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baby faces... are they bad?

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thahighlife

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hi everyone, this is my first post to b/l. i have been lurking for a whiel, and this has been bugging me. so i thought i would ask everyone here.

i am 24, and quite often i am told how young i llook. i usually get so frustrated in the moment because i am so self concious about it that i never ask anyone well, is it a bad thing?

i could pass from 15-17, i always get asked if im in highschool. going to clubs/bars with friends is just embarassing bcos i always get stopped and my id gets checked extra thoroughly and i get asked are you even old enough to be here? its awful i want to bury my head in the sand. people ALWAYS say you'll appreciate it when you are older but im not older i have to live NOW.

what i wanted to know, is it so bad? should i feel so self concious about it? its just hard bcos there are things people dont even take into consideration. when i go to a restraunt for instance with a girl i get trated like a kid. i dont get the respect i deserve. they wont come to my table very often because they just think oh hes a kid hes gonna tip me bad anyway. i NEVER get the respect i deserve as an adult and it really frustrates me. when i do go places and people find out my age they jst will try to hold back a laugh :\

am i making too big a deal out of this than i should? have i wasted so many years being bothered by this when its not THAT bad? im not ugly by any means, i really am a good looking person. im just 5'7 130 so im kind of smaller boned and bodied, and than i have this baby face. what should i make of this b/l?
 
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My boyfriend is about 130 and 5'8" so you're about the same height/weight. He also has a very young looking face and, like you, people think he's younger. (We are both 22.) I look young as well, I'm short (only 5 feet) and my face just looks young. I get ID'd when I go into clubs too, try and buy liquor, etc. It's kind of annoying. People tend to think I'm around 16.

I've never had people not treat me with respect though. I wonder if that's something to do with self confidence? Perhaps the way you dress? You can dress so that you look older. As a female, I can wear makeup to make myself look older but I suppose that isn't an option for males. Still ... maybe wearing something different, changing up your style may help? I do think confidence may be part of it. Also things like, how you hold yourself. Your posture. How you talk to others. All this can make people respect you a bit more, not think that you're just a kid, that kinda thing.
 
I definitely wouldn't worry about it if I were you. I can understand it must be frustrating but it really isn't that big a deal. In fact, lots of women find that particularly attractive - look at DiCaprio, in Titanic he looks about 16 but the guy's fucking hot! =D
Maybe there are things you could change about your appearance that would make you look closer to your age though, such as the way you dress - also the way you act, etc. Basically what llama said.

I've always been misinterpreted as way older than I am. I just turned 19 but ever since I was around 16-17 people have been assuming I'm in my early to mid twenties, and I'm absolutely positive that's related only to how I dress and act, because my face doesn't look particularly older. There are lots of ways to 'manipulate' your apparent age - don't worry about it too much!
 
I'm almost 22 but with a clean shave I could pass as 17. my voice is deeper than most guys at that age though and the way I carry myself let's people know I'm older. my communication skills have been likened to someone in late twenties-early thirties and its a big plus. as was said, dress more mature and act more mature. hanging out with older people and fitting in with them makes you appear older too. people will treat you with respect if they see others respecting you.
 
im 5' 8" 125 lbs and im 23. i went to the bar the other week and before i gave my ID i was told i look young, so i asked her how old she thinks i am and she says 17 or 18.

i get that shit all the time, even with my half ass beard/moustache, but when i shave i better make sure i got my indentification with me if i go out.

i dont think its unattractive at all. i get laid so apparently girls dont find it unattractive
 
Hey thahighlife, welcome to bluelight!

I'm roughly in the same straits as you physically: 5'8", 138lbs, and a youngish looking face. People often scope my ID out at length and will even request I make a similar facial expression to that of the ID. I'm 27, but I can pass for my early twenties, maybe even younger w/ a clean shave and other aspects being in place. Sometimes it bothers me, honestly. Yet I find the most significant things to be the ones already mentioned: if I carry myself well, don't slouch, speak intelligently, and dress reasonably people almost always treat me w/ respect, and what's more, even look to me as a leader. Sometimes I will wear clothes I did as a teenager, and usually there is a clear difference as to how the establishment (professional class, policemen, authorities) treats me. Another significantly important element is the company you keep. For most people the maturity level is set by consensus in the social group.

