Misc been sober 1 year but plan to drink alcohol tomorrow, what should i expect?

[AlphaMethylPhenyl]

Make sure you don't drive tipsy. After not having booze for a year your tolerance may be a lot lower than you think.

 

[-Guido-]

i cant remember the last time i was sober this long, any precautions i should take?

Yeah, don't drink.

You still have substance abuse issues if you need alcohol in your system to see a girl.

This could turn into more drinking or an excuse to use harder drugs.

Some people can get away with a few drinks or a few pills and powder here and there but some of us can't because we enjoy the feeling too much. Accept that you are addict and stay sober.

 

[blight12]

i should of been more specific, i been sober from all drugs. alcohols always been my least favorite but im choosing alcohol becuause imo its one of the "softer drugs". my main drug of choice was cannabis(yes i was addicted to cannabis) also a lot of party stuff MDMA, ketamine lsd etc....long story short i got so bad i had to see a psychologist about my mental disorders caused from drugs, I'm better now and just wanted some advice on staying safe

While some posters here are giving you shit even though you didnt ask their opinion if you should drink or not, not to risk it would be wise i think based on what you said. Getting a confidence boost to speak to a girl is a common thing and how many shy drug users began their journey including myself (like anybody can say they havent done this).
At least you not doing meth or some shit eh. Also you dont enjoy it so i guess its safer and if it was your weakness then i would really recommend not doing it. I hate it but its a necessary evil for me right now. Stopping must be fuck hard, mostly due to the social ritual and lubrication aspect.

Also respect on abstaining and dood seriously if i could quit alcohol it would be the perfect opportunity to find a girl that respects that and sees it as a big plus like many good girls do and doesn't drink herself. Unless you dont want any good girls right now in which case remaining sober ensures you are clear headed and efficient in feeding her alcohol, spiked drinks and so forth to ensure you get your entitled reward with minimal talking/effort possible (which of course is not acceptable behavior so dont).

Personally i really dont like being around other people that are drunk especially family and GF's potentials, not sure why but it just feels like they become petty and annoying and retarded and i loose respect for them so i make sure to get equalized to make sure i keep my friends. Nothing more unattractive then a drunk girl you dont know well enough.

Its wierd but alcohol is such a shit drug only good for getting wasted every other day you dont have something better like meth (jk). Yeah i suck and so does everybody else here prob compared to you man. Keep fighting the good fight. The answer therefore is dont do it and make sure to let her know it makes you meet the folks, successful career, an amazing catch and better then the average scum type of chap and she better be on her best game tonight or you might loose interest and leave for your next date of the evening, number 5.

Oh and mods, can we please remove this non drug user form the forum. We don't need any government spies or other evil manifestations of authority here. You never know with those shifty sober people. Cant trust anybody that strong willed, almost like they have received "special training" of some kind. Exactly

 

[smokeymcpot42088]

you should expect a relapse, and to get drunk. *Warning you are probably not in fact smoother with the ladies after a couple of shots but if your confidence is higher it may outweigh the slur in your game and result in a net gain.

 

[rubenr4g]

While some posters here are giving you shit even though you didnt ask their opinion if you should drink or not, not to risk it would be wise i think based on what you said. Getting a confidence boost to speak to a girl is a common thing and how many shy drug users began their journey including myself (like anybody can say they havent done this).
At least you not doing meth or some shit eh. Also you dont enjoy it so i guess its safer and if it was your weakness then i would really recommend not doing it. I hate it but its a necessary evil for me right now. Stopping must be fuck hard, mostly due to the social ritual and lubrication aspect.

Also respect on abstaining and dood seriously if i could quit alcohol it would be the perfect opportunity to find a girl that respects that and sees it as a big plus like many good girls do and doesn't drink herself. Unless you dont want any good girls right now in which case remaining sober ensures you are clear headed and efficient in feeding her alcohol, spiked drinks and so forth to ensure you get your entitled reward with minimal talking/effort possible (which of course is not acceptable behavior so dont).

Personally i really dont like being around other people that are drunk especially family and GF's potentials, not sure why but it just feels like they become petty and annoying and retarded and i loose respect for them so i make sure to get equalized to make sure i keep my friends. Nothing more unattractive then a drunk girl you dont know well enough.

Its wierd but alcohol is such a shit drug only good for getting wasted every other day you dont have something better like meth (jk). Yeah i suck and so does everybody else here prob compared to you man. Keep fighting the good fight. The answer therefore is dont do it and make sure to let her know it makes you meet the folks, successful career, an amazing catch and better then the average scum type of chap and she better be on her best game tonight or you might loose interest and leave for your next date of the evening, number 5.

