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cornerstone430

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It seems, my old crew broke apart. Nobody seems to do shit but care about themselves. I used to have a plentiful social life. In my town (which is smaller one) theres not much to do. My ex girlfriend basically ran off my friends in one way or another . Now i dont get many visits from friends @ home.
I am schizophrenic and people judge me on my past so maybe thats part of it. I lost my car due to a legal case so the people i would hang out with(a crew that hasnt abandoned me) is outta town.

It leaves me depressed unless i got something to get high on and my meds help a little. Just dont like being by myself. Got used to having a companion and now don't and just gets me down.
I dont want a roomate but i just cannot believe how my ex ran off my friends then they dont come back. I cant count true friends on one hand but then again who is a true friend when they have betrayed you and had opportunites to help but do opposite. Well i got one true friend and a couple others but they arent close.
just hate being alone because when im bymyself my schizophrenia gets to me.

thanks all advice be great
 
Hi cornerstone430,
I'm a newbie like yourself so I'm feeling around in the dark a bit myself. Like you I lost quite a lot of what I thought were "good" friends but after reading couple of other threads today I realise that having one real friend is better than having several acquantices. You've taken the first step by coming onto BL which is a great for loads of different reasons.

Are there any mental health support groups you could go to locally?
I tried lots of support groups which help but I haven't been in a while, I think I'm overdue but I'm a private person and hate the fact that there are some nosy bastards out there.
Psychotherapy costs a helluv lot but it has helped me sooo much and I try to do it as much as I can afford.
I tend to avoid banal chit chat with people I don't know cos I am always second guessing their motives (am paranoid which doesn't help), but I make sure that I make the effort to meet up with my real friends on a regular basis and plan it well in advance with more than one so I am not let down in case one or two can't make it.
I try and avoid alcohol in between nights out with friends or I drive so I have no option but to drink sprite all night which is good cos some of my friends are recovering alcoholics and I am not bombarded with questions about why I'm not drinking.
I do a lot of research about my illness and try to talk about it to people who won't judge me but peeps do get sick of hearing about it from me so I go online to shoot the breeze and just let off steam when I am really bad.
You know the old saying about a problem shared.....

I hope this has helped and doesn't sound like a steaming pile of horse shit
:)
 
Welcome 2 TDS guys, it's a gr8 place w/ gr8 people.. Minus captaincaveman, who's presence here is pointless, he said he's closing his account.. Fingers crossed!! He's an idiot.

I also don't have but a handful of RL friends. Seems after high school ends, friends got their own ways.. The good 1's will stay in contact but not all will..
Although, if people are judging you, when u have a medical condition, fuck 'em.. You're too good for them anyways.. We don't need judgemental people in our lives, we have enough problems in our lives, don't need friends like that 2.

I have 1 friend that I'd trust my life 2, othr then that I got zip. He's the kind of friend that if I didn't talk 2 him for years, and called him up and said help.. He'd be there,I'm lucky 4 that @ least..


@furry, man I'm the same way.. I can't small talk people to save my life, I think that's what makes it so hard for me to meet new people. I need to get ovr it something serious though..
Anyways, sorry I wasn't much help, but I sure hope u both stick around..
 
I used to be on the forum quite a bit a few years ago as karona.
Take 4medications for my schizophrenia and mood disorder. My friend that i normally can conversate with without being discriminated in ways is in jail. Substance abuse could be part of it but i think that people lableing me (my own old crew) hasnt helped. Am considering moving to a closer town where i have a girl there that likes me much. Probably would help since i dont like being alone. Guess that happens when your with someone for a long time and they keep trying to take your kid away. That's probably why im so on the darkside now. My daughter is my life and all her mother's family wants is to keep her from me.
And they arent no saints either. Just dont understand why one would try to take a kid away from their father which she has complete trust in and loves. I fought a custody battle for 3.5 years then the shit starts happening again. I know God will sort things out, i just hope she dont feel resentment towards me because of not seeing me. My ex took her several states away(again)

if it werent for a couple miracles that have happened in my life and living with God i would have done given up
 
If u don't mind me asking r u in america? Bc if so, I don't see how she can be moving states away. No joint custody?
 
Im in usa. She broke a court order and signed away her custody . So its based as an interstate custody case . which around my area its a bitch to get a proper lawyer to handle this. I was in jail when i got served and i never signed away my rights. Her other grandma(not my mother) has temporary gaurdianship so like i told them its Temporary and if i got to go to court a dozen more times i will. Just am tired of the shit why cant people grow up. I was served in jail and did a few months so i couldnt contest it/take the custody because was in jail. I believe i wasnt notified of the court date properly.

needless to say im gonna come back with a vengence!
 
Well dude, I'm gna give you my advice, even though u didn't ask bc I know quite a few ghetto mofo's..
If she did sign away her rights and you have not, don't do anything that could jeopardize ur chances of full custody bc I dnt see why you couldn't get it w/ a proper job, places, ect..

How is granny not in trouble 4 giving the kid to its mother and why isn't this considered kid napping?

Yeah, u definitely need a lawyer.
 
Thanks for the advice guys/gals. Ive been pursuing a lawyer in my area with my mothers help. Its gonna hit em hard because the bitch that has temp gaurdianship has had her kid taken away because of drug use and the papers we signed on our joint custody(which was in ohio they call it "shared parenting') cannot use my criminal record against me and i cant use it against the mother which is fine because when i go to court. Probably be in a few months ill be ready and beat'em again.

But myself i wouldnt ever deprive a child of right to see their parent especially after estabilishing a trusting relationship. She jumped from arkansas to Oklahoma and i live in IL so its a distance thing that is the biggest problem for me.
 
Neighbor! I'm in WI..

U just need to pursue full custody, then its your choice where, when, or if the kid sees her mom..my dad took us from my mom and its the best thing he could've ever done 4 us.<3 her to death but she was kind of a crappy mother.
 
yeah my ex/her mother has just let go of herself. Maybe its a good thing she signed over her rights cus god be my witness im gonna have full custody damnit. My daughter is not happy where she is and it kills me.


oooooh i got bluelighter status...finally lol
 
I didn't think criminal records played a role @ all.. My nieces/nephew dad has a record, pretty extensive actually, and he has joint. The courts want the parents to play as much a role as possible.
 
Look on the bright side of this though bud, she has signed her rights, which should make it easy for you to get full custody. Also, though kidnapping and she purposely keeping her from you, which should also help your case..

How did she not get a kidnapping charge though?

Congrats on being an official BL:)
 
Congrats on the Bl status - am jealous
Your daughter is lucky to have a Dad like you who is so passionate about fighting for her."

thanks for that. It is sad how many deadbeat dad's are around and dont give a shit even though they can see their kid(s) at any time . Rediculous.

on the bright side i just got back with my ex girlfriend from a year a go. A good one (nice and tight too lol) but atleast she dont steal and has respect for me. Only been a couple days but its always good to snuggle and be with someone you can depend on.

your delt a hand of cards in life and i guess it depends on how you play them . Lots of variables. Now this one chick from a couple years back is saying she had a kid and its mine and the timeline dosent fit. Bitch is saying she's gonna keep her away from me so were doing dna to see whats up. Dont think its mine but ill man up if so. She lives in the same state as me and dont think she has the capability to leave state in her circumstances and god forbid ive studied enough about IL case law regaurding custody . she dont have a chance keeping away from my siblings. What the hell has this world came to!

Tell ya if it isnt one thing its another lmao(sarcastic) ha
 
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