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mrflowers00

mrflowers00

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fear rules me and keeps me in bed most of my days idk what i'm afraid of but i feel like i can't accomplish anything until i get over the fear
 
I think we all feel that way sometimes.. IME, though most of the time it never turns out as bad as I had worried about. Do you have any support system IRL?

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ive been gettin better with my anxiety lately (obviously as im now addicted to benzos again) but what helps is just forcing yourself out of the house for a walk, talk to some people in real life.

i'm meeting a dude to work on my guitar now, something i could never do with the fear of anxiety. And it's a great feeling.
 
someone once told me that fear is a lack of faith, so when you find yourself in a situation where you start to get anxious start looking for a way out(mentally and physically).
Fear of ReJection is probably the one that i go thru the most, i have a hard time dealing with that i think i'm 'less than' you. That no matter what I to do I think I'm doing something wrong. This is really hard to deal with at work because if you work like me you are always want to make your boss happy right?
Not only that but in public, when i smile at people and when they don't smile back i think they don't like me. Sounds kinda lame right? but that's the thought that runs thru my head.
I've recently started to Journal/Note book, whatever you want to call it, and so far it's been a good investment because not only i can record how my sleep was that night I also use it for planning my day and writing what all i did that day. I now use it all the time ( probably because I don't use a smart phone) for everyday thing's like making a shopping list, writing phone numbers and address's down. Good way to keep somewhat order in my life.
I also have some other fears like of spiders and other little bug's that can fuck you up.
 
mrflowers00 said:
nah i just have panic attacks for no particular reason and that scares me
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Sometimes you have to know within yourself that there's nothing to be afraid of, and just to accept how you feel in the moment and go with it.

D's said:
I also have some other fears like of spiders and other little bug's that can fuck you up.
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I cringe every time I see a cockroach and it makes me feel horrible.
 
D's said:
someone once told me that fear is a lack of faith, so when you find yourself in a situation where you start to get anxious start looking for a way out(mentally and physically).
Fear of ReJection is probably the one that i go thru the most, i have a hard time dealing with that i think i'm 'less than' you. That no matter what I to do I think I'm doing something wrong. This is really hard to deal with at work because if you work like me you are always want to make your boss happy right?
Not only that but in public, when i smile at people and when they don't smile back i think they don't like me. Sounds kinda lame right? but that's the thought that runs thru my head.
I've recently started to Journal/Note book, whatever you want to call it, and so far it's been a good investment because not only i can record how my sleep was that night I also use it for planning my day and writing what all i did that day. I now use it all the time ( probably because I don't use a smart phone) for everyday thing's like making a shopping list, writing phone numbers and address's down. Good way to keep somewhat order in my life.
I also have some other fears like of spiders and other little bug's that can fuck you up.
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That's really a cool post, D's. I get a lot out of journaling, too. I'm horrible at doing it every day--it's more like every day for 2 weeks, then nothing for 4 years then every day again and and then another long gap. I think it is helpful at the time but it is also cool to go back and read what you wrote about where you were a couple of months or even years ago.

I like the idea that fear is a lack of faith--that's an interesting way to put it. Trust that you are enough, that the world has a place for you, that life is abundant and full of possibilities. It is natural to feel fear but it is also natural and desirable to overcome it.

Since my son died I have a very different relationship with fear. Basically the only fear (really deep fear) that I have left is that something could happen to my older son. But, paradoxically, because I was shown through losing my younger son how little control we ever have over death, even that fear is different.
 
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