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almost noone cares about me

mrflowers00

mrflowers00

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i can count on one hand the amount of people who really care about me and would do anything (in reason) for me i wish i had so true friends
 
My grandmother always used to tell me while she was still alive that it's much more valuable to have a few GOOD friends than several fair weather friends.

I believe that statement wholeheartedly.

When I used to have Facebook, I would see pictures of my "friends" (people who I haven't talked to in YEARS) in large groups of people drinking, partying, etc. How many of them actually have their back? How many of them would be there if something tragic were to happen in their personal life? Probably not that many.

I too can count on 1 hand how many true friends I have. I have several good acquaintances that I have share mindless chit chat and gossip with, but I have a few treasured ones who know me personally, have not left my side, and I would do the same for them hands down. And I TREASURE those close friends. I don't take them for granted. I do treasure my acquaintances also, but it's a totally different relationship than what I have with my close, treasured friends. I do not trust everyone and I just connect with certain people on a different level.

So Flowers, treasure those who you can count on one hand. As you stated they care about you and would do anything for you. That's an awesome thing to have and some people in life may never even have the opportunity to have what you currently do.
 
hthr007 said:
My grandmother always used to tell me while she was still alive that it's much more valuable to have a few GOOD friends than several fair weather friends.

I believe that statement wholeheartedly.

When I used to have Facebook, I would see pictures of my "friends" (people who I haven't talked to in YEARS) in large groups of people drinking, partying, etc. How many of them actually have their back? How many of them would be there if something tragic were to happen in their personal life? Probably not that many.

I too can count on 1 hand how many true friends I have. I have several good acquaintances that I have share mindless chit chat and gossip with, but I have a few treasured ones who know me personally, have not left my side, and I would do the same for them hands down. And I TREASURE those close friends. I don't take them for granted. I do treasure my acquaintances also, but it's a totally different relationship than what I have with my close, treasured friends. I do not trust everyone and I just connect with certain people on a different level.

So Flowers, treasure those who you can count on one hand. As you stated they care about you and would do anything for you. That's an awesome thing to have and some people in life may never even have the opportunity to have what you currently do.
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Excellent post!
 
hthr007 said:
My grandmother always used to tell me while she was still alive that it's much more valuable to have a few GOOD friends than several fair weather friends.

I believe that statement wholeheartedly.

When I used to have Facebook, I would see pictures of my "friends" (people who I haven't talked to in YEARS) in large groups of people drinking, partying, etc. How many of them actually have their back? How many of them would be there if something tragic were to happen in their personal life? Probably not that many.

I too can count on 1 hand how many true friends I have. I have several good acquaintances that I have share mindless chit chat and gossip with, but I have a few treasured ones who know me personally, have not left my side, and I would do the same for them hands down. And I TREASURE those close friends. I don't take them for granted. I do treasure my acquaintances also, but it's a totally different relationship than what I have with my close, treasured friends. I do not trust everyone and I just connect with certain people on a different level.

So Flowers, treasure those who you can count on one hand. As you stated they care about you and would do anything for you. That's an awesome thing to have and some people in life may never even have the opportunity to have what you currently do.
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I agree with this.

I have many acquaintances but few actual true friends, and I rarely see most of them since they live in other places or have moved.
 
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mrflowers00 said:
i have more people on bL that care about me than in real life
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Me too! I wish BL was a real place. But on a more serious note, I understand your pain. It sucks not having anybody around. I have maybe 1 person who really cares. Don't get too down tho, It's really easy to slip onto a slope of isolation. Trust me on that one, it can and will happen. I isolated myself for a long time, Heck, I still do. I've just gotten out of the house more often and have been doing shit, trying to meet people, not necessarily "future friends" but just normal, decent, human interaction. I am still far from a social butterfly, but at least I can talk to people without ( I was trying to think of the word to use here but I'm lost. I guess a good description would be anxiety and extreme paranoia mixed with a feeling of self disgust.) I'm still far from self-like, much less self love. I know it sounds corny but to make friends you need to be comfortable with YOU, people can sense that something is off about somebody who doesn't like themselves. I hope my point of view helped bring some insight on your issue.
 
I know how you feel. I have one real friend who I rarely see. I have squandered the rest. The only people who care about me are my mum and my brother. I just think that at least I have them and when I manage to sort myself out I will be able to make new friends then. Do you get out much or are you mostly staying indoors?

Sometimes I go so long without talking to anyone that I think I might not even remember how to interract normally. When I do, it all comes flooding back. Just give yourself time. When you are feeling better you will find it easier to make friends.
 
I have 0 real friends, more friends on BL than in life. It's fucked, sometimes bothers me but i'm a lone wolf anyway. I hate how some people just can't stand being alone with themselves, i take pride in it. Though a nice social life would benefit me.

Either way if you can count your good friends on one hand than you are doing a lot better than me. I have 3 family members, a gf and that's it, almost a hand but they are close relations not really friends.
 
mrflowers00 said:
i have more people on bL that care about me than in real life
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^ yup me 2 brother.. I got zip irl, sucks aSs.. Its a lonely life, that's for sure. It's why we talk so much in the other thread.. I could add more, but I'm feeling pretty pessimistic today, and don't want to come across as sounding encouraging of our othr threads topic.
 
Mr flowers someday we'll chill and have a beer

I have 0 real friends. I'm the dude someone above described, I'll be in a picture with 20 people partying and having a good time. But if I wrecked my car on the way home from that party, I could guarantee none of them would come help me.

Don't look for potential long lasting friendships, let it happen. Go out, enjoy yourself, and see what happens
 
I can't believe you last few guys really don't have anyone. Yall seem solid for real.
I've got about 4 or 5 people scattered up and down the east coast that have my back. Cause I've had theirs. Despite all the shit I have done whilst a drug addict I've been kind on the way.

This is a stretch cause I really don't know you guys. Maybe some of you cut people off before they have a chance. I mean I've got people but I've got a big heart and it's cost me in the past. I know how it is cutting people off before they get close to me. It is a rough world out there.

I still make new friends when old ones let me down though. Good lifelong friends I talked to one tonight. Can't give up on the human race cause of a few fuckups can we? :D
 
Your not the only one I just let 2 so called friends go(one for stealing from me the other one using me). I have one friend left. I'd rather have no company than bad company.
 
RobotRipping said:
I hate how some people just can't stand being alone with themselves, i take pride in it. Though a nice social life would benefit me.
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I use to feel the same way; it became a source of great pride and strength that I could be alone physically, emotionally and psychologically and feel content.

But spending 7 months on my own overseas not knowing a single person beyond those I meet for a day or two has changed my perspective on this and that pride has diminished, I guess I've come to realize that I do infact need friendship and intimacy to remind myself of my own humanity.
 
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