Oh and mods, can we please remove this non drug user form the forum. We don't need any government spies or other evil manifestations of authority here. You never know with those shifty sober people. Cant trust anybody that strong willed, almost like they have received "special training" of some kind. Exactly

wow i dont even know how to respond to this, it didn't make that much sense haha but ill try...1st i was sober for a year because my life had gone to shit because i was using drugs only to escape my problems and i realized how much of a shit person i had become. i almost literally almost died and if you're really that interested heres the full story i posted on the forums http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/threads/476274-MEGA-Cannabis-Quitting-Thread-aka-I-need-a-break/page46 its the second to last post on the bottom of the page.

 

[rubenr4g]

Yeah, don't drink.

You still have substance abuse issues if you need alcohol in your system to see a girl.

This could turn into more drinking or an excuse to use harder drugs.

Some people can get away with a few drinks or a few pills and powder here and there but some of us can't because we enjoy the feeling too much. Accept that you are addict and stay sober.

thanks guido helpful as always but as u know i came to these forums in the 1st place not to seek help with recreational drugs but for steroids...honestly the most important thing to me right now is building muscle and alcohol is very detrimental to the muscle building process so i will only drink if im out looking for girls(basically a weekend thing every once and a while) I haven't had sex in almost a year because of my recovery, im getting desperate, its no excuse but im a guy and im wiling to do almost whatever it is to get laid. as for harder drugs i dont see myself using them but its possible but doubtful

 

[rubenr4g]

as for the report on how things went, i drank and things went well i had a lot fun and ill be seeing her again soon. it feels nice to have women around me again, maybe i just cant find sober people my age. im 20 and it seems like everyone does drugs, regardless if they are new or old friends. if i have to drink or do drugs to have friends right now so be it, i made a very strong decision in life when i had my near death experience a few months ago, that i wasnt going to let fear control my life

 

[tokenname]

Oh and mods, can we please remove this non drug user form the forum... You never know with those shifty sober people.

lmao..

op..what are you gonna do now?
will you have to drink every time you're gonna be around this girl/any girl?
have you been to AA/NA meetings before? there must be
sober 20 year olds out there somewhere..

i think the previous posters concerns are valid..tho i completely can understand
the urge to drink for some relaxed confidence.
most of us know the serious work it takes to stay clean for a year..
and i think there's worry there because one night of drunk could absolutely
send you into relapse..
it's amazing how easily a couple drinks can make you forget all about why you decided to clean up
in the first place.
we've all seen it happen..just know that it's coming from a good place.

good luck.

 

[blight12]

thanks guido helpful as always but as u know i came to these forums in the 1st place not to seek help with recreational drugs but for steroids...honestly the most important thing to me right now is building muscle and alcohol is very detrimental to the muscle building process so i will only drink if im out looking for girls(basically a weekend thing every once and a while) I haven't had sex in almost a year because of my recovery, im getting desperate, its no excuse but im a guy and im wiling to do almost whatever it is to get laid. as for harder drugs i dont see myself using them but its possible but doubtful

No stress, just high and need to write anything, not sure if it makes sense or not.

I wouldnt feel to bad about the sex thing, sounds to me like you made a good sacrifice to improve your life so all good.

I think a bit differently to other people but I have not had sex for 6 years so that should make you feel a bit better.
Reason being i believe in sacrifice to gain anything of worth so i sacrificed girls, dating and sex to focus on building an internet business that ran itself so i could travel and support myself etc, not a big issue since 0 sex drive form ssris. 6 years later thats done and its great but i still dont get any anyways since i have no idea how to court almost 30 yo girls instead of high school hotties. Or perhaps i dont need to change...hmmm. Guess it was just an excuse, who knows.

Anyways why not resolve the issue by educating yourself on the topic, get into the nlp/PUA stuff if you must, anything but the drink which just makes you act retarded and strike out anyway but at least you can blame it on the booze so yeah.

ill check your story man, good luck.