Beyond that, the way people treat you can only get to you if you let it. I know it is easier said than done, but if you can minimize the effect others' actions have on your self-image you will be much better for it.
 
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smokemctoke420 said:
im 5' 8" 125 lbs and im 23. i went to the bar the other week and before i gave my ID i was told i look young, so i asked her how old she thinks i am and she says 17 or 18.

i get that shit all the time, even with my half ass beard/moustache, but when i shave i better make sure i got my indentification with me if i go out.

i dont think its unattractive at all. i get laid so apparently girls dont find it unattractive
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damn dude you're thin. maybe that's why they think you're so young. I'm 5'6" ish and weigh in at a healthy 160 (I weightlift). so a "well developed body" also makes you look a bit older. plus I can grow full beard and mustache with no problem :D also look into your hair style/hair cut.
 
thanks for the replies so quickly! i do weight lift as well, i do the protein shakes etc. i am a lot bigger than i used to be. i have a half assed beard/mustache. i am very intelligent, i carry myself like i am older. i do dress nicely when i go out, dress shoes nicer shirts etc. its just my face it sucks sometimes. but glad to see other people thinking it isnt such a bad thing thanks for the support :) my body is "developed" for my size. i just am naturally a smaller build.
 
I'm 6'3'', 220 lbs and have a baby face as well. All I can grow is a mustache and chin thing. I'm 26 and if I shave, I get carded for R rated movies. I too also hear "you'll appreciate it when you're older". I've never been treated like a child or without respect though. I carry myself very well. Talk shit, I'll bust that ass ya'hear?
 
Serotonin101 said:
damn dude you're thin. maybe that's why they think you're so young. I'm 5'6" ish and weigh in at a healthy 160 (I weightlift). so a "well developed body" also makes you look a bit older. plus I can grow full beard and mustache with no problem :D also look into your hair style/hair cut.
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yeah i am pretty thin and have always been skinny since i was little. i would gain a couple lbs if i quit cigs and when i started at the golf course( my first outside job the rest have been cooking jobs since 16) i gained alot of arm muscle but my legs and actual arms are still scrawny.

the fact that i was born 3 months premature and almost died from multiple brain hemmorages and shit like that. i spent 6 months in the hospital and fit in the palm of my dads hand so yeah im skinny as fuck lol
 
smokemctoke420 said:
yeah i am pretty thin and have always been skinny since i was little. i would gain a couple lbs if i quit cigs and when i started at the golf course( my first outside job the rest have been cooking jobs since 16) i gained alot of arm muscle but my legs and actual arms are still scrawny.

the fact that i was born 3 months premature and almost died from multiple brain hemmorages and shit like that. i spent 6 months in the hospital and fit in the palm of my dads hand so yeah im skinny as fuck lol
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damn dude sounds rough. glad to have you with us my friend.
 
thanks you. im thankful i lived through it. in the doctors words to my mother. "scrap this one and try again". shits fucked up lol
 
Right there with you man. Looking young aint a bad thing. I'm 24 now and I still have to show ID for anything that requires you to be at least 17+. Can't complain though, it sure will be nice being in my 30's and still looking 21.
 
I feel your pain, I graduated high school 2010 and I still get ID'd for cigs. Hell I even got carded trying to see an R-rated movie the other day. But hey if I'm almost 21 and look 16 hopefully when I'm 40 ill look 30/35, hopefully this is how it works....
 
^ lol i got carded for an r rated movie before too!
and i have a bit of a baby face i could def pass as a highschool sophomore (i am 23)
but by far the most annoying thing is my baby voice! on the phone i sound like a 9 year old!!!!! I seriously had a lady tell me that the other day after i reassured her i was in fact an adult!

but no a baby face is not a bad thing unless you are under 21 and trying to get into bars!
 
Im 25 but most people guess im 20ish, after being out of school for a few years I fit right in with all the undergrads I have class with.

I think of it as a good thing.
 
I'm the opposite. I'm young with an older appearance. It comes in handy, but one major disadvantage is that people assume you can handle more than you really can, and you get given more responsibility to deal with.

At least when you're baby faced people assume you are innocent. You can get away with way more.
 
Grow a beard. Im 23. until i grew a beard i got carded for cigs, alcohol, everything. I never get carded now.
 
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