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almost noone cares about me

Yeah that was a joke. I would hang out with u. No beers though ur too young. Plus i'd like for us to chill without even getting buzzed. Share some recovery type hope stories. Keep each other out of trouble,
 
Southbridge is like 20 miles south from Worcester, 40 miles east of Springfield, and about 1 1/2hrs west of Boston. I'm sure the UC's are loving this post.

Opium ill PM you :)
 
opium said:
ok dad 8)

lol jk. yeah thatd be chill.

i saw a pic of you dj'ing dude, thats sick as fuck
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Lol. Damn right son! We're gonna hang out man. I just don't want to get u in trouble.
Yeah I've spun in like 5 states. Just got a gig in january. First time playing out in 4 yrs. I'm stoked!
 
mrflowers00 said:
at least someone made a possible real life friend from my post
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I was just pointing out how easy it is in the one post. Make shit happen u know? Make connections. Don't be desperate. If you have some substance and personailty u can make some friends and make plans.
Be outgoing. I have a very calming demeanor. I'm easy to get along with and I go out of my way too meet new people. Its rewarding when i meet people like yourself and give them a chance and lend them an ear. I was very shy and depressed before and i look for people feeling down, especially in meetings, and i'll show them i can relate and hopefully leave them with the warm feeling that someone cares.
Because i do.
 
SineWaveSoldier said:
I was just pointing out how easy it is in the one post. Make shit happen u know? Make connections. Don't be desperate. If you have some substance and personailty u can make some friends and make plans.
Be outgoing. I have a very calming demeanor. I'm easy to get along with and I go out of my way too meet new people. Its rewarding when i meet people like yourself and give them a chance and lend them an ear. I was very shy and depressed before and i look for people feeling down, especially in meetings, and i'll show them i can relate and hopefully leave them with the warm feeling that someone cares.
Because i do.
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Along these lines, mrflowers00, if you exercise compassion it will come back to you. It is not easy, but it is absolutely worth it. Compassion is the first step to a lasting and meaningful friendship. When I moved to Florida to get off drugs, I met a guy who had recently moved here from France--a normal guy who on the surface had very little in common with me... he was French, I was a weird American ex-junkie. He barely ever did drugs and when he did it was weed, not speedballs.

The first winter he was here he contracted tuberculosis. Apparently they don't vaccinate for it in Europe and he was coughing like, coffee mugs full of blood. Anyway, we worked together in a decent sized company with about 20 other people. The company closed for a week during the Christmas holiday and he was quarantined. I was the only person from the company to call him and see how he was doing. I wasn't allowed to visit him but he said the phone call alone really helped him while he was isolated in a foreign country with a deadly disease.

Today, almost five years later, he's my best friend.

If you make little efforts like that, they will come back to you. And if you're ever lonely, bluelight cares ;)
 
Yeah, I have to agree with two posters before me - to have friends you have to BE a friend. And it's a struggle, I know. I tend to do this myself - get lost in my cave and don't take the time to make a call and just say hi.

But, mrFlowers, I think your problem isn't people surrounding you but there seems to be some thought pattern YOU have to change first to see the change around you. It's just something I suspect on your BL posts, so don't take it as a definite thing, I might be wrong.

But anyway, the main thing I wanted to say and I will say it in all caps: BLUELIGHT IS A REAL PLACE. Dudes, do you understand how lucky we all are? We have this place where we can find people that click with us and who are awesome and are YOUR people, you know? No matter the distance. This, here, relationships I have found from BL are as real to me as my childhood best friend. Don't be so condescending about social media and such. It is a great gift and most importantly - it helps to find similar minds, similar souls and people WHO CARE.

And I promise you all the connections I make here are very real, the caring is very real. You, mrFlowers, got me caring about you the time you wanted to off yourself too (I had different username then). So, if you ever want to talk, I can listen. Even that whining and moaning "real" people rarely have patience to listen very long (mainly because it gets boring soon and they have their own shit to worry about - and you can't be mad at them cause of that). And then I will tell an inappropriate joke. Maybe.

But BL is a real place, we all can be dogs but at least some of us seems to be from the same species:) (OK, too deep, hitting publish now.)
 
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One more thing: if you find YOUR people, then you might be surprised that it isn't hard to make an effort and it doesn't even seem like an effort when it's the right kind of person. So I suggest you to just start connecting to people who might be someone YOU would like to be friends with. Wherever - blogs, BL, FB... I from time to time write random letters to strangers on FB and have gotten very many new cool acquaintances. And since I've been blogging like, forever, I can honestly say 99% of people in my close circle are people I know thanks to my blog.

Wise words: stop looking at strangers' party pictures, instead check out the comments and write the person you find interesting. Say "hi. You seem interesting." And let it go from there...
 
sine thats sick man, im happy for you. i bet your gonna kill it
its always a good feeling when you can follow your dream.

and hell yeah dude, ill have to catch one of your performances. rarely find a good dj anymore..

and yeah thats my look on life. if i can make one person happy, or help one person realize they're more than what they think....then i found my meaning. as gay as that sounds haha
 
opium said:
and yeah thats my look on life. if i can make one person happy, or help one person realize they're more than what they think....then i found my meaning. as gay as that sounds haha
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Nah, still not as gay as Twilight.

(Sorry, you are everywhere I look and I can't stop writing weirdness everywhere. But main thing: what you said is fundamental truth. And should be everyones philosophy in life.)
 
Until about 2 years ago I used to be surrounded by people, I have many pictures of me being with them in parties, we did so many things together, etc. Today it looks like that never happened. When I'm walking the streets and I see any of them in the distance I cross the street or do a 180 and turn back
 
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