 

[Jabberwocky]

oh the slippery slope of drinking alcohol. the gateway drug for sure. it's what caused me to relapse over, and over and over and over and... you get the message.

so now you're saying after a year of being sober you're turning back to drugs? see what alcohol does?

i'm completely unjudgemental as i'm a drug addict, and if i ever quit i will always be in recovery but you've fucked yourself over big time here. yesterday it was alcohol. the next time its binge drinking. the time after that it's cocaine because you're intoxicated and you've lost your inhibitions to control yourself. then it's withdrawal time! and oh boy is that fun - better get some xanax to control that or even better, some opiates! ah shit, i'll have a nap now. wake up, depressed, craving, tired, withdrawing, better get some stimulants to get your mood up otherwise you'll be like this for the rest of your life eh?

i'm not saying that will happen to you. it happened to me. many times. good old hangovers and next day depression after a good old binge drink.

you're so lucky and determined you can manage a year of sobriety. why you fucked it up is beyond me, but good luck to ya.

 

[Effuzion]

I was in a really similar situation. I went 6 months without touching anything before I got drunk, and in the 6 months since I started drinking again I haven't touched anything else except caffeine, a small amount of painkillers on two separate occasions and MXE on two more occasions. Reason I started drinking was the same as you: I wanted to go out and meet girls. So far it's been nothing but positive and hasn't affected my life at all other than a few hangovers on days where I wasn't doing anything anyway. Only thing I would have done differently is I would have drank a few times before I went out to meet girls. Something like 1-2 beers with friends a few times before I went out into the real world just so my tolerance wasn't so terrible. The first couple times I drank I got hammered and didn't exactly make a good impression on anyone.

I think you'll be fine. I was a little nervous the first couple times I drank (oh my god what if this sets me off and I go score some dope!) but that went away quick. You know why you're doing what you're doing, and as long as your motive for drinking is to have a good time it's hard to cross that line into abuse. I guess it could get to the point where you choose drinking over your other responsibilities, but that can happen with anything. You could choose to watch TV instead of go to work. That doesn't mean you should never watch TV.

By the way, you said you like to work out, so don't go out drinking the same night you have a hard workout. You will be sooooooooooore the next couple days. I read it has something to do with alcohol being absorbed before food so your muscles don't get the calories when they need them most coupled with the lack of quality sleep you get after a night of drinking. Anyway, I just did this on Friday, and it sucks ass. Still sore today and I never get sore anymore.

 

[brutus]

as for the report on how things went, i drank and things went well i had a lot fun and ill be seeing her again soon. it feels nice to have women around me again, maybe i just cant find sober people my age. im 20 and it seems like everyone does drugs, regardless if they are new or old friends. if i have to drink or do drugs to have friends right now so be it, i made a very strong decision in life when i had my near death experience a few months ago, that i wasnt going to let fear control my life

There are sober 20 year olds out there man, but rationalize your drug use however you want.

 

[Effuzion]

There are sober 20 year olds out there man, but rationalize your drug use however you want.

Not trying to stick up for this guy or anything because I don't know anything about him, but let's be real here: sober 20 year olds are either the nerdiest of the nerds (people who have never experimented) or the craziest of the crazy (people who fucked up so bad that they have to be sober before they can legally drink). If there's a chance that you can hang out with normal, non-AA people and do normal things, you should go for it. I'm not trying to diminish the importance of sobriety for those whose lives really depend on staying sober: sobriety is better than a life of addiction if those are your only two choices. But even an addict would admit that they would drink/use responsibly if they could. OP thinks he can use responsibly, I say go for it. He'll find out pretty quickly if he can't.

 

[Thomas29]

I say go for it and just be careful like others have already said lol.

 

[rubenr4g]

see my reasoning for even trying drugs again is just to see if i could handle altered states of mind anymore. i plan to take steroids soon and how could i expect to inject powerful steroids and hormones into myself if i cant even handle a few drinks? being able to drink and loosen up to talk to the ladies is just a bonus for me, not something i plan to abuse

 

[xxxyyy]

i'm not exactly sure those two things compare. at all.

 

[mrflowers00]

i wouldn't give up on all that hard work just for some fake courage when you could be working on getting real courage to really impress a girl

 

[rubenr4g]

i'm not exactly sure those two things compare. at all.

they're both drugs though....

 

[rubenr4g]

i wouldn't give up on all that hard work just for some fake courage when you could be working on getting real courage to really impress a girl

the damage is done, i drank and i honestly don't plan on drinking for quite a while again(3-4 weeks) till my next outing....real courage? im an awkward fuck lol drugs loosen me up and let me talk instead of being really shy and quite

 

[chrisalt]

Rule number one is take it slow. After your first drink gauge how you feel when it kicks in and the proceed from there.