversation with at any point of your life. I'm not judging it...if someone wants to add every person they've ever met, more power to them...Christ knows I have been guilty of adding the occasional hot dude just so his photos come up in my newsfeed hahaha...all I'm saying is it's not an indication of any real friendship, and you can really fuck your head up if you lose sight of that .
 
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Silly to worry about the number of friends you have. Sitting at 299 right now and they're almost all people from school who I know from seeing every single day for the last five years of my life. I was at around 450 around a year ago and trimmed it back to 250, there were just so many people I had no interest in ever speaking to or even knowing their whereabouts or situation in life. I only even use it for talking to close friends anyway.
 
B1tO'RoughJack said:
I used to use myspace for this, but I keep my facebook fairly private. I still network on it like mad, with people I've either met or spoken to for a long time on a forum like BL or somewhere else.

It's good for spreading good words, music, keeping in touch with my homies, and networking for stuff I need help with in the future - gurus, travel, business, artists, musicians and bands, DJs, tattooists, old teachers, parents of friends, very few people I haven't actually met.
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Yeah, I only use facebook for friends, people I know (like went to school with or live in the same dorm as, etc) and I've got a couple good BL friends on there but I wouldn't go further than that in terms of people I don't actually know IRL. There's a ton of pics and info about me on there so I'd get nervous if I wasn't sure who was seeing it.
 
Pagey said:
Yeah, I only use facebook for friends, people I know (like went to school with or live in the same dorm as, etc) and I've got a couple good BL friends on there but I wouldn't go further than that in terms of people I don't actually know IRL. There's a ton of pics and info about me on there so I'd get nervous if I wasn't sure who was seeing it.
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Lol, you think only your friends can view your info.? Do you use "Instagram"? How about "applications"? Have you adjusted the privacy settings for those applications? Have all of your friends?

A lot of "people" have your information whether you like it or not...

Happy browsing! ;)


On a side note, I got rid of my Facebook account two or so years ago and have no plans on going back no matter how "easy" it makes keeping in touch. I don't need the instant gratification of clicking a button to show my care for my friends/family--That's what the novel-length e-mails once a month or two are for. :D
 
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